Post Edited (july66) : 7/30/2009 2:33:26 PM (GMT-6)
I just met you in chat.......yup that was me that popped in. Welcome to the forum. It is good to have you with us.
I would like to suggest if you feel your husband is up to something the best approach is to tell him the truth in a nonthreatening way just in case you are wrong and you do want to give him the benefit of the doubt. It may be nothing. It does seem to be that you have some cause to wonder and the best way to get past your thoughts is to ask him straight forward. No guessing games that way.
I cannot vote in the poll as I do not think your health issues are a cause for him to be seeing someone. It is not your behavior that is a problem here. I would keep in mind that you must make a decision to act in one way or another if he is seeing someone else.
I hope that you can get through this tough issue and that you have a good support network. We are here for you so please do lean on us.
Gentle Hugs to you
I think it sounds like a positive step for you to see a therapist for yourself. Someone that is there just for you. You can talk about your fears and your anxieties and learn ways to cope. I believe strongly in counseling.
Your husband refusing to discuss your concerns and issues is not helping your anxiety. I would definitely look at getting help for you.
I'm waiting for my schedule from work so I can make an appointment with a counselor. I can not go another day without sleep. My husband got a phone call at 3 am this morning and had to leave on an emergency service call. I know it's his job and all, but...... Last night he went to bed first and I got the kids ready then I went to bed, as I entered the bedroom I heard him say 'gotta go', I then replied 'gotta go where?' and he didn't answer. When I confronted him about it he said he must've been dreaming.
His cell phone is always on his bedstand.
He is still working 12 hours later and won't cancel his Friday afternoon at the place she works. So by the time he gets home he will have put in 17 or 18 hours. He does not have to deal with her because of his job but he makes it a point to. My suggestion to him was to only deal with the owner, but apparently the owner isn't there on Fridays, and what? he can't pick another day, apparently not.
This is one of the jokes she sent him just recently even after he supposedly told her not to text him anymore(day before my birthday): " I knew you would flip open your phone for me. Who's my b-i-t-c-h? You are! Have a good day!"
Funny JOKE huh?
Thanks all for listening! I appreciate it. It helps to get some of this out. I have read on the internet that some forms of texting can be considered cheating also. Maybe I should quit reading.