First off, welcome to Healing Well! I'm wondering whether your boyfriend has had his thyroid checked. I get really, really depressed in the morning due to hypothyroidism. Now I take Synthroid & that has changed my life. It may be that for some reason mornings are just really depressing for him, but since that can be an indication of thyroid problems, it may be worth getting that tested (it is a quick blood test that any PCP can test for).
I would say that if he can't get his temper under control, that you may want to hold off on the marriage. If it is already a concern for you now, imagine being with him watching him get furious for the next 50 years of your life. It's just not worth it. There are some people who show their depression by being angry, but anger & depression do not automatically go together. It sounds like he may need some kind of help. If he is willing to get counseling or anger management classes or something like that & they help, then great, but it has to be his decision.
Take care of yourself & keep posting! I'm sure the other members will be along shortly to welcome you as well.
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Post Edited (Frances_2008) : 8/2/2009 4:13:52 PM (GMT-6)