First of all, I am sorry to hear what you and your wife are going trough. The real problem with depression is that there isn't a medicine for it, or a cure that will always work. It is different for everyone, and therefore it is hard to know what the right thing to do is. Personally, I would prefer someone to accept what I am going trough. I mean, someone saying "Hee, I love you and want you to be better!" isn't really helpful. I still believe that people who are depressed want to get out of it
(not a very odd assumption I hope). So telling them to get out whilst they are trying isn't a good thing to do in my opinion. However, showing that you care about
that and are willing to help them in their quest to get out is a helpful thing.
So, showing her that you care by trying to as supportive as you can be, whilst accepting the situation she is in, would be my advise. However, I must warn you I am a 19-year-old guy so not really comparable to your wife
. Maybe she is totally different. Though genuine love (in: wanting the best for her) is never a bad thing.
Take care my friend!
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Post Edited (enWayen) : 8/24/2009 10:59:04 AM (GMT-6)