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Mazfire
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   Posted 9/5/2009 4:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jamie,
 
its your fellow countrywoman here- I was wondering, if you wouldnt mind, explaining to me exactly what Borderline Personality Disorder is. Ive heard the term but never met anyone with it and am curious as to how it differs from other mental conditions- You say in your signature that your case is severe- id like to be more educated so I can help and understand your specific issues better, and anyone else i meet who has the condition. If you are uncomfortable discussing it here on the board, my email is open.
 
Thanks so much mate (Go Carlton!)
 
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stkitt
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   Posted 9/5/2009 7:13 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Maz,

Hello and I am not Jamie but I am sure he will be along to put it in his own words.   I have a friend with this disorder and it is one of the toughest mental health disorders to learning to deal with.

Borderline personality disorder can be a distressing medical condition, both for the people who have it and for those around them. When you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you have difficulty controlling your emotions and are often in a state of upheaval — perhaps as a result of harmful childhood experiences or brain dysfunction.

With borderline personality disorder your image of yourself is distorted, making you feel worthless and fundamentally flawed. Your anger, impulsivity and frequent mood swings may push others away, even though you yearn for loving relationships.

Increasing awareness and research are helping improve the treatment and understanding of borderline personality disorder. Emerging evidence indicates that people with borderline personality disorder often get better over time and that they can live happy, peaceful lives.

Jamie can fill you in on how well he has dealt with this disorder. :-) He is an awesome example of how successfully someone with BPD can live a good life and be happy.

Living with borderline personality disorder can be difficult. You may realize your behaviors and thoughts are self-destructive or damaging yet feel unable to control them. Treatment can help you learn skills to manage and cope with your condition.

Other things you can do to help manage your condition and feel better about yourself include:

  • Sticking to your treatment plan
  • Attending all therapy sessions
  • Practicing healthy ways to ease painful emotions, rather than inflicting self-injury
  • Not blaming yourself for having the disorder but recognizing your responsibility to get it treated
  • Learning what things may trigger angry outbursts or impulsive behavior
  • Not being embarrassed by the condition
  • Getting treatment for related problems, such as substance abuse
  • Educating yourself about the disorder so that you understand its causes and treatments
  • Reaching out to others with the disorder to share insights and experiences

Remember, there's no one right path to recovery from BPD. The condition seems to be worse in young adulthood and may gradually get better with age. Many people with the disorder find greater stability in their lives during their 30s and 40s. As your inner misery decreases, you can go on to sustain loving relationships and enjoy meaningful careers. Reference: Mayo Staff

Jamie is our shining star............go Jamie.

Hugs to both of you,

Kitt


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/5/2009 11:49 PM (GMT -7)   
hi maz, thx kitt for the overveiw, you did well. i will break it down into chunks, first, getting dx.
 
1 the disgnosis.
 
it took about 6 yrs for the diagnosis of spbd. first of i had a dx of schizo-affective disorder with borderline and dependnt traits in my personality. yes, the dx is as a result of massive childhood trauma, the physical and mental i remember, although around 4 yrs ago i was in hospital when my shrink pushed me to remember painful stuff then the memory of me being s.a. came out, thus my dx is from a sequale of child abuse. i was tortured, and had to work making light-fightings after school and on the week-ends. was a very unwell young man, went to a community school, was a bully myself, i learnt that to survive you have to show people this by hurting them. obviously much more, but i think this reflective.
 
 
i received a dx of severe borderline personality disorder by all paths of self-harm, hopefully my tact here is reflected and understood. thus respecting thre rules and young members.
severe problems with authority ensued also, severe borderlines are cunning manipulators, we are very needy as well, we are in need of confirmation of our unwellness a lot, severe borderlines disassociate, in all areas, we hear voices, are enraged easily, have disturbances in thought, engage in very risky relationships and addictive behaviours as well. obviously all forms of constant self-harm are apparent, constant hospitalisations, we are very depressed, we withdraw immensly, become psychotic quickly, for me it was hand gestures and very violent rocking and intense verbalisations.
 
 
treatment, psycho-social rehabilitation, first i did a six month inpatient stay at Spectrum, with intense cognitive, mindfulness, and meditative training with a major emphasison self-development within a community via adopting the very effective principals and practices of Dialectic Behavioral Therapy. also i engaged in psych-social therapy within my community, albeit it was not as successful as the inpatient prrogram. yes medication, medication, yrs of psychiatric counselling, hospitalisations, ECT, and a shrink whom nearly gave up on me, is how i got to where i am now. better. obviously i have left out the in betweens, although i think i have posted the relevant bits in the past.
 
yeah i still am living with this, why because some of the key attributes are taking awhile to leave me. that's how spbd works, some areas are good to ok, whilst others are poor to bad. it is a rotating disorder. my dx is also conditionaly proven to be genetically predisposed, my father had a dx of schizophrenia, as i have in the past, thus this condition is here to stay.......as it has, but i mange it, alike my diabetes and cholesterol. massive family history of 3 brothers for no apparent reason found themselves, at seperate times in heaven due to their own device. SBPD is known as the TO HARD BASKET OF PSYCHIATRIC DISORDERS, and yes it is now known as a psychiatric condition/mental illness, as in the past it was known to be a personality disorder not recognised as a dx of a mental illness. glad that has changed.
 
it effects more women in australia, 2% and 1 % of males, me. Very hard to dx, takes time, very differnet from a dx of schizo-affective and or dchizophrenia, yes it is the difference between them both -some say, i agree, but it is the affective part of schizo, psychotic rather than depressive who will then possibly receive a dx of sbpd.
 hope this helps.
 jamie
 
 

Mazfire
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   Posted 9/6/2009 12:01 AM (GMT -7)   

Jamie i have nothing but the utmost respect for you. Thankyou for sharing your experience with me. I saw the movie 'Girl Interrupted' with Angelina Jolie and Winona Ryder many years ago and Winona's character is hospitalised with BPD. I always wondered exactly what that meant and how the symptoms manifest themselves.

I admire you so much for your incredibly positive attitude and your generousity of spirit. Thanks for breaking this down for me, I want to understand the conditions that I have not been personally exposed to. One side of my family have a strong history of Bi-Polar and paranoid schizophrenia and Im blessed that i only got the Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia. You are one strong individual. Take my hat off to you mate, no one should have to go through what you have been through.

Love and blessings always,

Maz XX


 Co-Moderator Anxiety & Panic- Depression
 
" Why does society view illness as weakness?" (Montell Jordan)
 'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)
-DX:Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, CFS, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Sinusitis, TMJ, Endometriosis,PCOS, Reactive Arthritis, Anemia, Chemical/Noise/Light sensitivity, Trichotilomania, OCD, SMD. GERD, IBS.
-Meds: Zoloft 150mg. Xanax 4mg. Prescription pain meds/anti inflammatories.
-Multiple surgeries- I bear the scars of my poor physical health.
-Age:29. AP first DX @ 10. Fibro etc DX @14.
 
 


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/6/2009 12:12 AM (GMT -7)   
thx maz. bad luck for the blues. cheers, jamie smurf

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/6/2009 2:46 AM (GMT -7)   
p.s. i find that this disorder is somewhat reflective of me, in the quirky sense that this. and because 'apparently" smilewinkgrin   borderlines are known to be extremely anayltical, this i am, also just as much when i am unwell. oh, did i mention that borderlines will challenge anything that is not right and or will challenge to win, but to never save face!! also in the psych world it is a known key fact that borderlines do better outside of hospital.....yes there are times when borderlines do need hospitalisation, and they are extremely saavy when it comes to intervening on there own behalf as well, and here are times, esp within extreme psychosis that we do not know what we are doing. cheers, jamie

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/7/2009 8:17 AM (GMT -7)   
maz u are inspirational to my aussie compardre!!! if okay i too would like to know about your experiences with agrophobia. still ever learning, if i stop then i must have really died!! idea

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/9/2009 3:05 AM (GMT -7)   
p.s. this disorder sucks, albeit i would be lost without it. sounds stupid i know, not a thing of learnd helplessness etc, more of a continued and developing of why i am who i am, i suppose. since i really do not like using the word "normal" this is mine. just a unique individual of this earth with gifts and talents unique only to me!! geez, i have just practiced what i have been preaching!!! idea thanks for listening. cheers, jamie

Aurora60
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   Posted 9/9/2009 7:22 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Jamiee, Thank you so much for your reply to my post and for your support.  I am continuing to improve slowly, but steady.  I think you are a very strong person and I wish you the best with your treatments. keep your good attitude and know you are also in my thoughts and prayers.  Take good care of yourself.

Many hugs,

Aurora


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/9/2009 11:52 AM (GMT -7)   
and many more to you my dear friend. keep well, you are in my thoughts and prayers. jamie
 
(((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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   Posted 9/9/2009 12:04 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Jamie, It's Gem......

I have been missing you lately.  Been really busy at work, not much time to chat up my people.  Hope you are doing OK.......Having kinda of a downer day, but they have been few and far between lately, thank goodness.  So when you read this, please send me some enlightenment my way.  You always cheer me up............


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/9/2009 6:53 PM (GMT -7)   
am sore my dear precious. just hard 2 more teeth out. okay some enlightenment...............you are precious as the rarest gem, your prism is your truth in many shades, and as the sun hits your prism you energise with hope and shed positive beams in many directions and to many people.........but remember in the core of your prism hides a heart that beats a radiance and receives the highest of attunement.......because your prism only receives the purest of light, thus what you put out you receive 10 fold. enlighten your prism with the light of the universe's love, for your prism is a enlightened place, and this place is your precious heart.
 
with enlightened compassion, many many good days await. keep positive. me. aka, jamie :-)

Precious Gem
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   Posted 9/10/2009 4:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I will print that post off and always keep it forever and ever!  That was so beautiful, thank you so much.  Did God put you here to help me see how good I can be?  I think so.
 
Hope your dental work feels better today.  I do not like going to the dentist, they always hurt me.  I get fearful just setting in the lobby.  I think it is the smell of ether! ha ha
 
Today is a sunnier day and also I am a big football fan, regular season starts tonight and my Steelers are playing.  I have been a Steelers fan since I was a little kid (my father was a sports nut that had 3 girls).
 
Have a great day Jamie and thanks again. turn
 
Gem

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/10/2009 5:25 AM (GMT -7)   
your welcome. just a bloke trying to practice compassion. go steelers!! hope they get up 4 you. jamie. pain gone, some more extractions, then will be getting ready for the partial denture. have a good one.

Precious Gem
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   Posted 9/10/2009 5:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Then you will be a bloke with a beautiful smile!  Let that inner beauty shine out into the world.  I had to have all my front teeth capped last summer, it was an unpleasant experience but the end result made me feel so much better about myself and not afraid to smile.  Chat me up later.......
Gem
 
 

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/10/2009 6:02 AM (GMT -7)   
okay. be good!!!!!!! smilewinkgrin

getting by
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   Posted 9/10/2009 12:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Beautiful thread,

I love how you guys are supporting eachother.

Have a wonderful day

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/10/2009 7:28 PM (GMT -7)   
YOU TO KAREN. jamie. tongue

Precious Gem
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   Posted 9/11/2009 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   

Ditto!  Karens my go to girl for hugs.

Gem


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/12/2009 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
for you both. (((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
 
jamie smurf

Precious Gem
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   Posted 9/14/2009 4:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Hugs are great first thing on Monday morning!

Thanks

Gem


stkitt
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   Posted 9/14/2009 6:12 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello all,  I have given out 1 trillion hugs and I have received so much more in return. (((((Hugs)))))

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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/15/2009 1:26 AM (GMT -7)   
straight back at ya kitt. jamie
 
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