I have made a HUGE mistake.

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   Posted 9/6/2009 1:37 PM (GMT -6)   

Post Edited (xela) : 5/18/2010 12:46:46 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/6/2009 2:13 PM (GMT -6)   
im so sorry you are going through this, but first thing you probably should do is to own up to your mistakes. you will continue to feel guilty unless you come clean, but when you do make sure you prepare yourself for the consequences to. we all make mistakes, sometimes mistakes that hurt others but when we make a mistake we do have to take ownership in what we have done and learn from them. Second you may want to get counseling cause it does sound like you are depressed and there is treatment for that. i hope that i dont come off as being mean or judgemental because that is not my intention at all, i am just trying to be helpful.

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   Posted 9/6/2009 5:10 PM (GMT -6)   


I just reread some of your other posts and it does feel to me like you would really benefit from counseling.

Your life seems to be out of control and you may be acting out to get the attention you want and desire.

Cheating is such ugly business! It never ends well because no matter how it plays out somebody carries the burden of what happened. That is why I am strongly suggesting you consider counseling as you need to figure out what is good for you right now and start to heal yourself.

From reading back I see you were having issues with this boyfriend and the best thing may be for you to go your separate ways. You're not a terrible person, but you are a human person.

The only fair and right thing to do  is to tell your boyfriend but that is just my opinion.  I wish you well.



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Post Edited (stkitt) : 9/7/2009 8:30:35 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/7/2009 9:04 AM (GMT -6)   
hi jamie here, yeah, mere male! it is best, i feel that he finds out from you. you are not a bad person, things happen, but to effectively move on, from him and for yourself i do suggest the above. look after you. with compassion. jamie
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