me<3, Just wanted you to know I saw your thread and wanted to let you know you are not alone. Since it is afternoon there are not many people on the forum at this time. Please don't be discouraged by others not answering you. I am sure a moderator will come on and try to help you. It would be a big help if you could give more information on your situation such as why you feel such guilt and shame. It is easier to provide an answer if you can elaborate on your problems. For instance why is your spouse so angry? I am sure you are having a lot of stress with 4 children. Do you run a daycare business? You mentioned daycare. I just wanted to let you know that someone cares about you and what you are going through. I don't feel I am in a position at this time to give you the answers you are looking for as I am not a moderator and I am not feeling my best. But know that others will help you. In the meantime please take comfort in knowing I offer my support and will be glad to help you more if you can explain what you are going through more thoroughly. Take care and I know you will find some answers here. This is a very caring and supportive group. I have made wonderful friends here and they are like family.
You're feelings are worthy. Men react to things differently than women. I know this does not help but your post reminded me of some of the fights my husband and I have had over the years. We have now been married 26 years. I wish I knew what to tell you, I can not even remember how I got through some of the crap that went on with us, but I do remember how bad it made me feel sometimes. I hope the two of you can find a common ground, where you can resolve your problems of the past and make plans for a bright future together, if that is what the two of you want. If I remember correctly, you got together at a very young age, is that right? I know alot of couples that married young, hit about 30-35 yrs old and started thinking if they did the right thing. Personally, I did not get married until I was 25, I lived it up for a while, then got serious, we still have had our share of problems, all relationships do, but we have remained together through it all.
I hope you are feeling better soon.
Wow! Now that is some forward thinking girl! Sometimes we do not even need any feed back, just vent and know someone is listening. If he loves you and has stayed with you and the kids that says volumes. I know when couples fight and things get blown out of porportion, everything seems worse. My hope for you is that you two can put it all behind you and be thankful and grateful for the life you do have.
Thanks. It has been a long time coming. But I have felt better lately than I have in a long time. I remember having such horrible days and someone here would say just what I needed to hear at that moment and I would have a whole change of attitude. I just hope I can do the same for someone.