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MichaelD93
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   Posted 9/10/2009 4:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Today,
 
 
      i just got off the phone with her. she said that she is going to sleep because she is tired, she sounds tired and then when she does something like that she goes off somewhere like "going running" which i still find odd. i asked her if she could call me if she decides to go somewhere. she says why would i do that? i told her because i would just like to know and she says why do you want to know where i am. i just said because i do and always have, and so have you. and then she says fine whatever. and says goodbye, i love you. really quick and hangs up before i could say anything back to her. it upsets me when she does that. sad  
i love her so much i cant let her go. i just cant. i have been hurt so many times i cant handle another long relationship break up again. i didnt know what to do if she decides to not get back with me. but she promised we will be together, she just doesn't know when.   last night she told me "if I'm not ready to go back out with you, will you still be my friend?" i said yes, (quietly). she said she is sorry that it's like this. and she wants to be with me. the part i dont understand is that if she wants to be with me. why isnt she??? another part is that. when we became engaged. she asked me to marry her.
 
im tryng so hard to keep her with me. i love her with all my heart. i dont know what i would do without her. i cant take another brake-up.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/10/2009 8:03 PM (GMT -7)   
You are sixteen correct? I'm sorry but right now you have a long time before marriage. It is hard as an adult to be married let alone a teen. I highly recommend you get to know who you want to be and go to school before marriage. This girl is no where near ready for a committment let alone marriage.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


MichaelD93
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   Posted 9/10/2009 9:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes, I'm sixteen. we decided to wait until after school to get married. we are just engaged.  but thanks for letting me know other opinions.
worriedgirl said...
You are sixteen correct? I'm sorry but right now you have a long time before marriage. It is hard as an adult to be married let alone a teen. I highly recommend you get to know who you want to be and go to school before marriage. This girl is no where near ready for a committment let alone marriage.


worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/11/2009 3:17 AM (GMT -7)   
im sorry if i came off harsh, i wasnt trying to. i am just worried about you. i dont want anyone, let alone a sweet sixteen year old, hurt. I honestly feel from your posts that this girl has alot of growing up to do and that maybe she doesnt feel as strongly for you as you do for her. i hope i am wrong and that she does love you like she says. you are a sweet boy and any girl would be lucky to have you.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are


Angel_Who_Cares
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   Posted 9/11/2009 4:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Micheal,

I completely understand what you are going through... but love is not what you think it is. Love is not about possession. Let her go, if she wants to. Love is about freedom. The thing that you are feeling is insecurity and insecure person is not in the right place to love. Love is very profound. And I really don't want to be preachy, but kid, please know what it is like to love yourself and then go for loving others. Love will follow you, if you are friends with yourself, believe me.

Angel.
Everything is well in the end. If it is not well, it's not the end!


stkitt
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   Posted 9/11/2009 6:58 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry for all the turmoil you are going through but at this point I would really like to encourage you to seek out professional help.
 
I know it is hard to be a teen as it is often hard to be any age but it feels to me like you are truly in need of some one on one counseling.
 
I would also like to see you talking with your parents. 
 
Please do seek help for your problems.  We are a peer support group but we are not professionals. 
 
I wish  you peace and happiness,
 
Kitt
 
 
 

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