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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 9/15/2009 3:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont know where else to turn.... so I thought I would turn to my HW family for some support..
 
I have started college and I love going to class.... but, I am so overhwelmed with things. Class...people...relationships. I see everyone else having such a good time with friends and Im all alone. I really cant explain everything right now I have a class in a minute...
 
But, I can think of a ton of things I have going for me and its just enough to keep me going... However, I am slipping further and further so I dont know how much longer that list will hold. I dont see my psych until next Thurs..and my therapist next Friday... I try talking to friends...but I feel all alone in this.....
 
I will explain more later, Im using the teachers computer in my class and its about to start so... thanks!
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   Posted 9/15/2009 5:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Christi,

Maybe you aren't doing the right things to fullfill yourself. I know that you have a newfound relationship and a new life on the way. Plus school and your volunteer work. I don't see where you have any gaps to feel unfulfilled. So something you are doing you aren't happy with. You say that you love shcool and volunteering, so maybe you need to change your social life. I honestly don't see where you have time for a social life with all that you are doing. I am sure that you have homework and studying, where do you find time to even socialize? Maybe that is what is bugging you. Maybe you don't have enough time for your friends and need more.

I really am not sure what to say, I guess I don't understand it all as you didn't have the time to elaborate. I hope that you feel better soon. Try to hang on until you see your pdoc. And then it wont be long before you see your therapist. I hope that you have been open with her so that she can help you.

Best wishes,

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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 9/15/2009 7:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Okay, I will take some time to elaborate more.

Your right. I dont socialize, period. At all. Not because I dont have time, because I just cant seem to make friends with people. I smile, Im friendly...I am like the most caring person ever, yet these days that doesnt seem to be enough. I was introduced to a girl whom I really liked and we hung out, of course I blew it cause I wasnt myself and didnt say much and she just wants to be friends. Even though I REALLY like her. That pretty much broke my heart. My ex whom I sparked yet another relationship with a few weeks ago suddening stopped talking to me and I just found out she went back to her former abusive girlfriend. I seriously dont know whether to laugh or cry... I dont understand why people are the way they are... I would be friends with myself and date myself if I could... I dont want to brag, but Im a catch! But, for some reason Im invisible and noone sees me or wants to have anything to do with me.

My friend whom I talked a lot about (they gay guy) has moved on and has all new friends. I seen him today and he totally ignored me. Never talks to me anymore. I have a total of 3 friends whom I talk to and see occasionally. Then, I have the pregnant lazy girl who gets angry with me when I dont do every little thing for her.

I just really dont get it. I thought this whole college thing would help me being around new people making new friends.... but its just worse because now I am all alone everywhere I go. I sit alone. I eat alone. I read alone... I walk around alone. I watch everyone else interacting with people and talking and laughing and its like I am not capable of that at all. I cant seem to understand that at all.

I dont know what is wrong with me. Ive just become this invisible nobody. No one sees me. No one hears me. No one cares for my presence. Im just nothing really. Just matter taking up space...

I cant focus in class anymore. I loved class to begin with. I now hate my chemistry, sociology, chem lab, and history. The only one I like is English, only because I have become good friends with my professor through facebook... so she sees me! Thats the only time I feel like I am not invisible. School is so lonely. So quiet.

I seem to just not care for anything anymore. I have been putting up with things for so long and I am about to explode. I cant handle my friend complaining to me about doing something when I do everything for her and everything for her son. Im a really good person and yet no one knows it... no one gives me a chance. Because I am invisible. I cant take going to class and seeing everyone making friends and socializing while I sit there in silence. I just hate all of it really...

Also, my meds.... strike three I suppose. Obviously its NOT working... I dont know why I ever thought it would. I dont think I will ever feel better. I just continue to suffer thinking there is hope and it just never comes. I have so much going for me though... my family, my FEW friends, that little boy, the unborn baby, school, a career, Im smart, Im caring, I'd do anything for another person, I want my own family someday, etc.... I have so many things to live for ya know... But things just keep getting worse. And slowly my list is starting to be less and less important compared to the amount of mental pain I am feeling. I just need to feel something.

Ive tried talking to my friends. One really isnt sure what to say but cares... the other is in the same boat as I am therefore she has no idea how to help. I dont like to talk about how I feel. AT ALL. Im so scared to tell anyone about it. I have been honest with my therapist, but I havent told her everything. I just havent developed that trust for her. Something about her is more of a joke than serious to me. However, I trust my pdoc more... I just never know what to say to him... Last time I even mentioned something bad I had to sign a safety thing.... I am afraid of what might happen if I tell them the whole truth... ya know...

Well, I hope that was enough info to go on... I could talk all night about everything bothering me.. but thats good enough... I have to go to the hospital in the morning, last week I left there crying and had a panic attack(thats a story in itself) An older lady I was working with made me cry. She kept asking why I didnt really do anything when I was young and healthy, she got kinda angry. And all my ears heard was "your worthless"... I couldnt explain to her that I had Fibro and couldnt help that much.... So, I cried and ran out... then had a horrible panic attack... so, I hope this week is better....
Lyrica (15 months-quit Feb. 09), Paxil (10 months-quit 6-4-09), Cymbalta 6-6-09(horrible effects), Prozac (July 09), Rozerem, Melatonin  Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-in therapy-pdoc-therapist: dx'ed with Dysthymia
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
   


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   Posted 9/15/2009 8:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Your one friend sounds very selfish Christi. This could be a toxic relationship for you. And I am dead serious. It doesn't sound like she respects you at all. And you deserve better. You are a good person and you are not invisible. You will meet more people. School has just started and there is a lot of time left. I truly wish you would think twice about this relationship with the one friend though. This is not fair to you at all. Who wants to be around somebody who yells at them all the time? Not me, and I hope not you. I know that you have reasons that you stick by her, but you don't need her. Remember that.

I truly hope that you feel better. Remember that you can always email me if you feel like it. I am always there for you.

Don't give up yet. But I really think that if you distance yourself from this person, you will be alot happier.

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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/16/2009 1:28 AM (GMT -7)   
be you. and then people will see you. jamie. hoping you feel better soon. be positive, the academic world is a different kettle of fish, keep swimming-then soon you will be caught. parden the pun. with compassion. jamie

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   Posted 9/20/2009 4:28 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello Christi

Keep on talking to us as I know that usually helps you.

I am with you on the meds right now as I am starting back on my med starting tomorrow.

Gentle Hugs to you and know your family is here to support you and to just listen.

Hugs

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   Posted 9/20/2009 11:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tennis,

It can suck at school seeing all of the people clique together. I felt like an outsider in college, but I realized it wasn't because of anything wrong with me, but that I just loathed the whole packaged "college experience." I did, however, after about a year, find new friends via my interest in writing. You said you like English, so possibly you may find some people with some depth that notice you if you advance through writing classes. Stay in the present and pursue whatever subject(s) you like in college - those are the ones that will fulfill you in the way that career stability and accompanying wealth may not.
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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 9/23/2009 7:44 PM (GMT -7)   

I hate my absence from you guys... I like coming here as I know you all are here for me and understand more than most people.

Heres an update so-to-speak:

School is still okay... I suppose I have made 2 friends... my lab partner and the girl I had a crush on.. (we decided to be friends after an unexpected turn of events). On Saturdays I have a few friends who come over to watch the ball game and last Saturday another good friend of mine told me that she liked me ALOT and has for a long time.. my friends whom I were with had known for months about it... I cant believe I didnt catch on.. so anyways. I was torn between the hirl at school and my friend. I decided I wanted to be good friends with the girl from school because I knew a relationship between us would be hard, because of her parents. And I really like her as a friend so... we're friends. I decided to give my friend a chance because I know shes a really good person and I have always known how much she cared about me. We have literally saved each others lives before. She had made threats once and I told our counselor and people got involved and it saved her life... and she still thanks me for that... she has done the same for me. So, she asked me out and we are now dating so... I guess the relationship aspect of my life worked out.

I have been doing okay with my school work. Its overwhelming at times because I forget my homework and assignments and everything all the time.. I write everything down and still I forget lol...

The traveling around campus has put a ton of stress on my body in regards to my Fibro.. I have been hurting ALOT more recently. I have to walk alot on inclines and worst of all, stairs. So, I am always sore from that.

Im not sure about my meds... I am having more good days than bad. However, the bad days I have are worse than before..so its really not an even trade! I am always exhausted. And I am having alot of trouble sleeping. Even when I go to sleep really late I still wake up early. I suffer the next day because of it... but when I get into bed early.... I lie there for hours and hours and dont get sleepy at all... I have tried everything and I take melatonin.. nothing works and Im not sure why...

I go to my pdoc tomorrow. I am going to voice all of these concerns with him of course... maybe he can help.. I dont know... I cant remember if I have said everything I wanted to or not lol...so I guess I will talk to you guys later, or if I remember something.... thanks for the kind words and encouragement! Take care


Lyrica (15 months-quit Feb. 09), Paxil (10 months-quit 6-4-09), Cymbalta 6-6-09(horrible effects), Prozac (July 09), Rozerem, Melatonin  Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-in therapy-pdoc-therapist: dx'ed with Dysthymia
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
   


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   Posted 9/24/2009 3:19 AM (GMT -7)   
some beautiful rays of light i see coming clearer into veiw. for what you have and are going through you are doing real well. keep up the good work, and know that the sun always shines, even in the most darkest of places. with healing compassion. jamie
 
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   Posted 9/24/2009 7:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Christi,

It sounds like you are feeling better than before. I am so happy for that. Keep up the good work at school. You are doing good. I saw on facebook that you passed a test that you didn't expect to. So that is great.

Try to focus on school. I am sure that you will get use to all the walking.

Remember to talk to your pdoc about the adderall. If he is the one that mentioned it to you. It will give you lots of energy. I hope that you are able to take it. And tell him everything about your meds. If they are working or not.

Best wishes for a wonderful day. I am glad that you posted.

Hugs, Karen
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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 9/24/2009 7:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I saw my pdoc today.. I voiced my concerns about school and sleep and everything. He gave me trazodone(sp) to help me sleep and focalin(sp) to help me focus better. It is similar to adderall, he chose to try the other first though.. so we will see. And I am still taking the prozac. He said I seemed better, because of how I was dressed ? lol.. apparently I cared about what I wore today... lol... I do agree... I am doing a little better. I could be better, but Im not going to complain... I have really bad days still, but fewer of them. Im trying really hard to feel better. I suppose it has been about 6 weeks since I doubled my dose to 40mg... perhaps thats the reason I seem better. I have gotten a lot of comments from friends, people at the hospital, and my doctor that I seem to be doing better so I suppose I am..
 
So, I am going to try the new meds and see how everything works out.. hopefully I will be able to sleep and focus in class... I will let you all know how it goes... btw if anyone has tried these meds or this med combo, please let me know and give me your opinions etc..
 
I cant remember if there is anything I wanted to say... my memory has been HORRIBLE lately... a sure sign of my Fibro since I have been in so much pain lately. I dont take anything for my Fibro so... and I have been alot more active with school so... thats everything I can remember for now, I will talk to you all later, thanks so much for your support and kind words! Take care!
Lyrica (15 months-quit Feb. 09), Paxil (10 months-quit 6-4-09), Cymbalta 6-6-09(horrible effects), Prozac (July 09), Rozerem, Melatonin  Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-in therapy-pdoc-therapist: dx'ed with Dysthymia
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
   


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   Posted 9/24/2009 8:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Christi,

Focalin is like ritalin. I took something similar called concerta, but it didn't work for me consistantly so they gave me adderall after that. I have never tried the focalin. But it sounds like it should help you with energy. I think that this will be good for you. I am happy that your visit with the pdoc went good.

I hope that you notice results quickly. The focalin should start working right away. There usually isn't much of a waiting period like there is anti depressants. Make sure that you take it early in the day too. Otherwise you wont be able to sleep.

Let us know how it works.

Hugs, Karen
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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 9/26/2009 9:20 PM (GMT -7)   
I got the trazodone... but couldnt get the focalin cause it doesnt come in generic. Generic costs me $5...but the real stuff is $50 so Im going to call the doc Monday and see if he will switch me to Adderall cause there is a generic for that, at least I think there is... I have taken the trazodone 3 times now.. I was supposed to take 1/2 tablet the 1st 4 days... I took half the first night, but like 3-4 hrs later I took the other half. Yesterday I took a whole one cause I forgot. It had more of an effect, but it was good, I went to bed right before 11... which is great cause lately its been after 2 before I can fall asleep. I took a whole tablet tonight at 8 and its now 11:15... hasnt done much.. makes me a little more tired and easier to fall asleep, but doesnt make me HAVE to go to sleep if I dont want to or whatever. So, thats kind of good... But its like an antidepressant and such so it has helped alot at night....my mind doesnt wonder at all... Im able to think about something if I focus really hard, but otherwise my mind wont wonder around and keep running so.. thats an awesome feature!

I hope my doc will change my other med on Monday that way I can either get it then or on Tuesday... then I can test it... cause I need it for class... I cant pay attention at all.. My mind wonders about other things. I notice details of all the students and the teachers. I can remember what people look like, what they wore, where they sit, who they talk to, everything...its very annoying. I notice everything random, odd, or unimportant, but I cant focus on listening or doing my work. My mind is so full of everything else that I cant even remember what work I have to do... I always forget and it puts so much stress on me...

So, I will let you guys know how it goes... thanks for the support :)
Lyrica (15 months-quit Feb. 09), Paxil (10 months-quit 6-4-09), Cymbalta 6-6-09(horrible effects), Prozac (July 09), Rozerem, Melatonin  Fibromyalgia, Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks-in therapy-pdoc-therapist: dx'ed with Dysthymia
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
   


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   Posted 9/26/2009 10:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Adderall does come in generic form. That is what I take. Just don't tell a lot of people that you are taking it. There are a lot of people (especially in college) that want it. So only tell somebody that you can trust. I hope that he prescribes it for you.

Let us know how it goes.

Hugs, Karen
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