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Scwuby25
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   Posted 10/15/2009 5:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Any advice on how to not be on the defense all the time...I have been told from a loved one that I always seem to be on the defense and lately I feel as I have been keeping my attitude under control and biting my tongue where necessary, but maybe there is another technique to helping see/control that kinda thing? Any tips?

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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 10/15/2009 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Usually people are defensive, because they feel vernerable or hurt. So the question then becomes why do you feel vernerable, hurt, or the surface emotion of anger?
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Scwuby25
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   Posted 10/15/2009 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Well...I do feel vulnerable with my relationship but thats normal I guess when you try to open up fully to someone... So maybe if I accept that and let my guards down that will go away... I just feel as if Im being attacked a lot but I say I just have a very aggressive, honest, blunt personality so people just take me harder than I intend to come off. I am willing to listen to constructive critisism but I usually like to have my opinion in also to be on the same page with people and that gets taken wrongly...I've been trying to moderate my personality a bit to not come off so angry but I tend to look at thing in a negaitve perspective and thats hard to crack!

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   Posted 10/15/2009 8:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Scwuby,
Speaking with completely broad base generalization here, usually people with a negative orientation have some something that might be helped with therapy. Just a caring thought and in no way meant as insult.
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Make sure your suffering has meaning…

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