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janetlee
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   Posted 10/30/2009 2:21 PM (GMT -7)   
I have GAD, depression, and diabetes. The GAD has been under control for a while with Paxil 60mg a day and buspar 60 mg a day. However, I have been having diarrhea for about 3-4  weeks now and don't know if it's related to my diabetes drug or not, but know my depression/anxiety hasn't helped the matter either.
I do not know what to do. A dearly beloved friend of mine has just moved away (actually left today but had been in the moving process for a week or two) and you would think that he died the way I am grieving it. I cry everyday and feel sick and anxy. My problem with the diarrhea has only compounded my overall feeling of illness. I am tired both mentally/emotionally and physically. It takes all I can do to get through each day. My mom (we live together) has a hard time dealing with me being like this naturally and that contributes to my anxiety. She gets emotional. Sometimes acts sad and sometimes even angry at me. I am a mess.
Why can't I get over my friend's leaving. I can email him, phone him, skype, etc., but it doesn't seem to make any difference in my stupid mind!
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   Posted 10/30/2009 8:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Janetlee,

I am sorry that you are struggling so much. In time you will get over your friend leaving. Allow yourself to be sad right now. Get the emotions out. Crying is actually cleansing for you. So try not to beat yourself up for feeling so down. You are a good hearted person, you care about your friend and miss him. That is normal.

Best wishes for feeling better.

Hugs, Karen
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janetlee
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   Posted 10/30/2009 9:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much karen. My friend is a wonderful person. He became like a brother to me and now he's moving to the other side of the world. It is hard too because he helped me cope with my depression & anxiety at a time when I was about ready to give up. I had the pleasure of being an encouragement to him as well. I will miss him so much it hurts.
Thank you for listening!
jl
 


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   Posted 10/30/2009 10:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Can you remember some of the things that he did when he helped you cope? Could you use those techniques on yourself, thinking "what would he tell me to do right now if he was here?" or you can call him on the phone and ask for advice or just talk for awhile? You said you would be emailing and such. I know it isn't the same as having him right there, but you will be able to handle this, we will keep you company for the time being.

I know that you will eventually meet new people to help fill that void, but you wont be able to replace him because of that special place that he holds in your heart. You wouldn't even want to I am sure. But give it time, when you least expect it, somebody will come into your life and you will have another friend. That is kind of how life works. In the meantime, keep posting, we are all here for you. I hope that you are having a good night, it is late here, about 1:30 am.

Hugs, Karen
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janetlee
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   Posted 10/31/2009 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Karen
Bart didn't guide me in coping techniques or such. He just was an assuring presence in my life. I think he would be shocked to know how his move has affected me. I won't tell him for I don't want to take away his joy in getting to go to another land. He and his family are going to a good thing.
A few years ago when I had a relapse of the GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) real bad and didn't know what in the world I was going to do to deal with once again, he came over and talked with me, prayed with me and even paid for me to see a different psychiatrist. It didn't make a difference having a different doc as I couldn't afford to keep going to him and wouldn't let Bart pay, but knowing that he wanted to help him and tried just somehow lifted me up in a way I had never been before. I did research on my own and found out that ADs "poop out" and I'd been on zoloft for 12 years by that time. I ended up being put on paxil and started to come out of the anxiety/depression again.
Now I am crying everyday and trying to get a grip. My anxiety is back to a degree and with the diarrhea draining me physically, I am at a loss. I know that I have IBS, but it's not all because of that, I can just tell.
I start feeling better in the late evenings and the only thing I can figure is that I know the day is almost over and I can go to bed again. But then there's the realization that I'll have to get up and start all over again.
I hate my life now.
jl
 


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   Posted 11/1/2009 3:17 AM (GMT -7)   
getting on top of things take time janetlee. i alike you am a diabetic, t1. yeah the meds, in particular metformin can cause diarroeah. with your mental health i would strongly suggest to keep seeing your doc. sorry about your pal moving. understand, it is the real connection that you miss. hey, i hope you feel better soon. i am seeing my doc to help me to prioritise my situation, you might consider the same? i hope you feel better real soon. my compassionate healings to you. jamie
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janetlee
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   Posted 11/1/2009 5:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Jaimee! I wish you the best too!
I won't be going to my psychiatrist for another month or so. If I get to feeling too rough to deal with this, then I'll try to get in sooner.
Thanks so much! :)
janetlee
 


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 11/1/2009 7:52 PM (GMT -7)   
good to hear. my compassionate healings to you. jamie
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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