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lee2009
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Date Joined Dec 2009
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   Posted 12/9/2009 11:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Right where to start my partner and i have just gone through a miscarriage, we have been friends for 17yrs before we got involved i helped her out of depression after an abusive marriage which end a cpl of months before we got together. After the miscarriage i developed symptoms of depression mood swings ect ect my partner seemed unaffected by this apart from being a little irratable but that was normal as far as i can see, we had an argument where she said some awful things and i lost my temper with her and pushed her up a wall and punch through a door. Knowing what I knew was worst possible choice as she had been through it twice before with both her previous ex husbands which I knew. I love her to bits but she has started to have panick attacks and not sleeping and is deep in depressive state she has taken me back but there is no relationship no hugs/touchying/feeling and she says she doesnt know what she wants is the relationship dead??????
I need to understand way she is thinking!!!!
she says does know whether she will ever be able to detach me from what i did do you think we will ever have a romantic relationship????
 
And should i force her to decide??????
All my freinds recon i should force the issue as its driving me mad not know whether or not we will ever have a loving relationship!!!

FamilyGuy
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   Posted 12/9/2009 3:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Violence isn't the answer, you made a mistake and I hope for both your sakes you don't ever do that again.

You can't force someone to decide; I think you need to let her decide herself. Remember healing takes time.

I'm sorry for the loss of your baby. Thoughts and prayers are with you both,
Jon,  Co-moderator for Crohn's Disease, Depression, & Celiac Disease forums
 
"The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life, and you must accept regret." -- Henri-Frédéric Amiel (1821-81), Swiss philosopher, poet 
 
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 12/10/2009 5:12 PM (GMT -7)   
some definate time is needed. you both need time to grieve your precious loss. i can sense that would did came from internal sadness and loss. some counselling would benefit you both, in terms of your relationship, time will tell. jamie.
 
my deepest condolences to you both over your precious loss. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
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