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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 12/28/2009 9:09 AM (GMT -7)   
hi gang. it has been a very long and complex year for me. and i guess for a lot of you too. so, in reflection i have acheived much. i am not into new year resolutions, i am into life, into being the best i can be. i love to learn, i speak with a very diverse bunch of people, it is fascinating for me to learn about others, about there cultures, etc. i have learnt so much here on healing well also. it is a beautiful thing when you can help others, most of the time it is not always about big things, even small stuff is important, thus i am continually learning about being able to help, the ways that i can, and in difficult times people face i am learning how to be helpful, with respect and compassion.
 
so many of you continue to teach me, so thanks. for me i am about hope, hope is crucial in managing depression, as is trust, empathy and compassion. tough love is also there, and yes sometimes this needs to be administered, albeit i am continually learning on the best methods without pulling anyone down. i have some assignments to complete, yeah a tad behind. i am looking at doing further studies, although i am in talks with my service provider on what, when, how etc. i am going to do studies that are conducive with my employment goals-and where i can receive RPL and credits. less is more principal.
 
also i will be making a few more changes to my house for when the lady moves in. yes we need to up the ante a bit, oh well it will be time to butt some heads-gently and very diplomatically ofcourse!! i am following up on my rights as a partner, etc to have her stay sometime overnight. i aspire to gain some meaningful employment in the later part of 2010. part-time and or casual to begin with; it has been nearly ten years, thus i will go with a very reputable job agency to help me with this process. i have one in mind, need to do some research.
 
i have put it to the universe for a car for mel and i, we are definately going to need one. i may, when a little more stable apply for a progress loan, these are done via welfare agencies, these loans are under a NILS system. no interst loan scheme. you do need to be in front with bills etc. you can, with some of the agencies apply for up to 3 thousand dollars. in 2010 the rest of my teeth will be fixed, my uretheral stricture too. i need to save some money to get my mower fixed, i have a very large back -yard and front. some friends will give me some help to get some blinds up i scored-hopefully in the next few days-bob has been crook, he is our handy man!!
 
so, the new year awaits. so take it by the horns. i know the relaties of depression, and i know that i can push when needed. yeah the year has caught up with me in the last few weeks, but i am strangely happy with that as it confirms that i put in.
 
guys, beleive in you, trust your instincts, be busy, but take time to reflect. a work life balance that works is crucial. be your best friend, never be ashamed to speak up if you are in the dirty black hole, communicate, trust, especially your doctors. the more they know the better they can help you. keep spreading the word that depression is a medical condition, and that we are not going to flip pot on cue!! remember that we are our own worst critics, so be your absolute best friend. love you-worts and all; we are all beautiful and unique beings of this earth, all with beautiful gifts and talents that are unique to only you. share your compassion, be the best you can be. and remember that life is journey........one that will get you to your dreams.......if you let it. my love and admiration to you all. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


getting by
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   Posted 12/28/2009 10:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Jamie,
 
That was a beautiful post.  There is a lot of reflection going on from the past year.  Have learned many things, working a job and being here has helped me. 
 
You have a lot to look forward to.  Slow and steady.  Like you say, it is a healing journey, and we all have a lot to learn.  I am very happy for you.  You have accomplished a lot in the past year.  I hope that you and your lady continue to do well together.  In time you will really be together.  I am so happy for you.
 
Keep up the good advice, you talk from your heart and that is a good thing.
 
Always thinking of you.
 
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
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JD68
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   Posted 12/28/2009 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   

What a fabulous post Jamie!!  I so so hope your 2010 is filled with joy and continued forward progress!!

Stay true my friend!

Hugs....Jenn


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 12/29/2009 1:11 AM (GMT -7)   
cheers jenn, cheers karen. jenn, how's things. hoping for the best. be good and thx. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


getting by
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   Posted 12/29/2009 9:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Cheers to you too Jamie,

You are such a wonderdful person. I am glad that you are on this site. You show much kindness and compassion.

Hugs, Karen
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JD68
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   Posted 12/29/2009 9:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Things are about the same Jamie Thanks for asking.
 
DH has now taken to going out at night and staying out until bar time then coming home inebriated.  Obviously that will be coming to a halt.
 
I have done some soul searching and have decided I cannot change him nor control his actions or reactions.  I can only control my own.  He can only decided if he can be the husband I deserve.  I have found some calm in this new attitude and feel more in control now than I have in sometime.  So I will start the new year with this thought process and let the pieces fall where they may.
 
Thanks once again to all of you for your support this past year!!  I could not have made it to where I am without all of the love and compassion I have found here!!
 
With love to all in the coming new year......Jenn

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 12/29/2009 4:17 PM (GMT -7)   
excellent reflective work jenn. very apt also. all the very best forthe new year. you have done amazingly. jamie.
 
thx karen, double cheers!! jamie
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


serafena
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   Posted 12/29/2009 4:38 PM (GMT -7)   
That's lovely Jamie,

Good luck to you with everything.

serafena
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"Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It's a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life." - CARRIE FISHER


getting by
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   Posted 12/29/2009 6:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Jenn,
 
I am sorry for what your husband is doing.  He definately needs some changes.  His drinking isn't going to solve anything and it sounds like he needs to make some choices.  You are handling it well.  And you are right when youn say that he has to change himself.  You can't do it for him.  I just hope that he makes the right changes. 
 
I hope that you have a wonderful New Years.  I am working, again.  New years eve and day.  But it is holiday pay again.  So that kind of helps. 
 
 
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 12/29/2009 7:53 PM (GMT -7)   
thx heaps serafena!!!! cheers, jamieyeah yeah yeah
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


Angemoo
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   Posted 12/30/2009 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   
"i am not into new year resolutions, i am into life, into being the best i can be." <--- absolutely beautiful thing to say

this post was amazing.. thank you

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 12/30/2009 10:57 PM (GMT -7)   
thx angemoo. welcome. i look forward to sharing with you. all the best, with compassion. jamie
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


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   Posted 12/31/2009 2:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Jaime...I have just read the first of your posts ..this one for me..THANK you..i cannot begin to tell you what you have reawakened in me and how inspiring you really are..thanks agian,,,,,back up n fighting i am full throttle..huggles..lyn
                          
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 18743
   Posted 12/31/2009 9:57 PM (GMT -7)   
cheers lyn. go get em' !!!! jamie :-)
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


damagedgoods41
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   Posted 1/1/2010 4:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Jamiee,
 
I just read your post and you are one of the most inspiring,caring,articulate and the list goes on person and you help so many people on this forum in more way's than you could ever imagine!!! You absoloutely deserve so much happiness in ur life and I truly hope you get married to ur lady love and have a fairytail life together. Again I cant even ythankyou enough for all of ur ongoing support when i get on this forum and have a good whinge or just getting thing's of my chest!! You really should be a FORUM MODERATOR, and i may even start a new thread to try and get some other's on here to push for you to get what you really deserve.
 
sincerly,
 
beverley.idea
Permanent ileostomy,radical hysterectomy & bi-lateral ophrectomy,bi-lateral mastectomy,atonic bladder.
DX chronic depression,bi-polarr11,panic disorder & o.c.d.!!
Currently taking Avanza 30mg,Abilify 20mg,Climara HRT patch 3.8mgs,seroquel 300mgs,valium5mgs-prn only & Asprin!! :((((((
 
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Memory is the mother of all wisdom!!!!!
 
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 18743
   Posted 1/1/2010 7:14 PM (GMT -7)   
beverly, your kind words have touched my soul. i am happy just helping others!! alike you and others i am helped by doing the same-helping. the thread is not required. but thanks, good things await my friend. you are sounding better, even though i can not hear you!! cheers. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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