Wish I could run away

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Wifeofdepression
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   Posted 1/9/2010 8:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Over the past few months I have noticed some old behavior patterns with my husband. Originally  thought it was med issues. We went to the psychiatrist 3 weeks ago, who changed meds back. I was optimistic that it would get better. We had a chat about duties in the house. He is doing very little--he takes out the trash--everything else, including being the main income for the household--falls on me. This upset him. So I asked him the sunday after Christmas to call and make a withdraw from our money market to pay for tuition for our daughter. I checked with him a few days later he told me it was taken care of. Then this wed and this thurs. The money has never arrived. The tuition was due on Friday. Now we have an $810 penalty to pay. Our daughter is not talking to him and wants him out of her life. She is to be back at school tomorrow. He will not accept any responsibility, has no remorse, and has not nor will he apologize. He lied to me he lied to her. This was something so easy for him to accomplish.
I wonder how I am going to stay married to someone I can not trust.  When he was really sick I never could beleive him. Now I am in the same boat. I hate this. In a few months our son will be leaving for ccollege. We cant afford to divorce and put the kids thru college. They are my number one priority. I will have to fiqure out a way to protect them.  

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   Posted 1/9/2010 9:17 PM (GMT -7)   
This is a big lesson learned so from now on, don't trust him to do anything that deals with finances.  I can't believe tht he did that.  That is a lot of money to be wasted.   He has no explanation eh?  What were his exact words? 
 
I am so sorry that this is such a let down for you .  But Like I say, it was an important lesson.  Do you keep track of the funds?  I don't want to make you worry more, but I would stay on top of that.  Be the one to pay the bills and such.  Especialy if you can't rely on him to do it.
 
I hope that everything goes well for you and your daughter and that things will get patched up soon.  Maybe with his depression he just couldn't handle doing it, but he didn't ahve to lie about it.
 
Take care, keep posting, and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
 
Hugs, Karen
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serafena
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   Posted 1/9/2010 9:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I am no doctor, and never would pretend otherwise, but I wonder, has he ever discussed bipolar disorder with a psychiatrist? What you describe is a textbook example of manic behavior.I know very little about the situation, so this could be totally off-base, but it's something to look into.

serafena
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"Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It's a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life." - CARRIE FISHER

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