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OnEdge123
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   Posted 1/17/2010 7:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Just seems that everytime I get my life on track, someone or something happens to just bring everything tumbling down and I am left feeling empty... Went out for dinner last night, reluctantly... And in jest made a few jokes about how my mom used to smack us when we were bad when I was younger - she completely took it the wrong way and has blown it out of proportion and has now turned around and said that she feels so hurt and upset by my words (and I must add, the conversation was not even started by me but my sister, who never seems to get reprimanded for anything at all) and that maybe I am not well in life today (I suffer from severe depression) because she obviously has mentally and psychologically damaged me as a child...! I mean there seems to be no reasoning with her... I am just so tired... wanna lay down and close my eyes forever... in pain... in frustration and just to escape...

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   Posted 1/17/2010 9:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Onedge,
 
Trr not to take what your mom said personally.  Maybe she feels guilty about the way that she use to treat you.  Life will get better for you.  Have patience.
 
Welcome to the depression forum, know that we are all here for you.
 
Hugs, Karen
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OnEdge123
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   Posted 1/17/2010 9:59 AM (GMT -7)   
But the reality of the situation is that she really didn't treat me badly and i don't at all feel damaged or affected by any of it - I think it was all part and parcel of growing up - honestly, if life doesnt get any better... I don't know what i am going to do... Am broke, lonely and just at a complete stand still at the moment... mentally, phyiscally and emotionally...

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   Posted 1/17/2010 10:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Onedge,
 
Maybe she feels that she treated you badly in her mind, even if she didn't.  Maybe she is sensitive to that.  So try to overlook her reaction.  Things will get better for you.
 
This is a really hard time of the year, we try to get together and discuss ways to overcome that.  We are here for eachother in that way.  Practice makes perfect, so practice things that you like to do, like listening to music, going for walks and stuff like that.  Together we will get through this.
 
Hugs, Karen
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OnEdge123
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   Posted 1/17/2010 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so very much Karen, I cannot tell you how nice it is to know that I have a cyber family out there who care and understand - I mean everyone asks me why are you depressed and they really don't understand that its beyond my control... its just the way it is... I wish I could control this about my life but it is something beyond my control...

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   Posted 1/17/2010 10:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Though depression is pretty much beyond our control, there are ways to fight it.  Are you going to any counseling?  That really helps a lot.  I go and many other members do and it is a lifeline for us.  Providing you have a good counselor.  There are times when you have to weed them out.  But luckily you will or already have a good one. 
 
Today the sun is shining, so that is a real upper for me.  It has been gloomy and damp for a week now, and seeing the sun makes me happy.  It is also warmer than it has been.  So that is good.  I try to look at the good things and dismiss the bad.  Though there are a lot of bad things that happen in our lives, we can learn to take it with a grain of salt.  I hope that you can learn to do that. 
 
Mostly try not to feel responsible for other people's moods.  Like your mother for instance.  She owns her own moods and it is not your responsiblity to make her happy.  Though  trying to is a good jesture on your part, you still have to realize that they are hers and hers alone.  So strive to be happy. 
 
Here is a poem that I refer people to.  It is called Desiderata, read it and let me know what you think.
 
 
I hope that you like it.
 
Hugs, Karen
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damagedgoods41
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   Posted 1/17/2010 8:23 PM (GMT -7)   
hello onedge123,
 
I would like to say that i too am in much the same situation as you and i too feel lonely,sad,very depressed and have nobody to talk to as all of my family thinks people with depression are just making excuses for how there life is??? I want to say that your not alone,even though u are in some way's!!! But please listen to karen's advice as she know's first hand about being depressed but she is also so very kind and helpful with all of us on this forum. Promise me that you wont hurt urself or do anything silly ok. My family have just about disowned me due to my depression and bi-polar11 as they dont believe in mental illness all they believe is that its an excuse not to live life as we should. All of my family tell me over and over get off ur lazy bum and do something with ur life and also never include me in anything as in going out for dinner,lunch and just down right lies about what they are really doing. They re very cruel toward's me so i fully understand where ur coming from ok. If u ever need someone to talk to please dont hesitate to contact me please!!!!! I feel ur pain my friend........
 
sincerley,
 
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    bernie'10
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       Posted 1/18/2010 11:56 AM (GMT -7)   
    I agree with beverly!!! Family and friends cant understand something they have never been through, and i guess i don't balme them it just makes life harder for us.

    Whenever you need a friend i'm here.

    ~Breanne
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