Thank you both so much! This is difficult for me. I just don't know what to do anymore......I feel like I am left in the dark and he makes all his decisions on his own without even talking to me.
I don't think these meds are a good choice just because I know him to well. He will not be able to follow the diet. He enjoys brats and sauerkraut, pepperoni, and a laundry list of other foods on the do not eat list. He already is bordeline hypertensive so to add a med that may throw him into that is frightening. I have decided to step back and let him start taking care of things.....seeing as he is making decisions that affect everyone solo then he can start dealing with all of his stuff solo......as more bills roll in from this past year he can call the insurance company and deal with the mistakes........I am tired.
Time for me to start steping away and begin building my life again. Right now it is very difficult to envision a future that includes DH.
Thank you both for your thoughts......Hugs....Jenn
Thank you Jamie! You will likely be hearing from me as things progress here. Dh takes his last cymbalta on thursday and then he is off meds fro 2 1/2 weeks......Won't take long before things to bottomw out I am sure.
Sigh......Having a why me moment.
Thank you Karen!
You guys are so wonderful!! I don't plan on having my pity party too long......I never do. I am trying to hope that he is making the right decisions for himself, however I have alwyas been the one that then takes the brunt of his moodiness when it fails. Now especially with him having to be off his meds for two and half weeks.......just switching meds has always been awful this I do have to prepare for and prepare for a terrible storm.
Time will tell how I handle this one.....eventually I know there will be a point when I can handle no more as it will be affecting my own life/health to much to maintain.
Thanks for the prayers.......I do hope your thinking is the road this takes. If not I am preparing.
Hugs.....and many thanks!! Jenn
You are correct Karen I am a survivor. AS much as I hope that everything works out I do have to start looking out for me......no one else will that's for sure.
I have done lots of research today and I really feel that this drug class is not the best choice. However I will keep my mouth closed and let him decided what is best for him. Time for him to start taking care of himself.
We'll see what the evening holds.......Plan on making bacon/cheesburger sliders for the boys and I yumm.....greasey junk food I am sure they will request waffle fries as well. Gotta love teenagers
Hope your day has gone well....Love the sunshine!!
DH has decided to not go on the MAOI's but refill his cymbalta for now and go back in three weeks.
Apparently I am a psycho, insecure B***h........if I fix that then everything else will be fine. Our marital issues have NOTHING to do with his depression as he feels he is fine. Thank god I start with a new therapist next week I do hope she is good.......DH's therapist whom I ahve met recommended me to her as she felt we would be a good fit. At this point I believe my marriage is over and I intend on acting as such. After all I have done for him to call me the above .......I was hurt now I am very very angry!!!!
I will start my therapy wednesday and get myself back....he hs stripped me of some of my security and esteem ....I told him any insecurity I have was instilled in me by his behavior.........he basically said whatever you want to believe. It shouldn't take to long for me to regain myself and then.......
I actually filled out all the paperwork today for divorce all I have to do is pay the 250.00 and hand him the papers........I need to stay angry and stand my ground.
Boys and I are ordering out and a glass of red wine is in my future........DH is gone tonight. Thank god!! I do hope to be in bed prior to his return. He worked today and came home to me saying not a thing....just interacted with my boys and pets........
Love to all......Jenn (gotta keep the sunny disposition)
Thanks again....I have been siphering all of my "girl power" today....they all are behind me and full of support which helps.
You guys of course are my support as well....but who'da thunk this would be the turn of events. Had my chamomile tea and off to bed now.....exhausted does not even begin to explain......
Sleep well all.....hugs and sweet dreams! Jenn
I am doing pretty well. I am trying to maintian the strength of my convictions. I just told him that I realized awhile ago that I needed help to deal with my insecurities and that I made the move on my own to do so. I also told him he has issues of his own that unless he deals with will be a catalyst in the demise of our marriage. I also said I am not psycho nor am I a b***h and that I stood by him through his issues and if he cannot do the same for me seeing as my issue were instilled through his behaviors then he can leave. He was of course just a jerk about it and meanly said he got it and I was repeating myself. So I made it clear that if could not get out of bed and be a decent respectful husband that he could pack a bag.....not just for over night but for a long stay away and leave today. He spouted off..."yeah like I can do that in a day" I stated that indeed he could. His choice. he also stated that he is much better and improving daily. Well if this is improvement I want out.
With that said if he gets out of bed and is not decent to me.......if it is more than I can handle today I will just ask him to leave otherwise if he decides to stay and does not work on being a decent respectful husband I will tell him to make sure he packs a bag for the week and take it with him tomorrow morning. I do know I have to remember that his treatment of me has been poor.....this is not about my treatment of him. He will continue alienating everyone that cares for him if he continues to think everything is about him.
I am also not going to do for him anymore......no lunches, dinners, laundry etc....he is on his own. I am going to take care of me and my boys and that's it. I am willing to bet that he is a jerk and thinks I will tolerate it and let him stay.....not happening. So I am more the prepared for his departure.
I filled out the divorce papers yesterday online and all I need to do is pay for them and they will be emailed to me within hours. I am also more than reday to do that.
So I guess for the first time my future looks promising.....I just need to maintian the strength of my convictions and know I deserve and out there is someone that would treat me decent.
Hope your day goes well.......I am thinking mine will be just fine
Yes Karen that is my plan.......I have always backed down however to keep the peace but that is where I do hope therapy will guide me.
I am sorry you are feeling bad today....stupid weather does that to many ours is gloomy as well. Interesting that something so simple can make such an impact.
I will be leaning on you guys should I feel I am not standing up for myself at least until wednesday when I go to my therapist. I do hope you guys don't mind.
Enjoy your day and I do hope you find some relief.