I don't think you should let her words bother you. Keep raising the second son as you would have. He is not to blame for what she says. And they are only words. Does not change who you and your baby are. Love him like your own. He did nothing do deserve otherwise.
I know that children seem spoiled, but they are just that, children. Treat them good as you have been. Don't let the ex change you or make you become bitter. It isn't fair to your stepson.
Only you can decide if you should stay or not. You have to figure out if you are unhappy enough to leave. Are you going to any counseling? You could use the support at a time like this. Some objective views of the situation. I would recommend counseling. You have a lot going on and I think you could use some help.
Try not to let her get to you, the ex that is. Take what she says with a grain of salt. It means nothing. You know that you have tried to be a good mother to her children and that is all that matters.
I wish you the best in this. One day at a time is my motto.
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