no boyfriend to obsess over= nightmares about 3 recent family memeber deaths and feeling alone

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itsjustmeandmealone
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   Posted 2/19/2010 9:36 AM (GMT -7)   
When I am dating, I obsess and wake up every day focused on the one I am with. Recently single again and these nightmares have returned. Having to focus only on myself and my 3 children seems to bring about horrible nightmares. I recently went through a divorce, lost my grandpa, grandma and mom. The nightmares I have include the deceased along with horrible things happening including grisley bears after me and my children, estate auctions where everything is stolen and precious family memories and artifacts I will never get back, Often going back to my childhood home for traumatic events in my dreams. ALso, there are the tornado dreams where I am in a twister and people are taking shelter but do not want me to huddle with them. I am left to fend for myself when everyone else has someone to support them but they dont want to help me. I have great close friends, family, chuch, ETC. I take great care of my children and home and am not depressed. I enjoy doing the same things, and actually prefer not having a man right now and feeling pressure to give my time thoughts and attention to someone who may not deserve me. So whats the DEAL??? How do I stop having bad dreams?

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   Posted 2/19/2010 10:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Do you believe in dream catchers? I have one, because I kept having nighmares about my dead mother. Once I got the dream catcher they went away. It could all be in my head, but it worked. Something that you might want to try.

Other than that, counseling might be good. I think you are feeling left out of something and dreaming that people don't care about you. Or maybe you are afraid that people don't care about you.  When you know that isn't true. Positive affirmation might help.

I hope that you get some restful sleep. Thanks for joining the forum.

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Drowningstar
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   Posted 2/19/2010 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
well your going to have to talk about these dreams.  i have nightmares where im late. i no it sounds weird but i wake up screaming all the time.  i dream that i have to do something and that if i  dont then every1 will be upset with me. i realised it comes from my serious self esteem issues.  i suspect that subconciously you dont feel good enough when your not with a guy. THIS IS NOT TRUE. just focus on your children and forget about guys! in reality you dont really need them anyway. wait awhile before you get involved with anyone again.  make sure your stable and confident and then you can enjoy being wanted, not obsessing!

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 2/20/2010 1:00 AM (GMT -7)   
me, before sleep, if i do get it i always ask the universe for protection. i also try to wind down by doing something relaxing-usually music. welcome, hoping things improve real soon. take care. with compassion, jamie
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REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


itsjustmeandmealone
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   Posted 2/22/2010 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey thanks so much for all the responses!! I actually googled about nightmares all day the other day and found out the cure for me. This is night four... still single and nightmare free! Several online resources advised to re write your nightmare while you are awake. Several times a day and especially before you go to sleep think of your nightmare and make it fabulous! My nightmares consisted of tonadoes where no one would let me take shelter with them and also I had nigtmares associated with my childhood home and recent death of my grandma, grandpa and mom. Well, I just picutre cotten candy tornadoes in candy land with tons of friends around to gather up as much goodies as possible, I also picture my childhood home surrounded by rainbows and flowers with a new loving family living there and all is well.. This seems so simple but has really helped me out. No more nightmares for me :) Yipeee!!!

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 2/23/2010 12:22 AM (GMT -7)   
excellent!! it is usually the simple that works the best. a good common sense approach. good for you! those whom seek find, thus well done. keep feelin' better, healings, jamie.
 
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YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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