this is a tough one. she is no baby, although it seems she has a victim mentality. this is what i suggest:
1. if she can not adequately care for herself, then call the police for a welfare check. if they find that she is not caring for herself then a longer admission will happen, furthermore she then will be deemed unfit to return home, until she shows that she can cope. also the welfare people will be obligated to assist, therefore she maybe housed in a residential environment where she will receive appropriate care.
2. i would still be compassionate, maybe not the best to go out, i feel a letter or a call to advise her of the impeeding situation and that she needs assistance is the best way to go. i feel she needs direct help-and from the appropriate welfare agency in your area. to be cruel to be kind i would make an annoymous call if she fails to improve quickly.
my healing compassionate prayers to all. jamie. i hope this helps.
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