Sounds like you're doing a lot of things right!
The only other thing I could suggest is trying to see if there is something she CAN do. Sometimes we get so caught up in all the things we can't do anymore we lose sight of the things we can. For me, it was learning how to knit & making scarves for charity. I couldn't get out of bed without a lot of help, but that was the one thing I could do & still feel like I was contributing to the world.
For me that made all the difference. My family kept telling me they cared about
me & went out of their way to be helpful, but in my twisted thinking that just made me feel guilty & even more worthless. Not saying you shouldn't help your mom, just that it's not unusual for someone's helpful actions to be taken the wrong way by someone who is suffering from deep depression. :)
Whatever your mom used to really enjoy doing (for me it was charity work), if there is someway she can still do it, albeit in a creative & perhaps limited form, it could maybe start to slowly turn around her thinking. If she loved cooking, maybe having her peel vegetables into a bowl. If sports/games, perhaps she could mentor an youth athlete -- reviewing tapes of her games with her & suggesting ways to improve the young person's game. I'm sure you can think of more ideas, it doesn't have to be anything big, just something that actually does make a difference.
Hope that helps! Blessings be upon you for taking such good care of your mother during her time of need.
PS -- Yes, depression, if treated, can go away either temporarily or permanently. Sometimes that involves medications, other times not. It really just depends on the individual. It might be worth a visit to a general practioner to discuss what options there are for your mom. They could test her to make sure that she doesn't have any underlying medical conditions (anemia can contribute to depression & low energy -- and while I don't know the statistics, nearly all of my Indian friends are on iron supplements or high-iron diets. There are a number of other medical issues -- including menopause -- that can cause or worsen depression, so it's worth getting tested). If the tests all come back normal, the doctor can then recommend counseling and/or medication, if appropriate. It is probably best to have depression medication managed by a psychiatrist & if you decide to go that route the general practioner can provide a recommendation/referral.
Please know, though, that sometimes a person can work very hard, be on the best possible combination of treatments & still only receive partial relief of their symptoms. In those cases, the family may benefit from getting their own counselor to learn how to live with having a family member who is chronically depressed. Still, while that is a possibility, there are many things to try before thinking that the depression will never go away.
Post Edited (Frances_2008) : 4/11/2010 11:02:01 PM (GMT-6)