Moving in with parents

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Tirzah
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   Posted 4/12/2010 3:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I've now run out of my savings & am going through my retirement account pretty quickly. My temp job ended & there aren't many prospects. To make things worse, I had to turn down a temp assignment in order to interview for a permanent job. I didn't get the permanent job & now I've lost my right to file for unemployment, so I have nothing to live off of.

I don't get along with my parents at all. They are exceptionally critical & set strict rules which basically prevent me from having friends or any sort of a life while living under their roof. I am not allowed to openly practice my faith. I am not allowed breaks from applying for jobs. Basically, I am allowed to apply for jobs (if the internet is working & the computer is free) or spend time with them. I do have a vehicle, but my mom will take my car keys away when I'm sleeping or busy with something & will not give them back for anything. Even though there is no reason, she insists on accompanying me to any appointments, interviews, etc. (probably because she doesn't want to give me my keys back).

I am just starting to get really panicked about the whole situation. I CAN'T go back to living with them. I was so horribly depressed when I had to stay with them before. All I could think about was death. Yes, it is slightly better than the hospital because except for the rare occasion when my mom steals my prescription pain meds, I usually can take my medication (which isn't allowed in any of the psych hospitals around here) but I just don't know how I will survive.

She does permit counselor visits, but only if I allow her to sit in for the whole session & berate me to the psychologist. It's really just a waste of time because the counselor tells my mom to stop being to negative & to stop constantly interrupting me, which in turn causes my mom to blow up & call the counselor an unqualified idiot who is doing nothing to help me become a happy, productive member of society (yes, I realize the irony of her insulting me for not being happy enough).

So I'm just terrified & I'm not sure any of you can even relate, but I'm scared & I'm putting that out there.

peace,
frances

getting by
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   Posted 4/12/2010 4:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Frances,

Could you get help from Human Resources so that you could move out? I don't think this is going to be a very healthy environment for you. Seriously, you have to get out of there. You can't live with those circumstances. Can your counselor help you in any way with this situation? What about low income housing? You have to think of something, I know this is going to be detrimental to your mental health. I don't mean to sound so negative, but your mother is out of control and it is not healthy for you to be around her.

I hope that you find somewhere else to live soon. I will be praying for you Frances. I hope that you can resolve this soon and easily. You deserve better than this. I have faith that it will happen, I just hope that it happens soon. Sorry to sound so glum, but I really understand what you are going through. My mother stressed me out so much that it caused me to become physically ill. I turned into a diabetic. When I finally got away from her, my diabetes was under control.

Like I say, I will be praying for you.

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 4/13/2010 5:48 AM (GMT -7)   
FRANCES, I WILL BE ASKING THE UNIVERSE FOR HEALING PRAYERS AND POSITIVE KARMA TO COME YOUR WAY. SOUNDS AS THOUGH LIVING WITH YOUR FOLKS WILL BE VERY CONFORMING AND DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR WELLNESS AND PSYCHE. YOU WILL BE IN MY DEEP PRAYERS TONIGHT. WITH COMPASSION, JAMIE.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
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REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


Tirzah
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   Posted 4/14/2010 10:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, Karen & Jamie.

I'm not sure I can do the work with my back probs & all, but I'm headed over to a couple local businesses with Help Wanted signs in the windows. They require standing for the whole shift, which concerns me, but desperate times call for desperate measures.

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 4/14/2010 11:33 AM (GMT -7)   
i hope something turns up for you soon. - you definately deserve a break!! healing compassionate prayers i send. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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