Trying to figure out what normal is

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loner
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   Posted 4/17/2010 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
After living my life on my own terns and doing things most people think is abnormal it gets confusing as to what normal really is. SO whats normal to you may be abnormal to my view on things.So do we conform to other peoples idea of normal or do we explore our own ideas and options? Loner

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   Posted 4/17/2010 9:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Loner,

I think we should go with our own gut feelings. Everybody is different. So we are all really normal in our own ways. I understand that you are trying to get back into society with a feeling of normal. And I think that if you tread slowly you will feel comfortable within yourself and that is all that really matters. Though you probably aren't accustomed to the way things are now, I don't know how long you were away, but you will get it. Give yourself a chance, and have patience with yourself. You sound like a very good person and that is what matters.

Best wishes my friend.

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Gemsi
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   Posted 4/17/2010 10:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Loner,

I personally would say, when it comes to being human, there is no set normal. There are patterns and trends and fashions, but they are constantly altering. Even celebrities and the like that people look towards for inspiration, they don't pass as normal-well a lot of them anyway. Look at Victoria Beckham, Peter Dougherty, though most certainly aren't what most would class as normal.

I'm currently in a pattern of trying to celebrate my uniqueness a bit more, and not worry so much about who people think I am. I will happily sit and crochet on the bus, and I may get a few strange looks (I'm a 24 year old, who looks 16). But, this is me, this is how I stop my mind wandering, so who cares what they think? As long as I am not hurting anyone, doing anything criminal or dangerous. Well, then this is who I am.

I know this can be hard, you hope to have some sort of normal in you, especially if you haven't spent much time around people. I remember spending a year after spending a few years indoors, just trying to find myself again. I'm a lot quieter now, and a lot more in tune with how others are thinking, but no longer with what they are thinking of me. I'm not cool, I'm certainly not normal, but that is fine for me. I hope it becomes that way for you too. As long as you're following rules/laws set by society. Then you should just try to be you. :)

We are all beautiful snowflakes, everyone is unique and original, and that is what makes the human race so very great, and has helped us advance.

Hope this helps some, it is an interesting topic, because everyones ideals of what normal should be are completely different.
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   Posted 4/17/2010 10:49 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah Hi Loner! I'm so sorry you're feeling lost and unhappy! I think you'll be really happy to "make friends" on this forum. I belong to MDJunction also but I'm really liking this forum more and more. Gosh I really can't imagine 15 yrs out of the everyday changes in people and things! I'm 62 and live in a small east Texastown. As far as normal--what is normal? To me if I feel something is wrong (gut feeling) I try not to indulge in it. I don't know your age but have you tried working construction? Just keep trying to keep a positive attitude. Have you tried antidepressants? I hope you have a great day. Donna turn tongue

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   Posted 4/17/2010 1:43 PM (GMT -7)   
I think it depends on what are your goals in life. I possibly have made some assumptions that might not be what you want, as someone who is sick I have different goals then some others. I guess then you have the question of what do you want to do with your life? 


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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 4/17/2010 2:54:21 PM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 4/17/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Loner,
 
Here is a poem that I would like you to read, it is called Desiderata.  I often live my life close to the words.  I think this will help you some.
 
 
Just click on the link and it will take you there.
 
I really don't think there is such a thing as normal.  Who would be to judge anyway.  I think as long as you try the best that you can, you will be alright and feel good about yourself.  And when it all comes down to it, that is really what matters.  To know that we are trying our best and that we haven't done anything to hurt anybody or ourselves. 
 
Take the poem to heart.  Really read the words.  They make a lot of sense.
 
Hugs, Karen
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loner
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   Posted 4/17/2010 7:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey you guys are great Im no longer concerned what people think about me either I dont have enough trime to be that caught up in things either THANK YOU VERY MUCH like I said you guys are GREAT! Loner

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   Posted 4/18/2010 5:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Loner,

I am glad you are happy with the forum and that you are benifiting from being here. I know that you are going through a difficult time, and know that we are here for you. Keep posting, it does you good.
 
Just curious, what did you think of the poem?

Hugs, Karen


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Post Edited (getting by) : 4/18/2010 6:41:04 AM (GMT-6)

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