I know that some of it has to do with the depression and is rooted with her weight issues . I also beleive her when she says she is trying to deal with it but cant help the anxious feelings she gets when she feels anyone gets to close to her. [physically even a hug]. Even family and good friends make her feel this way . I also beleive she loves me even though since she got depressed a year ago she doesnt say it , just didnt know if being patient is the best route or if if she she had to do something or she would lose me was better. I really dont want her to feel pressured ,its just hard for me because I would be happy to just hold her at this point . I know from her friends that for years she felt I wasnt attracted to her but I have always thought she was beautiful its her self esteem that puts the doubts in her head. Our son is going to be 4 and she says she still wants us to have another one but has to get through the anxiety. Everytime I feel her getting slightly closer to me another tradgedy appears in our life . She is graduating top and I mean the top of her class to teach and 5 years ago when she decided to go back to school for teaching the career outlook was great now there are massive layoffs in this profession . Between the first therapist quiting the day before her first appointment, losing her grandmother who raised her , the second therapist being killed in a car crash , then absolutely not liking her last therapist, and now a friend being killed in the last month and now the annoucment that there will mass layoffs in what we just spent 30,000 for her to go to school for I dont know what more I can do . I love her and have been very supportive of her but I dont think she even sees it.