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   Posted 4/23/2010 9:24 AM (GMT -6)   
husband says he "cares" about me when I ask if he loves me. Says he is only staying to keep what is his (assets). What do I do?????? I love him very much!

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   Posted 4/23/2010 9:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Heartbroken,

I guess you have to face the fact that he doesn't love you if he wont say it. And only is staying to protect his assets. How long has this been going on? How long has he been feeling this way? Do you think he is being serious with what he says?

You need to give us some more details about what is going on. I am sorry that you are going through this. Is it possible for you to stay in the marriage when he feels this way?

Tell us a little more.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 4/23/2010 2:29 PM (GMT -6)   
this has been going on for about 2 1/2 years. It all started when I was talking to another guy. I told him about it. Nothing went on but talk. He just keeps holding that over my head and just won't forgive for anything. I feel like he is punishing me and has been for 2 1/2 years. It is so hard!!! I mean if I would have done something with the guy, then I could understand. He just doesn't believe me at all. I have been nothing but good to him and I have done everything I know to do to make him happy. I have gone one step past the top. I lay his clothes out, I fix his plate and drink and take it to him, I make sure he has everything he needs to take his shower. I have his clothes ready and a towel when he gets out. I just don't know what to do. We have times when he treats me like a human being and a wife. But the good seems to be diminishing as time goes on. He lives in the past and always uses it to relate to the present.

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   Posted 4/23/2010 3:11 PM (GMT -6)   
You do too much for him.

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   Posted 4/23/2010 7:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry but it sounds like you're describing taking care of a child! Does he do for you? I'm wondering-do you work and do yall have children? I'll talk to you if you need to speak with someone on this forum. Donna

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   Posted 4/26/2010 10:03 AM (GMT -6)   
He is scared and insecure about you. He must care for you or else he would be gone. It can be hard to forgive emotional infidelity. Lay it on the line and ask him where your marriage is going. Ask if he needs space, and if he's willing to go to counseling together. If he tries that is a good sign, but if not it is up to you how much of this you can are only human and deserve love too.

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