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Queen of the Colon
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   Posted 4/28/2010 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   
There are some good reasons why everyone is depressed these days and they're not just biochemistry

a) Most people are really quite rotten. People do horrible things to each other all the time. It's enough to make anyone depressed. Greasy-pole-climbing, paranoid, thieving, lying ******s. That is what most people really are. Sharp-toothed carnivores. And yet as social beings we can't just be hermits so we have to put up with the horrible people. Repressed anger = depressed.

b) The occasional nice person comes along and fills you with hope but pretty soon they let you down. It just makes the torment worse.

c) We are just wage slaves with no real hope of freedom. We get to choose our bosses but we can never really break out of the rat race. It's just an illusion that we are free. The only freedom you get is if you choose not to have kids and perpetuate the cycle.

d) There are too many straight women and not enough straight men. Instant depression and ridiculous competitive behaviour among straight women who just have to try too hard simply to get a partner. Who is then free to treat like crap and dump at first opportunity as he knows he'll get someone else in 5 minutes flat.

There. 4 good reasons.

Maybe the depressed people are simply the realists who are not crazy.

There was once a religion called the Rosicrucians and they believed Earth was like purgatory. THey believed it was wrong to have kids as you would be trapping spirit matter here on Earth to suffer.

I think they might have been right.

So if anyone out there is reading this, have a nice mug of hot chocolate and find the joy in small things because the truth is we are truly rooted no matter how hard we try.
Female, 36. Diagnosed December 2009 after 4 months of pain, blood and mucous.
sulfasalazine prescribed but never taken as my flare went away with small liquid meals, probiotics and vitamins.


getting by
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   Posted 4/28/2010 7:29 AM (GMT -7)   
I don't like this post, but I am leaving it. I see that you are not always this pesimistic. I don't believe that people are rotten and that our lives are the way that you say that they are. But I will leave this up for discussion. If it gets out of line I will delete the whole thread.

We try to keep this as upbeat as we can. We all struggle together and with the way that we support eachother, it makes your whole post wrong.

I hope that you change your way of thinking after being here a while. We are all good people and we are fighting a beast called depression. So we pool together to help eachother. After you get to know this forum, you will see that your thinking is not right.

I still wish you the best.

Karen
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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 4/28/2010 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Queen,
I think you have made some fundimental assumptions here that might be a bit flawed or at least skewed. I have seen horrible things in the midsts of war and I have also seen some of the best. I have seen some the worse offenders and their crimes, but I also see heros everyday. Everyone has had people disappoint them, as it is human to error. But find someone who can come thru most of the time is a pretty good thing, do not hold on to the times they disappoint you. Stuff happens, but also know what your deal breakers are (such as abuse). The wage slave thing have you ever heard of the one belongs where they do good. Whether that is in their paid employment or elsewhere, but please try to win a goal for humanity in that you have contributed to world even if it is just washing a dish it is positive motion to help prevent disease even if it is just one dish. As for me I am going to help as many people as I can in the time I have left. I think a partner is nice (and I would love to have one, but I have been alone for some years now as my disease has advanced to levels that affect intimate activities), but it is not the end all be all to exsistance.

It is apperent that you have lost some hope in humanity or at least several things some pretty darn negative has happen to you. But my question is what are you going to do about it? Are you going to sit there and suffer or are you actually going to take proactive action on a daily, hourly, momently, etc basis (even if it is just stopping your own negative thoughts) to stop yourself from feeding into this. Please do not allow yourself to get locked down in this negative thought pattern.
Please really think about getting some help.
Take care,
Navy


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I will find a way or make one. –Phillip Sidney 1554-1586

All that I am and all that I shall ever be, I owe to my Angel Mother.

The Bucket List- Have you found joy in your life?  Has your life brought joy to others?

Make sure your suffering has meaning…

Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 4/28/2010 11:03:40 AM (GMT-6)


MMMNAVY
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   Posted 4/28/2010 10:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Ok I was looking at one of your other posts (trying to figure out where this came from) about this guy you had gotten involved with. I am thinking he is a scumbag. He is 34 years old and never had a gf. (BIG HUGE warning bell #1) His mother has way to much influence in his life. (warning bell #2) He is away "stormchasing" in the USA when he is worried about his MS,  it is pretty early in the stormchasing season (for tornado alley, but granted greensboro, andover happened early in the season). (warning bell #3)  That is his problem not yours.  Move on to someone better.
 
What I do wonder about is why did you get so emotionally attached to someone you only dated for 3 weeks?
Do not let someone else behavior dictate how you feel about yourself.  No one should have that kind of influence over you.
Hugs,
Navy


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I will find a way or make one. –Phillip Sidney 1554-1586

All that I am and all that I shall ever be, I owe to my Angel Mother.

The Bucket List- Have you found joy in your life?  Has your life brought joy to others?

Make sure your suffering has meaning…

Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 4/28/2010 11:39:28 AM (GMT-6)


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 4/29/2010 12:07 AM (GMT -7)   
sadly qoc, i disagree. and i am a good man, a compassionate man, and a loving man as well. i have never cheated never will , i love my fiancee and she loves me. what the world needs is less hate and more love. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


Queen of the Colon
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   Posted 5/12/2010 6:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone, much appreciated

You are right really

Thanks Navy man - i love the navy you guys really work hard to make the world safer, and it is not easy to do your job.

Much harder than for me.

There are lots of great people in the world, and it is wonderful that the people here care for each other and try to help each other.

I try, too.

Sometimes i just feel there is no hope though. Not often, but just sometimes. Sorry - i just let it out and maybe i shouldn't have.
Female, 36. Diagnosed December 2009 after 4 months of pain, blood and mucous.
sulfasalazine prescribed but never taken as my flare went away with small liquid meals, probiotics and vitamins.


getting by
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   Posted 5/12/2010 7:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Queen of colon,

It is good to let things out and just because people didn't agree is okay. Many people come here to vent or just say what they think and that is okay too.

I hope that you are feeling better.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


Queen of the Colon
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   Posted 5/13/2010 12:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Karen,

You know, I do feel a lot better, and I really think a large part of that is being able to let it out and have somebody anonymous listen and give feedback.

Thank you to all who posted here. Much , much appreciated.
Female, 36. Diagnosed December 2009 after 4 months of pain, blood and mucous.
sulfasalazine prescribed but never taken as my flare went away with small liquid meals, probiotics and vitamins.


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/13/2010 12:54 AM (GMT -7)   
hey qoc, i respect you for saying stuff that is on your mind. alike karen just because i disagree does not mean that i do not respect you etc. i appreciate your honesty. keep well, ps we all vent!! with kind regards, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


Queen of the Colon
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   Posted 5/19/2010 4:41 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks people, you are awesome :)

it is really lovely to come here sometimes and talk

everyone just tries to help each other and i think that is wonderful

Big hugs to YOU, i wish you all well

ps: i will tell you a secret to some little joys of life

Today I discovered some chocolate biscuits in a bottom drawer that i had forgotten I bought a few weeks ago.

I was as happy as if i won lotto. A cup of tea, and a trip on the internet to this great site, plus a chocolate biscuit: brilliant.

so my recipe for treating yourself is buy a bag full of tasty treats and hide them around the house. Don't touch them for a few weeks till you forget they are there. Then just stumble over them accidentally from time to time. Brilliant!
Female, 36. Diagnosed December 2009 after 4 months of pain, blood and mucous.
sulfasalazine prescribed but never taken as my flare went away with small liquid meals, probiotics and vitamins.


getting by
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   Posted 5/19/2010 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Good for you. It is always nice to find chocolate. I am glad that you did.

Keep posting, know that everyone here thinks the world of you.

I have to keep this short. Late for an appointment. Sorry.

Keep the faith.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/19/2010 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
mmmmm, chocolate!!!!! jamie tongue
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


MMMNAVY
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   Posted 5/19/2010 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   
You are very welcome. Eat some chocolate for me!
Forum Co-moderator - Crohn's Disease/Thyroid Disorders:_All comments have the caveat contact your local health care provider.

I will find a way or make one. –Phillip Sidney 1554-1586

All that I am and all that I shall ever be, I owe to my Angel Mother.

The Bucket List- Have you found joy in your life?  Has your life brought joy to others?

Make sure your suffering has meaning…


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 18748
   Posted 5/19/2010 6:17 PM (GMT -7)   
qoc. keep well. know that i am here for you. sending healings your way. with compassion, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


-Misunderstood-
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   Posted 5/22/2010 8:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Hehe I second jamiee's first post :). We have no place in this world I'm pretty sure. Even though I have absolutely felt the EXACT same way, thought the exact (and I mean almost to the word) same thoughts, I know that it was at a point when I was letting my demons, both literal and figurative, get a hold of me and steer me in a direction which has no positive ending. I am glad to see you have found your way away from them and into the light that these people continually send out over the internet for exactly those moments. I know I've found help in my moments, whether it be just venting or actual questioning. Glad your feeling better :)


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