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cross-stitcher
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   Posted 5/7/2010 8:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't want to make this too long and I really don't know where to begin, so I was just give you a short history. Last year my hubby lost hours and pay, we had savings so we were ok for a little while, then we ran out of savings. The following month my hubby was diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. My teenage daughter, who has suffered from depression for years, said she wanted to kill herself (she has been and still is under the care of a doctor and therapist and now one two medications), I started applying for jobs for the first time in 10 years.

I work full time hours, but because my job is commission based I haven't even made enough to cover the cost of the cell phone that the company requires that I have. My younger daughter has some struggles and she is going to be testing for learning disabilities as well as seeking help for her Selective Muteism. Today after waiting months to hear something, we found out that we don't qualify for any help from our mortgage company or another other agency and we are going to lose our house. I'm so beat. I try and I try and I tray, but it is never enough.

I know things could be worse, but right now everything seems to be too much to handle. It's just all too much. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know where we will live, I don't know how I'm going to pay for my hubby's and my daughter's meds (in addition to all my asthma meds), and I don't know how we are going to survive, how we are going to pay for the things we need to live. We had cut back as far as possible. I only have a prepaid cell for work, we don't have fancy tv, we don't eat out, we don't go shopping or to movies or anything, I only leave the house for work and church....we can't sell our house because we owe more than it is worth. I just don't know what we can do and it hurts so much.

getting by
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   Posted 5/8/2010 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,

I am so so sorry to hear about your struggles. Have you thought about contacting the department of human services in your area for help? With your husband being terminally ill, I think that they would help you. They will give you money, insurance and a food card. Check it out. This could save your home.

I am sorry also about your daughters situation. But this could help you all. Check it out. Also there are some pharmaceutical companies that will give you a discount on meds if need be. Phizer is one of them, and I think Merik. Not positive.

Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Keep searching. You should qualify for help from DHS. Give it a try.

Hope that things do get better for you. I would hate to see you lose your home. That would be tragic. Keep posting and know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/9/2010 3:47 AM (GMT -7)   
your in my thoughts and prayers too. can your church family assist you a bit? with compassion, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


cross-stitcher
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   Posted 5/10/2010 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for the responses. Right now I just feel like there is no hope. I'm struggling to get up in the morning and through the day. I have struggled through a lot in my life and this is the worse I have ever felt. I just don't have it in my to continue on like this. There just seems to be such a dark cloud over me.

I am tired and want to climb back into bed, but motherhood and my job are calling.

getting by
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   Posted 5/10/2010 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   
I am glad that you have your children and your job. But do check out the dept. of human services and see what they can help you with. I am sure that there is help out there for you.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


Becky77
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   Posted 5/10/2010 9:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Just wanted to respond and tell you that you are definitely not alone in what you're going through. I lost my job a year ago and it was a HUGE transition for me to go through. Besides cutting back on expenses, I have also cut way back on going out. But that comes with a cost. I've gotten to the point like you, that I don't even want to leave my bed some days. Does your church have bible studies or any kind of small group meeting that you could connect with? Having something worthwhile to look forward to besides work would be good for you.

Definitely look into assistance from the government. Food stamps and assistance for needy family are income based, so you should be able to get help in that way. You can apply online for them. The Dept of Children & Families is who does that. Also, like Karen said, look into help with your medicines. I'm sure there is help out there. Even if it's not a lot, it's something. Maybe your doctors would know of programs out there that might help also.

If you don't want to discuss your husband's diagnosis, I would suggest posting in the forum that applies to what illness he has been diagnosed with. (Of course, that is if there is one here at HW) If not here, you could look for a forum that applies to what he is going through. I'm sure talking to others who understand would help you in that aspect. It's hard dealing with any diagnosis, but to keep it in can be bad for you. I'm sure there are others out there that might be able to help you through struggles you will run in to with your husband being sick.

I'm glad you posted. I'll be thinking about you and praying for your family.
Becky

32 yr old female-dx with Crohn's in '97 after emergency resection and appendectomy, 2nd resection '05, Bilateral pulmonary emboli 10/09
Currently on Humira, Omeprazole, Effexor, Seroquel, Calcium, Vit D
Coumadin stopped 3/15/10!!!!


Old Hippy
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   Posted 5/11/2010 7:56 PM (GMT -7)   
All I can say, is don't give up hope... You are dealing with so much now and reaching out to others can only help to ease the burden that you are carrying. You cannot do it all on your own, your family needs you to be strong, but, you need all the love & support to assist you through these hard/bleak times.... I wish you all the best and keep posting--we are here for you--whenever you need feedback & support. take care....

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/11/2010 8:36 PM (GMT -7)   
ditto. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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