Just need an ear, and maybe some advice.

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Capricia
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   Posted 5/7/2010 11:37 PM (GMT -7)   
So, I'm not exactly sure if what I am facing is even depression, or if it's something more. All I know is nothing in my life has ever been more than just sort of happy, including the birth of my two children, and I feel like I'm in a relationship with a guy who's had enough of who I am and what is going on with me. I've gone to my family doctor for assistance, but counseling isn't free, so I've been prescribed Wellbutrin.


So, I guess to fill you in a little on what is going on lately.

I feel disconnected from my mother-in-law, I barely speak to my mother. I don't even know where my father is. And to top that cake off with the icing, i somehow in my disillusioned, depressed, pregnant state with my first agreed that if anything should happen with my boyfriend, I wouldn't fight for custody. Now, don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend, and I don't want to leave him, but there were times when it was THAT BAD and I didn't, for fear I would lose my son. And that doesn't even begin to summarize...I also have major trust issues; jealousy towards other females, convinced they all like him, even if I have no proof of the matter. Yesterday I even so much as asked a friend if this was so, and have received no response (which I don't blame her for), and am now also upset that in my misguided state I have ruined a friendship.

Hopefully someone has some advice, because I'm at an emotional loss.

getting by
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   Posted 5/8/2010 7:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the forum. Yes, Jealousy, the green eyed monster. You have to work on that or it will drive you insane. I use to be jealous, then I told myself that it was only hurting me and that life is too darn short for all those feelings. It hurts ourselves more than anything. I guess what helped me, is I told myself that if it is meant to be it will. And I ignored all of my feelings after that. I made it for 23 years with this man until he died in 2002. So try to talk yourself out of the jealous aspect of it. It is only hurting yourself.

There are often programs to help you get free or low cost counseling. I would check into that. It really is a good support place for a person such as yourself. So I would contact the local mental health system that you have. Also the department of Human services often helps with that. So check them out too. If your income is low enough they will help you.

Best wishes to you. Keep posting. Know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


Capricia
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   Posted 5/8/2010 6:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Karen,
Thanks for the introduction, it's much appreciated.

As for everything else...some feelings are hard to ignore. I just found out that one of my boyfriend's closest friends has strong feelings for him....and she told me not to tell him, except due to the mistrust I mentioned earlier, I already know that she already told him. So I am sitting here wondering if they're both trying to cover something up, or if they're just messing with my head, and I don't know what to do.

getting by
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   Posted 5/8/2010 7:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Either way, it isn't a good situation. If it is so. I guess if he is meant to be yours he will. There isn't much you can do if they have something going on. You can't change their feelings. I hope that it isn't so, for your sake. Try to be trustful, and follow your heart. I know this is hard, but if it is meant to be, you will find out if something is going on. Like I say, I hope that it isn't.

Let us know what comes of this. We will be here for you, no matter what.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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