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Drowzor
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   Posted 5/8/2010 9:08 PM (GMT -7)   
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Becky77
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   Posted 5/8/2010 10:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Depression really doesn't care whether or not you are a "fortunate" person. It doesn't care if you have a nice home, cars, etc. It doesn't care that there are people worse off than you. I think it's really an equal opportunity disease. If you're feeling depressed, you should talk to a dr about it, and look into ways to try to get yourself to a better place. You've gone through a lot, and being worn down and depressed is understandable. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just something that happened along the way.

I'm glad you found HW and were able to share your story with us.

(sorry if this seems short with you, I'm about to turn in and getting really sleepy, but wanted to reply)
Becky

32 yr old female-dx with Crohn's in '97 after emergency resection and appendectomy, 2nd resection '05, Bilateral pulmonary emboli 10/09
Currently on Humira, Omeprazole, Effexor, Seroquel, Calcium, Vit D
Coumadin stopped 3/15/10!!!!


getting by
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   Posted 5/9/2010 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Becky is right, depression does not discriminate. It chooses whoever it wants. And there is no getting away from that fact.

I would suggest some counseling for this. Possibly medication, but the counseling might alone help. You have done nothing wrong. You are a good person, especially for loving a child that wasn't yours. And I hope that you are able to be a good influence on him and can spend quality time with him. As for the mother, she sounds very selfish. I would limit my time with her. Just see your son.

You are going to meet all kinds in your life. Women who are good and women who are not. It is up to you to choose if you want to. Hopefully you will meet a nice lady and have a fantastic relationship with her. When the time is right for you.

I can't say enough how I admire you taking care of your son. And yes he is your son, even if the dna isn't the same. He looks up to you as a father and that is what is important. You are a good person. Never forget that.

I hope that you feel better soon. Check out the counseling. Keep posting and let us know how things are going.

Take care, best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


getting by
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   Posted 5/9/2010 11:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Try meditation. And maybe some self help books would be in order. But the meditation really helps to clear the mind. And the books would benefit you too. If you don't want to go to the doctor, there is nothing that we can do about it other than to try to encourage you. Taking antidepressants isn't a bad thing and wouldn't be frowned upon. You would be trying to help yourself and that is a good thing. And for the counseling. Even counselors go to counseling. And being it is your mother, she may not be able to be objective enough same as for yourself. Though you do seem to be able to handle the situation rather well. I wish you the best of luck.

Hope that you are having a good day.

Hugs, Karen
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Never Quit
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   Posted 5/9/2010 6:52 PM (GMT -7)   
In reading your post, there were a few things that struck me. First how courageous you were to fight so hard for your son. And he IS your son. The second is that when you decided to try to socialize, you did it by going somewhere that you don't enjoy going. Have you considered spending your free time in activities that you enjoy (rock climbing, bowling, etc.). You would have a much better chance of meeting friends (both male and female) who would share a common interest.

getting by
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   Posted 5/10/2010 6:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I am glad that you are checking into the meditation. I practice it and it really does help. You get control over your mind and body. Plus takes you away and you still are aware of your surroundings. Best of luck wiht this. If you need any tips, I am open to discuss.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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