Husband is thinking about leaving me due to my depression

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Lakehouse Girl
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   Posted 5/15/2010 5:21 AM (GMT -7)   
cry  A couple of months ago my husband told me he wasn't sure if he was in love with me anymore. He said he is tired of dealing with my depression, plus we also deal with a son who is a recovering drug addict. Before he told me this I was doing so well and now I'm all messed up. 
 

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   Posted 5/15/2010 5:57 AM (GMT -7)   
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Wow, that is alot to deal with. I am sure you know that substance abuse effects the entire family. I want to assure you that it is quite common for couples to struggle when it comes to having a child that has a substance abuse issues.
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   Posted 5/15/2010 7:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lakehouse girl,

welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. Here you will find many caring and compassionate members. I hope that you continue to post and stay with us.

Best wishes to you,

Hugs, Karen
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Lakehouse Girl
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   Posted 5/15/2010 7:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for the welcoming.

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   Posted 5/15/2010 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   
You are so welcome...

Please keep posting and let us know how things are going. I am sorry for what you are going through. Have you sought counseling for your depression? It does really help you to cope. I am sure that your husband will be there for you, he may just be a little frustrated, but I am sure that he loves you very much.

Keep trying, take it one day at a time. And know that we are here for you.

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Lakehouse Girl
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   Posted 5/15/2010 7:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Between my husband & my son, I,m really having trouble making it through each day.  I saw my Dr. yesterday and he upped my dosage of effexor a little to see if it might help me. This is just all too much to handle!  How do I deal with this? I'm at our lakehouse now and my husband should be here shortly & I'm already concerned about my energy level and sadness. He has big plans for us to go out to dinner tonight & I was up at 5AM and I just don't know if I can do it.  He wants to golf today and have me ride the cart. I worry that he'll want to leave me even more because I just am not doing well cry

Lakehouse Girl
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   Posted 5/15/2010 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Karen my husband us full of major anger. His sick of me being ill & my son is a full time job.

Lakehouse Girl
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   Posted 5/15/2010 7:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Karen I forgot to mention that I do see a counselor and a psychiatrist. 

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   Posted 5/15/2010 8:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I took effexor for manymany years. It did good for me, I just recently switched to pristiq because I had to have such a high dose of effexor (375mg). I also take abilify which goes well with effexor. It is a mood stabilizer. That might be something you would like to think about.

You will get through this, try not to be pessimestic about what is going to happen. Let things just happen. You are underminding your self by thinking everything is going to turn out bad. ONe day at a time sweetie. That is the way to go. One moment at a time if you have to. I am glad taht you are seeing a counselor. It really does help a lot. I have been going for years. I do have a good counselor which helps. And I see a psychiatrist too.

I hope that this helps some. think good thoughts. Have fun, let him know that you tire easily. I think you deserve to have a great time at the lakehouse.

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   Posted 5/15/2010 9:34 PM (GMT -7)   
hi LHG. one day at a time. remember communication is key. depression sucks. we all have it and understand. sending healing thoughts your way. ps, am glad you are in therapy. with compassion, jamie.
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   Posted 5/16/2010 5:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Lakehouse girl....I went through a similar situation. When my symptoms were very bad and I was so low my husband walked out on me. He did no believe in depression. His attitude was "pull up your boot straps and deal". I got so tired of hearing that and frustrated with myself because I could not do as he asked. I found out later after hitting bottom and attempting suicide that he was the cause of a lot of my symptoms becoming worse. I giving all of myself to keep him happy and I lost who I was or who I thought I was supposed to be . Dont let that happen to you You are not to blame....it is an illness.

Much love and sympathy
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   Posted 5/16/2010 5:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Happiless,

That was such an inspiring and wise response you posted to Lakegirl. I'm so happy for you that you are free of a situation that brought you down. I also would say that it really is important to separate what is depression and what is depression brought on by spouses who are not treating us like we deserve to be treated: respectfully, and with kindness and tenderness.

Lakehouse girl, keep posting here. As I'm sure you know, it's important to have an outlet and a lifeline in times like you're facing, and this is a great support group. Karen and Jamie are always here with big caring hearts and good suggestions. In fact, I joined this forum a couple years ago due to depression related to my marriage and Karen's posts were my bright spots in a day and helped me get through that hard time.

embers

Post Edited (manyembers) : 5/16/2010 6:31:16 PM (GMT-6)

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