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brany73&
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   Posted 5/19/2010 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
 

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   Posted 5/19/2010 1:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,

Welcome to the depression forum nandini. Have you tried counseling at all? I think with your current situation that you could use some. It is hard to forget our past. But you have to learn to do that and move forward. You are so fortunate to be a third year medical student. You have a lot going for you right now. So I would seriously think about counseling so that the past will not interfere with your present.

Please keep posting and know that we all support you and want to see you succeed at what you are doing. Study hard. That is so important. Maybe learn some meditation so that you can free your mind.

Take care my friend. Hope that we can help you.

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/19/2010 11:57 PM (GMT -7)   
we can offer you peer support. i am sorry that you are having a difficult time. are you able to defer your studies? it seems like you need a break. you certainly need some professional counselling, can your dr. refer you to someone? in the meantime know that we are here for you. with compassion, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
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   Posted 5/20/2010 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Try this,
 
 
It is free.  See if that will help you any.
 
You have to focus on your studies.  Ignore what people say and do if you can.  You are a strong individual, you do matter.  I am sorry that your family is upsetting you too.
 
Hugs, Karen
 
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   Posted 5/20/2010 9:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I would get ahold of the school counselor and let him know that you are having trouble studying. This is so important to you right now. You need to learn to keep the thoughts of what is going on in your personal life seperate from what is going on in school, and focus on that. You have to study and be able to pay attention. Maybe you could study in a quiet room. But a counselor would probably set you up with a study guide or even some tutoring. It sounds like you need it.

Try not to listen to what your family is saying. It doesn't matter what they think. What matters is that you know that you are trying. I sure do hope that you talk to a counselor and get some sense of direction in all of this.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 5/23/2010 6:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Try not to hate anybody. It only makes us sad inside. It is better to be used a little than to not trust people. People like that will be in and out of our lives for the rest of our lives. And if you continue to hate, you will only feel bad. Learn to forgive, and eventually you will be on to these types of people and they wont be able to use you anymore. Stay the same sweet person that you already are.

I find that when I don't trust people, it only makes me paranoid. So I guess that I let people take advantage of me now and then. But I have chosen my friends carefully and no longer get used.

Learn to say "no". There are times when it is okay to say no. That is a hard one, I know, but weigh out the differences of saying yes and saying no. And know that when you do say no, it is for the right reasons. Sometimes we have to look after ourselves in these situations.

Know that saying no is okay.

Hugs, Karen
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marymn
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   Posted 5/24/2010 4:08 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah...
Say NO wen you really feel like saying NO.
Try to live for yourself, it doesn't matter what others feel about you, provided wen it doesn't hurt others.
Cheer up girl..
We are here to help you!!


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   Posted 5/26/2010 6:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Nandini,

First of all i had to edit your post as we are not to discuss suicide on the forum. Also what you said about wanting your mom dead, this is not allowed. You have to get these thoughts out of your head.

Try not to let her words get to you. It sounds like she has some emotional issues. Know that when you are talking to your counselor, you are doing the right thing. Ignore your mother when she says otherwise.

I know that you take great stock in what your mother says, but it sounds like she is not well, so just try to ignore what she says to you. You are a smart and special person and you are loved here. Know that we all care about you.

Keep posting, talk to your counselor. She is truly trying to help you. I am sorry that your mother does not support you. Mine didn't support me. But I made it okay. It took me years to realize that she was wrong. But I finally did.

Hugs, Karen
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brany73&
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   Posted 5/26/2010 10:18 AM (GMT -7)   
hi thanks a lot r the reply .i guess i overeacted.after that incident i tried sleeping but couldnt so i went to my friends room in hostel and studied with her .i felt happy and did study and i am little angry with my mom .but basically she is a nice person its just that wen she gets angry ,she cannot control it ,says nasty thing which she really dosent mean and i just cant take any negative sayings said abt me. she did cool after that .i treat her like a friend and tell her every thing and she just uses whatever told to her against me .i want my space and she dosent understand it all.she is constantly worried abt my studies a lot .i love her sometime and hate her r her negative attitude.thanks a lot to u guys iam really happy after i pent my feeling to u .and i feel elated to read ur replies.i do want to live my life till the end iits just that i am often put off by my moms negative attitude and i cant move into the hostel because otherwise she will never get her counselling done and nobody is there to look after her.there are llot of changes in her ,she gets pissed off seing me tired or sleepy.but i guess bunking classes during exam time is k with me infact everybody does it and i have very good attendance.i dont have anyway to make her see my point ,she thinks i am irresponsible,i am not i know wat to do ,and wat nt to do.she dosent let me grow up.i feel very suffocated and stangulated with her wen she gets very angry.

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   Posted 5/26/2010 10:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Maybe she is starting to get empty nest syndrome from the thought of you growing up and facing adult situations. She might be in denial and want to keep you her little girl. She probably just doesn't know how to express it. Keep being her friend and know that soon you will be out on your own.

Hugs, Karen
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brany73&
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   Posted 5/26/2010 11:24 PM (GMT -7)   
may me i vl talk abt it to my counsellor. today my day was gud i am happy and should keep my spirit up. i AM RIGHT NW NOT TALKING TO MY MOM NOW,dont want to spoil my mood ,she does try to talk but i deny it.have my sessional exams 2 days after so bunking only an unimportant class.rest i attended.nw my mom is again goin to shout at me r bunking i cant help it.every body is doin it .and the classes i missed ,can be adjusted in the next semester .i am the student i know what to do .and i get pizzed wen my friends leave me and go or wen they forget me .and wen they dont catch place r me or wen i am talking they dont respond or wen they give other person more importance than me.and wen they tell no ,i take it to my heart and feel very bad .i always feel left out with lots of people around me .but i am k in talking with each person indivially.but wen in a group i am nt able express my views or talk to anyone.i am very self conscious in groups how do i get rid of my self consciousness.plz help

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/26/2010 11:54 PM (GMT -7)   
time for you to beleive in you. wow, you made it into medicine!! you will be a wonderful doctor. keep being around people, and positive people, this will help. what you are learning about others, and their behaviours will aid you in your studies and practical demenstrations as a caring person and someone that not only listens, but one who hears as well. with blessings, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
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REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


brany73&
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   Posted 5/27/2010 3:47 AM (GMT -7)   
hi thanks a lot guys my mood is really lifted up by ur replies .i am so happy to be in this community and talking to u guys is really wonderful experience.i want to be a cardiac surgeron.
with hugs

brany73&
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   Posted 5/27/2010 9:48 PM (GMT -7)   
hi guys i hav started to believe in myself .and feel happy abt myself .i am gud and though i had my share of major failure and of no fault of mine .i had the courage to face it and fight it all alone. i dont want to have have any airs abt it but i feel proud and happy abt myself .i will keep up my fighting spirit .and will not lend my ears to negative people around me .i have started controlling my anger and negativity which was induced by my family.all thanks to u guys.have my exam tom and vl start preparing nw.


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   Posted 5/28/2010 8:19 AM (GMT -7)   
wonderful news!!!

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brany73&
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   Posted 5/28/2010 11:18 PM (GMT -7)   
s guys i am goin give my exam 2day and whatever i have learnt will answer with confidence without hesitation or fear .bye

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 5/29/2010 2:09 AM (GMT -7)   
well done, am proud of you as well. you be proud of you too!! with compassion, jamie. keep posting. :-)
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


brany73&
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   Posted 5/31/2010 12:30 AM (GMT -7)   
hi guys i got my supplemementry resuts of my second year and i passed in 2 subjects and flunked in one .i am really so sad wen i told my friend about it she said that i worked so hard and i flunked and she said that she didnt know how she passed .and in my college office a particular person keeps on having grudge on me because i get scolorship r my studies and takes every chance to insult me and show me down i am feeling so dissy ,all my class mates r goin mock at me ,every body in my college think that i dont study but only i know i study how many failures will i come across after studying ,i am not like other kids who gets everything and who dont make use of it and i am the only one in the class who has depression and is coping with it no body undrestands my depreression .what sho depression pls helpall i do again iam goin int

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   Posted 5/31/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Nandini,

Can you take that class over again? Is it possible that you are a little add and can't focus when you study? I found that was my problem, I would read a whole page and not even comprehend what I read. That could be your problem. Or I would know everything until the test came and then I would forget it. It was so frustrating.

I wouldn't let it get to me. Keep pushing on and never give up. You can do this. We are totally behind you. Know that we all support you and that we all care.

Take care my friend.

Hugs, Karen
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brany73&
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   Posted 6/1/2010 6:12 AM (GMT -7)   
hi i am not able to focuss on studying and never go by my time table ,can u give me tips to increase my memory power and i get stuck on one chapter r long time how to manage time effectively

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   Posted 6/1/2010 6:36 AM (GMT -7)   
It is possible that ginko liboba might help you. It is an herb that helps with concentration and memory. It might be something to think about. Do you take notes when you study? That helps me. Write down things that sound important and that helps you remember them. I never was good at studying. My mind wandered too much. But hopefully somebody will come on with some tips for you.

Try to study in a quiet place too. That often helps you absorb more information.

Best wishes sweetie,

Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/2/2010 3:27 AM (GMT -7)   
pick a time, a quiet spot, no radio or t.v i will do the same as i have 3 assigmnents to finish myself. all the best, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


brany73&
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   Posted 6/3/2010 10:47 PM (GMT -7)   
hi guys,2day my heart is broken i am feeling very sad and depressed ,i amunhappy over my results .i am fed up .how much failures will i face .my eyes are getting tired from studying ,i am fed up of studyin,g i desparately want abreak,my body is feeling very heavy and have adull aching pain in the muscles. i feel so stuck up in this place i want to enjoy my life but with medicine its not possible.i feel like dropping dead of studying .i have no interest in studying right now .please help.have my third year sessionals till 15th of this month.

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   Posted 6/4/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Give yourself breaks during study time. Study for so long and make yourself take a break. I think we retain information better that way.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
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margaret_us
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   Posted 6/6/2010 9:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Depression is caused by a lack of Serotonin just like a diabetic who doesn't have ability to produce its' own insullin. Depresion is being sad empty and alone even if your surrounded by familly members during a special fest.you have to adopt some measures seriously, if u want to overcome ur depression.




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