Teenage depression - help?

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jj137purple
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   Posted 6/13/2010 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,
 
lately things have just been getting worse and worse, but yet nothing extremely traumatic has happened?
I used to be first in my year academically and didn't get stressed at exam time. But last month when my summer exams came round i  had touble sleeping, i couldn't concentrate, got really irritable and cried myself to sleep etc.
        
I think it all really hit a few months ago when i just started thinking about what i had actually done with my life and what friends i had and i realised that my life had become so isolated...
 
To me i feels that my main family and i (mum, dad, sister) never do anything, go anywhere or know anyone.
Like for example we have lived on a large estate for 13 years and yet i don't know any of my neighbours, i'm not very close to my family and i dont even know any of my cousins or aunts and uncles because my mum and dad don't get along with them apparentley.
 
We don't have any family friends and i dont really know many people outside of school, and in school i'm kind of invisible.
 
It just seems that all other people i know are a lot busier than me and know lots of people and are always doing lots of interesting things and my life just seems boring and pathetic.
I've tried talking to my parents about how i feel and i asked if we could go more places or if we could get to know our family or something but they just said no.
I've tried going out with a few friends from school  - most of them decided not to go because they had better things to do and when i tried talking to the rest of them it just seems that they would rather be talking to someone else.
Or like no one really wants to talk to me? like even if i try to text someone i hardly ever get replies.
 
I really just want to meet new people and make new friends and be close to my family and just basicallly....have fun.
But i feel that no one really cares about or notices me and when i try to change i come across as desperate.
 
I just don't know what to do,
 
Sorry for making this so long!
Thanks for reading this :)
Please leave comments :) xx
Jessica
 

getting by
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   Posted 6/13/2010 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jessica,
 
I am so sorry that your life is so isolated.  But you will have plenty of friends when you go to college.  How old are you?
Will you be going to college soon?  It is a whole different life when you start.  Though you are responsible for yourself, so some growing up has to go on.  Responsibility that is.  But it sounds like you can handle that.
 
Here are a few sites that I found for you.  I hope that they help.  They are for teen depression and often young adults find them helpful.
 
 
I believe these are mostly teen forums, but this way you can get some replies from people like yourself and it might be helpful for you.   In the meantime, keep posting.  It is kind of slow on the weekends, but busy during the week.
 
Take care hon
 
Hugs, Karen
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myjoy
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   Posted 6/13/2010 10:41 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Karen on the college thing. Things will get better then, and you will meet tons of people. Do you have at least one real close friend right now? If not, strive for that. Everyone needs friends.

You can't make your parents take you out anywhere, but at least they let you go out of the house, right? Enjoy those moments when you are out. I can't work because of my disabilities, and we live in the boonies on a country road. I spend lots of time alone, until my husband gets home from work, and he works very long hours. So I really relish the days when I am out with friends.

Sometimes when we are depressed we think people may be talking about us, or that we are uninteresting etc....a lot of that is backround noise from the depression. We must like ourselves enough to know that we deserve friends. No one is better than anyone else. So think highly of yourself - others will see you are fun to be with.

Maybe see your school counselor (if you have one), and tell that person how you are feeling. It may help you to get things out. And of course we are here to chat with as well. Take care.
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neverbetter
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   Posted 6/13/2010 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Jessica,

I completely understand where you are coming from. I experienced the same thing in regards to the isolation- my family is unsocial, and I had pushed all my friends away and became isolated myself. You just need to realize that this feeling of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your life will eventually disappear, should you choose to help yourself and you grow physically and spiritually.

I agree that depression can make it seem like we are isolated from the rest of the world. It can make it seem like people hate us and are judging us, because they can't understand what goes on in our heads. It's true that they actually can't understand what goes in our heads, but we do, and we can choose to ignore those thoughts to an extent.

Just remember, the life you are living right now is not permanent. You will one day have the power to take yourself out of your isolation and live the life YOU want to lead, not the one your family wants you to lead or the people around you want you to lead. Also, I agree that some therapy or a school counselor would help greatly! Best wishes!
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