Four funerals, one year, countless tears.

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SuNeJo
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   Posted 6/18/2010 4:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Since the beginning of 2010 I've attended Three funerals for: My uncle, my grandfather, and just today, my aunt.  I keep crying during these funerals and feel sick.  My grandfather's was the worst.  I have a FOURTH funeral to attend tomorrow for my second uncle...The worst part is...my grandmother is dying in 6 months, and i dont think i can handle another death.
 
Even the people I never knew are dying...my house cleaner's husband died from cancer, and a little crow i named Charlie in my backyard died two days ago.  It's too much, i just can't take it anymore.  My mom can't go ONE DAY without crying and i feel so horrible watching that. 
 
It's like everyone in my family is dying and im so scared to lose someone closest to me.
 
What do i do?
 
Suzy Nell J.

Aurora60
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   Posted 6/18/2010 5:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Suzy, I am so sorry that you have had to go through so many deaths in your family. I know it must be overwhelming. I have lost all of my family I grew up with so I understand the terrible sadness. I know it will take time to come to terms with all of this. Is there a grief support group that you and your mom can participate in?
Sometimes a hospital or hospice has this type of group where you can go and express your feelings and be comforted by others. Or maybe there is a counseling service where you can go a few times to help you through this difficult time. Counseling may help you to deal with your grandmother's illness. Just a few suggestions I thought might help you. You can always come here and post and there is always someone who will answer you. Try to take good care of yourself.
 
Aurora

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   Posted 6/18/2010 6:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Suzy,

I am so sorry to hear about all the deaths that you have had to deal with. That happened to me when I was younger. I lost two sisters, my mother, my grandmother and a great aunt all with in a two year period. It was rough. For some reason things like that seem to come in threes. That is what they say anyway.

Know that we are all here for you. Keep posting and let us know how you are holding up. Be good to yourself.

Hugs, Karen
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harrington49
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   Posted 6/18/2010 11:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Suzy

I am so sorry that you have had to suffer so much grief for one so young. The only thing I can say is that those people are in a better place, out of pain and sleeping peacefully.

I want you to try and focus on life and those living around you now. It is hard to accept I know but it is a fact of life and it will happen to all of us eventually, I know you know that. You have to pick yourself up now and stop thinking about it and do something else, play some music, visit your friends or just sit and talk to your mother I am sure she would like that.

Keep posting and let us know how you are going.
Harrington49


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/19/2010 3:29 AM (GMT -7)   
my heartfelt condolences. i will keep you and those passed in my thoughts. with compassion, jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
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SuNeJo
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   Posted 6/19/2010 6:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for all your responses ..
I think everything's going to be okay, i think my mom is still grieving and trying to understand all thats just happened..but its definatly going to take time.
It's true they're in a better place and they've lived their lives and now its time for us to live our own. I'll keep you guys posted if anything else happens.

Thanks,
Suzy Nell.

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/19/2010 9:28 PM (GMT -7)   
it does take time. here for you suzy. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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