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Spray21
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   Posted 6/22/2010 12:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey, I havn't been on here for a month or 2. School is finally over so it crosses out some problem but created new problems because i found out i have summer school for global, Also my brother and I fight a lot because he is very judgmental and impulsive. My big brother has been the favorite latly and it annoys me. I found out my dad not only chew tobacco but smokes, I am not sure what he smokes but all i know is he smoke after i saw blunt wraps with like 3 lighters near them. my dad has been very moody also lately. I feel that my counsellor i have thinks i don't want to be with her because i missed 2 meetings on accident. the first time was because my mom told me i was suppose to meet with my counselor when i was already on my bus ride home. the second time my mom told me the day before to go to student services after school..i went and my school counselor said to go to family help center but since I'm a freshman i don't know what that is and i couldn't find it..so i went on the bus before the bus left. Then last wednesday I flipped out on my brother cuz he just got me on my last nerve. Also I have been trying to thin of something to do this summer i wish i was old enough for a summer job..but i decided to make a blog..which i made 4 days ago..I would put it in here but i don't want to get in trouble for advertising.



Edit: Sorry for the bad grammer its almost 415am here and i cant sleep even though im tired.

Post Edited (Jacob21) : 6/22/2010 2:12:40 AM (GMT-6)


harrington49
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   Posted 6/22/2010 5:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Jacob

I haven't seen you on here before but I have only been on here myself for probably a month or so, so welcome back.

It sounds to me like you and your brother are normal teenage brothers who fight over anything and everything, is that right? You say he is judgemental and implusive, about what exactly? You say he is the favourate lately, did he do better in school than you or are your parents just showing him a little bit more attention at the moment? It's hard being the second child, I know because I am the second child in a family of 4 girls and that was really hard.

Can you sort it out with your counsellor, just explain what happened I am sure she will understand.

Mmmmmm..........the summers are long aren't they? If you aren't old enough to get a job, what about doing some volunteer work like at an old peoples' home, or maybe a preschool, or do some odd jobs for your neighbours or just visit some sick people in hospital, just something you might want to think about and I think that would probably help with how your parents see you too. You don't want to sit in front of the computer for the whole summer do you?

I'm not sure what it is your dad is smoking, why don't you ask him about it? Just say something like "Dad, I didn't know you smoked?" and see what he says.

I hope you will keep posting and let us know what you are doing with your summer Jason, as I am particularly interested.
Harrington49


getting by
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   Posted 6/22/2010 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jason,

Glad to see you back. I am sorry that you and your brother aren't getting along, but it is kind of normal for siblings to fight. Try not to react to him though. I know it is hard, but if you don't react, you will be farther ahead. Don't let him control your moods. you control them, so stay in a good one. You can do this.

I agree that you should talk to your counselor and explain what happened. It wasn't your fault that you missed the meetings was it? I think that the counselor would understand.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. Know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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Spray21
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   Posted 6/22/2010 11:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Yea i been on here before i didn't really post as much. I went into the chat a lot.

well it's hard because most of my friends brothers are much more nice to my friends but my bro isnt only judgemental to me hes judgemental to everyone.

I don't know how old u have to be to do volunteer work. i would work for spca but you jhave to be like 16.

The problem is with asking my dad when did he start smoking because he gets very moody..i got him a watch for fathers day he didnt say thank you he said wow i can barly see the numbers on this thing..so i think he thought my brothers gift was better because he said thank you and hugged him when my bbrother only got him a card.

I will try as hard as i can to check up every day and make posts

harrington49 said...
Hey Jacob

I haven't seen you on here before but I have only been on here myself for probably a month or so, so welcome back.

It sounds to me like you and your brother are normal teenage brothers who fight over anything and everything, is that right? You say he is judgemental and implusive, about what exactly? You say he is the favourate lately, did he do better in school than you or are your parents just showing him a little bit more attention at the moment? It's hard being the second child, I know because I am the second child in a family of 4 girls and that was really hard.

Can you sort it out with your counsellor, just explain what happened I am sure she will understand.

Mmmmmm..........the summers are long aren't they? If you aren't old enough to get a job, what about doing some volunteer work like at an old peoples' home, or maybe a preschool, or do some odd jobs for your neighbours or just visit some sick people in hospital, just something you might want to think about and I think that would probably help with how your parents see you too. You don't want to sit in front of the computer for the whole summer do you?

I'm not sure what it is your dad is smoking, why don't you ask him about it? Just say something like "Dad, I didn't know you smoked?" and see what he says.

I hope you will keep posting and let us know what you are doing with your summer Jason, as I am particularly interested.

Spray21
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Date Joined Mar 2010
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 6/22/2010 11:54 AM (GMT -7)   
lol my name is jacob i think you got some names mixed up.

i try as hard as i can to not react but after awhile when it builds up then he locked me outside of the house 2 hours and i just got really mad.. i told my mom and she didn't care.. I asked if i can move in with my aunt for the summer so i don't have to deal with my brother..she ignored me.



getting by said...
Hi Jason,

Glad to see you back. I am sorry that you and your brother aren't getting along, but it is kind of normal for siblings to fight. Try not to react to him though. I know it is hard, but if you don't react, you will be farther ahead. Don't let him control your moods. you control them, so stay in a good one. You can do this.

I agree that you should talk to your counselor and explain what happened. It wasn't your fault that you missed the meetings was it? I think that the counselor would understand.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. Know that we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen

getting by
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   Posted 6/22/2010 1:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry Jacob that I got your name mixed up. My mistake. I hope that you are feeling a little bit better than you were. You are an incredible person and I hope that you know that. Know that we are all here for you whenever you need.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


harrington49
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Date Joined May 2010
Total Posts : 355
   Posted 6/22/2010 5:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Jacob

So sorry I also mixed your name up, I was writing pretty late so I guess that is my excuse.

I am pretty sure you would be able to visit the hospital and just go around and talk to people who don't get many or no visitors, I am sure they would love to have a lovely young man like yourself pop in and say hello for a few minutes. It is pretty sad when you're sick in hospital and you have no-one to come and see you, maybe it is worth a try. You would probably have to okay it with the head nurse first though. That's what I would do if I had a long summer ahead of me.

Keep posting Jacob, I like your style.
Harrington49


Spray21
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Date Joined Mar 2010
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 6/22/2010 5:35 PM (GMT -7)   
getting by said...
I am sorry Jacob that I got your name mixed up. My mistake. I hope that you are feeling a little bit better than you were. You are an incredible person and I hope that you know that. Know that we are all here for you whenever you need.

Hugs, Karen


It's okay, I am feeling better thank you. [:

Spray21
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Date Joined Mar 2010
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   Posted 6/22/2010 5:40 PM (GMT -7)   
harrington49 said...
Hey Jacob

So sorry I also mixed your name up, I was writing pretty late so I guess that is my excuse.

I am pretty sure you would be able to visit the hospital and just go around and talk to people who don't get many or no visitors, I am sure they would love to have a lovely young man like yourself pop in and say hello for a few minutes. It is pretty sad when you're sick in hospital and you have no-one to come and see you, maybe it is worth a try. You would probably have to okay it with the head nurse first though. That's what I would do if I had a long summer ahead of me.

Keep posting Jacob, I like your style.

It's alright I had bad grammer that one post because it was late..I want to go to the hospital but i need to find the shortest distance to ride my bike to. This is because my mom is always busy and never home so i am most of the time home alone or with my bro. I think it is a great idea to go visit people at the hospital.

harrington49
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Date Joined May 2010
Total Posts : 355
   Posted 6/22/2010 8:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jacob

You are such a lovely young man, a credit to your parents as you have very nice manners which in today's world is a huge plus.

Keep posting and let me know what you decided to do with your long summer, I am in Australia so it is fairly cool here at the moment.
Harrington49


THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 6/23/2010 4:57 AM (GMT -7)   
yep jacob, very cold in my part of australia. keep your chin up. i like your style as well. jamie. keep posting.
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Spray21
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Date Joined Mar 2010
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 6/23/2010 3:06 PM (GMT -7)   
jamiee said...
yep jacob, very cold in my part of australia. keep your chin up. i like your style as well. jamie. keep posting.


Thank you i will keep posting..yea its so humid here lol
old name was jacob21


harrington49
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Date Joined May 2010
Total Posts : 355
   Posted 6/23/2010 10:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Spray21

YOU'VE CHANGED YOUR NAME!! Was that because Karen and I made such a mess of it Jason ............I mean Jacob (LOL).
Harrington49

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