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husbandofill
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   Posted 6/23/2010 9:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone, I have been feeling down lately and wanted to express some of my feelings, and hopefully get some advice on job seeking.

I have been here before seeking advice for my wife on the UC forums. I just wanted to take this one for myself.

I have been employed with a collection agency for a few months now, I am the sales rep, my sole responsibility is to make sales calls via the phone book for new clients. Well I have pretty much exhausted my work, I have called every major business field in the phone book and have ran out of folks to call and bother. I am pretty sure my boss has noticed my lack in sales calls and is about ready to can my butt. Which I was sort of expecting when I did run out of calls to make. It is one of those places where if your not bringing in money your not working there anymore.

I have been seeking an office job and have been extremely unsuccessful. It seems like no one in this little hell hole known as Reno NV wants to hire a guy to work in an office when they have about a thousand cute little blondes lined up for the same position. I am going nuts, and losing a lot of sleep and hope over this matter. My wife has Ulcerative Colitis and I am about to lose my job. Life right now is not going so smoothly. I can not find employment in any field. Due to economy, my experience is worthless, since there is no labor/distribution centers hiring in my area. They are doing quite the opposite, lay offs.

I hate to sound sexist, but it is something that I really feel is happening. Employers ARE looking for women for office jobs. Having something hanging between the legs is not worth as much in this world as having two things hanging between your shoulders. I am sick of it. I am feeling a lot like a failure. I can't support my wife, I can not provide her benefits for her disease. I really just feel like sleeping through the day or hiding in a closet.

Is there any advice out there for a straight male seeking a job that is smothered with nice looking females? I really don't want to strain my body anymore when there are jobs where I can sit and enter data while answering phones.

Any advice for a guy who feels like he is just screwing up big in life?

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   Posted 6/23/2010 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Husbandofill, welcome to the forums. I can't say that I have experience with this situation, but I think I might have a suggestion or two on something you could to that wouldn't be a strain on your body and also not a job that employers will pick females first. Being that you said you dont want to strain your body anymore I would assume you have been in either a trade or factory work before the collection agency. If you have experience in a trade then that might be a possibility as a supervisor of some kind, a less physical job. The same could be followed for factory situations, also consider that there is more than backbreaking labor or secretary work/data entry/cubical monkey jobs. Review your skills, review your interests...sometimes having an interest is more motivating and effective in making you successful in an endeavor than starting out with a skill. Widen your options, try not to let the unfortunate present circumstances blind you to your potential and the possibilities and opportunities that you have available and can MAKE available. Not to sound like the guy from Billy Madison...hehe but You can do it! Hehe sorry I had to. Ask God for some help, guidance, and patience until you find what is waiting for you.


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husbandofill
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   Posted 6/23/2010 11:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Christian for the reply.

I have been searching the entirety of the web, and just about any other means of job postings. Only about 10% of jobs are actually advertised. The other 90% are usually filled through an acquaintance. Sad statistic, but true. Another depressing note, 100% of those searching are fighting for those 10%. I am seriously considering calling out of the phone book once I get the can, which I have a feeling is coming very soon. With the experience of using the phone book at the collection job, I don't see what would hurt me with that one.

I have an interest, and that is a clerical/administrative position. I have also been applying for other fields of work, as well as management. As a manager for 4 years at UPS, I have decent experience in those fields. However that is not what I want. I want a stable, calm, work environment where I can put my time in and go home. No stress involved. Office drama is okay and expected, but no stress I have enough of that as is. I would take a labor job, for benefits mostly, if offered. However, none have came up in such a long time it is truly a nightmare for these industries in today's economy. No money, no sales, no shipping. IGT, one of the biggest job forces in the area has almost completely rid themselves of employment. They have even considered packing up camp and heading to their office in Vegas. With Indian reservations on the rise, our local economy is in the pooper with no turning around. Even the newer, high end casinos are closing. Unfortunately we are stuck here for the time being, though I wish we could pack up and leave too.

Then again the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

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   Posted 6/23/2010 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Husbandofill,

I am sorry that your wife has uc. This must be very hard for her. I am happy that you are coming on the forum to get her and yourself some help.

I am sure that you have felt you have exhausted all facets of this, but maybe you haven't. Keep the thinking cap on and I am sure something will come to you. I do hope that you find a job that you will like. Is there anything else opening in your employment? Are you sure that you have called everybody? I hope that you find something soon, something so that you will be able to keep insurance for your wife.

Know that I am thinking of you and praying for you.

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   Posted 6/23/2010 4:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Husbandofill

I am so sorry for your predicament. I am also sorry for your wife's illness, it can't be easy for either of you.

Have you tried "putting yourself out there" physically by door knocking on businesses rather than phoning, being a bit more forceful, encourage them to take your resume and keep it on file, make a pest of yourself so to speak, ask if it would alright if you gave them a call in a few weeks to check how things are going, that's what I would do if I were you. When you speak over the phone, it is far easier for them to tell you anything but if you are there in person it sometimes works better. I hope so for your sake.

Why don't you also speak to your employer about the sitution of running out of clients to ring, it's not your fault that there aren't any more that you can call. Just a thought. I hope something happens for you soon.

Keep posting and let us know how you are going.
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   Posted 6/23/2010 10:01 PM (GMT -7)   
As for the running out of people to call, my employer could care less. He is very rude, and only cares if you are bringing in money. Which I am doing, just not as well as he wants. I have no clue really. I had no sales experience, he knew this at the time of hire. I was under assumption that the position was to maintain client relationships. He is very elusive with the details, I don't feel secure working here at all. I don't feel like I am treated correctly and or by basic common human standpoints. It really is for someone who is willing to sell their mothers body parts for money type. Which I am far far from.

My main hurt, is that I have no one to go to. You would think I can go to my wife, but I can't. I have tried to hold the conversation with her so often I just rather mope around and feel like poop than try to get her to understand. She is extremely selfish. In her eyes we need to be set for her internship, nothing else. Last time I was in between jobs I was gradually searching for a good fit, she was panicking. I had a job at a hobby shop making the same amount per hour and happy, she made me take time off for a trip to California since it was the only time she could get the time off. I was fired for asking, since I had only been there for two weeks. I took the job at the collections agency since it was the first one offered, and I couldn't deal with her freaking out. It isn't as if she is getting another job, or asking for more hours at her current.

I feel bad for saying this but I am kind of tired of her selfishness. I worked my bum off at UPS to get us through her college education. We would have never survived if I was working at the same level as her. I understand the idea of supporting my wife, and I do, however it would be nice to be treated on the same level at times. I deserve a break from times too.

Rereading that, I realize my wording can come off a bit harsh. I love my wife. I just am starting to realize she doesn't place our relationship into a lot of her decisions. Sort of as if the gender roles have swapped in our relationship. She is the all going egotistic male that will do anything for something better, and I am the loving women who doesn't care much for how or what type of work is done as long as each other is healthy and happy.

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   Posted 6/23/2010 10:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Husbandofill

I' m sorry, I think I must have misunderstood your first post or missed something. I didn't realise there was also an issue between you and your wife, I thought it was just about you trying to find a better job but it seems to be much more involved than that.

I think perhaps you might need some marriage counselling, I really feel for you as it seems like you said, that you have nowewhere to go. You sound like you are an intelligent sort of guy, good education, nice personality and would be a hard worker if only you could find the right job. If your wife won't go to marriage counselling, then I think you should seek some one on one counselling, to vent what is stuck inside of you, once you get all of that out you will feel better.

Again, I truly hope that the "perfect job" comes your way soon. I probably haven't been of much help but I hope you will keep posting.
Harrington49


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   Posted 6/24/2010 3:21 AM (GMT -7)   
I was brought up by money oriented people. Money was everything. My grandmother adopted me and grew up during the depression, so her sole interest was having money, granted she never spent it. Only on bills and food, etc. But it made me insecure if I didn't have money. I am not that way anymore. But this may be something that is stemming your wife's insecutities with moeny. To me now, it is the root of all evil. So that was a drastic change. But I couldn't go on worrying about it, so I guess I went the oppisite way with my thinking.

Best of wishes to you.

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husbandofill
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   Posted 6/24/2010 7:58 AM (GMT -7)   
My wife was raised on a lesser of childhood, her mother and father married when she was three, divorced shortly after. I am not truly certain if she is a true daughter of her father, and I think she thinks the same. I have always tried helping her with her past insecurities, but nothing really gets discussed much. I do have a feeling as well, that her past is feeding her selfish drive to advance in the world. I really can not do much but hope that she sees a bit clearer at the end of the tunnel. I do not wish to leave and I enjoy her company. I wish we could talk of such things in person.

She is helping me in the job search. Though I don't think it is for the right intentions. She is back on the panic wagon, so to say, and most likely thinks that I am going to quit my job before I get the chance to find a replacement. With the treatment I receive, one button too many very well could be the terms of my surrender. However I am not a quitter, I will put my time in rather or not if I enjoy the time there, and head home.

I am envious of my wife. Naturally attractive and very booksmart. Of coarse she has an office job. She makes her own schedule, to fit in anything whether that be school, an appointment, or anything. Makes great money and has a great relationship with her employer. Something that I want. However that drive of hers is what is killing me. She somehow got them to let her stay on during her internship, of 6 months non-stipend work, to work roughly 15 hours a week. Placing all of the pressure on me to get a good paying job to support the two of us for six months or longer depending on how long it takes her to establish a nutritional position.

Well, if I lose my job, I am pretty sure it will be quite some time before I get another one. Trust me I will most likely take the first one offered and go into the same cycle routine of BS since I couldn't take the time to find a position that fits me.

I would really enjoy the office job answering phones. It is a simple job, good pay, and usually the position always has something to keep you busy. NO finding work, or worrying no one will buy your services or product. Simple, necessary, and well, only filled by the ladies.

I do like the idea of getting out and going to the place in person scenario. Will have to give that one a try. However larger companies now do all of there screening through the web. If they post a job online, they do not want you coming to their office, been there done that.

Thanks for all the comments everyone, sort of cheering me up a bit.

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   Posted 6/28/2010 10:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Had a breakthrough conversation with her over the weekend. Got a lot of things accomplished and off my mind. She listened and took note of a lot of it and we discussed many things that have needed to be out in the open.

We are to work together on the next few months of what will be hell. Once she starts this internship I will be the only one working. She will attempt to assist me in getting better employment. I will assist myself and try to get on a better playing field with my current employer. However, I really do not feel that my time here is wanted, nor appreciated. It is very demeaning and does not make me feel good. Shame since it is a great work environment. Just not a very nice boss. I am thinking he is ready to give the company to someone, so he no longer has to do anything type thing. He has such a poor attitude towards everything. It makes everyone a bit uneased, and stand offish.

I hope to overcome my current funk, depression and move on. I feel like I am developing one of those on off characteristics. I am happy one day but down the next. I can't seem to get at a consistent up mood. I hope that comes soon.

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   Posted 6/28/2010 11:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,

It is hard when there is negativity in the work place. It does bring everybody down, but that can change if the positive energy is strong enough.

I know what you mean about ups and downs, I have been experiencing that too. Just don't have the energy I need to make it through the day. I don't know if it is the weather or what. It has been humid here. Today there is a nice breeze so that should help. But I am just not up to snuff as far as I am concerned.

Keep getting on one day at a time. Try not to worry too much about the future, it will work itself out. I hope that you have more up days than down.

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husbandofill
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   Posted 6/29/2010 9:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Karen.

So we had another discussion last night, I let a lot of my feelings out. She listened well and responded to key things here and there. She never really promised anything, though I think she got the idea that I need her to be more of a understanding person. She admitted to not knowing what to do when I come home from a bad day. So that was a big start in the right direction.

I feel if I keep up my honesty with her on my feelings she will take the time to get to know me a bit better. Though we have been together for 6 years, she still doesn't know me like I know her. She tells me this on a regular basis. With work at a steady decline and the fear of being fired on a daily basis, she needs to know how to cheer me back up.

I have learned from our time together how to make her day bright again after a bad time at work, which there aren't as many of with her job, but it still happens from time to time. Even if I don't get it right the first time I keep trying, until I get a smile.

As for work, these are the bosses words from yesterdays little fiasco. "Wow you really got yourself out of that one," as he finally noticed that I have been bringing on new business, "You were swimming with the sharks, so close to the Jaws of Death." Then he finally became aware of the fact that these newer accounts have been bringing in money. " Holy Crap, and your bringing in the money on top of it. Boy you may have just saved your job. For now."

Pretty motivational stuff right there. Either he does this with all of those who have not been in the office for some time, or he really is going to fire me shortly.

To be honest, thinking like him, it makes sense, bring in a fresh person from now and then with a fresh attitude to call the same folks I just got done calling to join up. Same person calling a business that said no a month later has no meaning for a company that revolves solely around bringing in money. A new guy every few months to make the same calls until they join, perfect.

Oh I found the old craigslist posting in my deleted box. I thought I would share it with you to demonstrate the missed communication on his part.

Client Representative
Accounts Receivable Firm seeks Client Representative. This is a full time in office position. Duties include servicing existing clients with an emphasis on expanding client base. Must be detailed oriented and goal driven, able to worth independently within a team environment. Must have good phone, computer and organizational skills. Experience preferred but will train. Salary DOE with monthly performance bonuses. Apply in person 491 Court Street downtown Reno. Summit Services.

Anyone else see it say anything about sales?

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   Posted 6/29/2010 1:23 PM (GMT -7)   
I can see your point on her cheering you up after a bad day as you have done the same for her. But I do have to emphasise that you should really not depend on her for that. You should try to learn to come into the home from a fresh start. Try not to bring your job home in other words. I know that this is much easier said than done. But she should do the same. She is very fortunate to have you to cheer her up, but she should learn to focus on coming home happy as so should you. I am just saying not to depend on her to create your happiness. But it is good that you are able to share with this. I think when we have somebody to help change our moods, we are very lucky. But we do have to only depend on ourselves to do this.

As for your job, I didn't see anything that said "sales". But you still know what is expected of you. Are there ways that you can look up new clients? Have you exhausted every option? If you have, I don't see where they could expect anybody to replace you and acheive any sales. I could be way off base as far as my thinking. But if you have called everybody, who is there left to call?

I hope that you keep your job. Try to think positive about this whole situation, but be prepared if it doesn't work out. You can only do what you can do. You can't get blood out of a turnip as they say.

I hope that you are having a good day today. Keep us posted on what is going on with things. I hope that your discussion with your wife clarified some things between the two of you.

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   Posted 7/12/2010 9:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Quick update.

Not too sure how much longer I can milk out the little work I have left at the collection agency, but I am going to make the most of it. I got this far in the month by fluke, since the receptionist took last week off, but now I am back to searching desperately for people to contact.

There isn't a whole lot out there either, in terms of other employment. I have been around the city in search for something anything stable-like. A place to work without the insecurity of being let go would be such a pleasant thing. I feel that I might have a better grasp at trying to get something if I was not working, but that can not happen since we need the little funds that I do bring in from the current job.

I am honestly thinking of looking into going solo to make some extra money. Mowing lawns or something in those regards. I really don't care as long as I can keep us out of the negative and fed.

My wife started her internship last week as well. She is working an 8-4:30 shift at the VA and then from 5-8 at her regular job m-w-f as well as sat and sun. So with her pretty drained of energy the entire time we have been a bit closer when together since we rarely see each other.

Things have been smooth for the current moment, but I still have that fear of losing my job and losing a lot of the other things that follow when out of money.

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   Posted 7/12/2010 11:47 AM (GMT -7)   
One day at a time, try not to stress about the future, things are going to work out for you. Just keep trying.
 
I know that this is easier said than done.  But I do have a feeling that you are going to make it.  Either you will end up keeping your job, or something else will come along.  Just try not to stress about it.

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   Posted 7/16/2010 10:07 AM (GMT -7)   
So....

I have made it to the next step in ridding myself of the much unneeded BS of the collection agency. I have successfully established and completed an interview with a company for a position that I feel I can contribute to. This job, if acquired, would most likely be somewhere I can grow and become an asset. I felt that the manager, as well as the main office assistant were extremely nice people and would make working there an enjoyment rather than a nuisance. I have both my fingers and toes crossed that they decide that I am the number one candidate and call me on Monday, as I am not too sure how long I have left at the collection agency.

According to my boss, at the collection agency, I need a miracle to save my job. So with those words I would not be surprised if this is my last few days with or without a new job.

Otherwise I am off to Craigslist, selling things o make rent and ends meets until I can get another job.

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   Posted 7/16/2010 11:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Best wishes with this new job.  I sure do hope that you get it.  And I hope that you like it.  Good luck with selling things on Craig's list.  I found another site really helpful.  It is through Ebay, called Kijiji.  And like Craig's list, it is free.  It narrows things down to your area which is nice if you are selling large items.  I sold my floral cooler and all the stuff from my floral shop though kijiji.  I couldn't believe it.  I sold 1400.00 worth of stuff.  And it didn't take long. 
 
How is your wife doing?  You haven't said much about her lately.  I hope that she is feeling well.
 
Best wishes to you.
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   Posted 7/16/2010 12:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Karen.

I will look into that Kijiji site, sounds like I could broaden my audience there. I have lots of Remote Control stuff of relatively high value that I have been liquidating.

As for my wife, she is doing really well. She has been experimenting with a new probiotic and has been feeling really well. Her UC hasn't been in this clear of a Remission in quite some time.

So things are looking up.

I will have to thank this forum as well as you Karen for being here to listen to my words and give advice, love, as well as wisdom in return.

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   Posted 7/20/2010 8:57 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm not doing the best today.

I had my first interview and I am in line for the second here shortly.

Somehow I have the ultimate feeling of disappointment coming my way as it always seems to do. Just as I get myself worked up in hope of moving forward something always kicks me in the shin to make me realize that I was't supposed to get a break yet.

I started off this morning picking out a shirt to wear for the day and I stubbed my little toe so bad it bled for 10 minutes before I could get it to stop. I am sure my sock is a bit blood stained as a type. I can tell you, if the morning starts that great how can the rest of the day possibly go smoothly.

I wish I could be more optimistic, however I have been in this position before and as much as I want to say all will be better and it will all work out, I know that there is always the opposite disappointment waiting there for me.

I am praying for this to work itself, as I will not enjoy having to face any more time with the collection agency. I feel worthless and stupid while working at the agency, I want to feel like my time is appreciated and meaningful. I know what that feeling is like, yet it has been some time since I have felt it.

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   Posted 7/20/2010 9:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry that your morning got off to a rocky start.  I hope that the rest of the day goes by better for you. 
 
I know that you are biding your time with this job.  But try to hang in there until something else arrives.  Maybe try to have a different view of things and see if that helps.  Pretend it is the first day.  Everything is new and you are starting over.  Sometimes that helps me.  It makes me think I am viewing things for the first time.  I hope that this makes sense.  One of my coping skills.  I can do that with a tv show that I have seen before and I notice things that I didn't notice the first time around and it doesn't even seem like a rerun.  lol... 
 
I hope that things are going well at home.  Have you thought any about counseling to help you cope with your wife's depression?  I think I mentioned this before.  It would really help you to understand her.  And I feel that you could use some support with your own issues of work and all.  It sounds like you are getting a little down.  I don't want to see that happen.  You need to keep your head above water.
 
I hope that your day gets better.  Keep us posted.
 
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   Posted 7/20/2010 10:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I would love to seek counseling for lots of things. However with lack of benefits and our work schedules it has been hard to do smaller things, much less take the leap to get counseling. I do have the feeling that I need to do something about the way I feel about things. However, once I get home I struggle to get dinner ready, or help her with dinner. We do some chores, i.e. clean the kitchen or something else that has been ignored for some time, than almost immediately start preparing for bed. The only time we really have had lately is the weekends. With her internship she has been working in the mornings till noon on both Saturday and Sunday. With those days cut in half we haven't been making the time to get things done for our relationship.

This site has helped a lot with my feelings towards things. I feel that all though not too many read my posts, other than you Karen who have been kind and angelic, I get to get it out and off my mind slightly. I understand that I do not have as worse of a scenario as some here, but I do believe that I have depression. The pressure and insecurities are lessened here. This for now, or at least until I can get in a position in life where I can take time to complete some counseling whether it be one on one or with my wife, is working to aid in the positive movement of my life.

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   Posted 7/20/2010 10:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for what you said.  You brought tears to my eyes, but happy tears.  It sounds as though you are really busy and are struggling to keep things going.  Take this one day at a time.  You will get there eventually.  It sounds like your wife is really trying hard.  I hope all works out for you.
 
I am so happy that the forum is helping you.  This is what it is all about.  People supporting others.  You are a kind person and I can tell that you really love your wife and I think she really loves you too.  Between the two of you, you will be strong and you will make it.
 
Keep posting.
 
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   Posted 7/21/2010 9:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks again Karen.

I had the second part of the interview. It did not go as well as I wanted it to. The first interview really pepped me up. It went so well and I honestly felt that I was the only one they were considering. However, the second interview had me second guessing myself. It wasn't as promising and he more or less stated that he has too many 4 and 4.5's on a scale of 1-5 to make up his decision. This economy truly has ruined the way employers chose their potential candidates these days. Instead of getting maybe 10 applicants, these days they get 2500. Of coarse the first thing they see is yourself on paper. When you actually get to see them it is as if they are as excited as you are. Then they start to realize that you are either just like your paper version or nothing like it. Being an extremely honest person I say it how it is. Professionally of coarse, but that I feel is my 1 weakness. I do not know how to lie to these folks. Honestly I do not see the reason in creating a new self to simply get a job. Especially when I only wish to be myself in the work place. I truly hope this economy turns around so people like myself can have a chance against those rutheless ones who will sell their mothers soul for a job.

Sorry I had to rant. I was very down after that second interview. Just did not know what to say or do. Felt like crawling up into a ball.

I shall know if the job was meant to be by Thursday by the afternoon or so.

I will be praying.

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   Posted 7/21/2010 9:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Try not to let this get you down.  If it is meant to be it will.  I know how hard it is to get a job these days.  Keep your mind open to other prospects.  I am still praying for you.  Like I said, if it is meant to be it will.  Try to think positive.  You have just as good of a chance as the other applicants. 
 
Best wishes to you.
 
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Date Joined Jun 2010
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   Posted 7/22/2010 3:20 PM (GMT -7)   
I am defeated...

I did not get the job, and I have a feeling knowing my luck I will most likely be unemployed here shortly.

I feel like running. Far far away.

Reno is stealing my soul.

We are worst for just about everything in the Nation in Nevada.

I wouldn't be surprised if we have the highest depression ratings as well.

I was so ready to move forward, so ready.
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