hi there..am new to the forum too. anyway,here's a brief of my story.. i am now 23 yrs.male. before, i thought i had it all figured out..i.e,my social life till a two years ago when i met this girl.it all went well til i developed an attitude bse i was going thru a tough time.she left me bse of this attitude.i kinda don't blame her coz i know we tried hard to work on our relationship. anyway,this left me devastated bse i thought i had tried so much to keep our relationship going. even months afterwards,i tried to get her back only to be met by the same answer..she didnt wana give it a try anymore.she simply wasnt into relationships anymore..so she said.
towards the end of 2009, year,approximately 4-5months after the break up..i hooked up with another girl whom i had known but weren't so close to.we had a good time till the we messed and she got pregnant.it was so sudden..so unexpected..i mean..we even used to tease each other and joke about "pregnancy". none of us had contemplated sex bse we had begin clean friends.but it happened anyway. we disagreed on the decision thereafter..she wanted an abortion..she couldn't take being pregnant.i disagreed bse abortion was and is against my personal values.. we both weren't ready for a child but ad rather accept the situation than abort. anyway, she totally resents me now..even though she went ahead and aborted.i've tried countless times but failed to win back her.she claims i am unreliable.
in short,all this has made me lose hope and trust in people.. why is it so hard for people to forgive.. i wonder if i'l ever love unconditionally love anyone again. these people in my past seem to have a hold of me that i cant let it go and start afresh.some pse help.