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icarus123
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   Posted 7/5/2010 5:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I really need your help . My GF just told me that a little while back , when we were not going out , a guy , younger to us , in 7th grade (when she was in 10th) , touched her b**b , and this thing is really bugging me right now .... i don't know wot to do . I might as well go hit that guy tomorrow .... I am really short tempered . I asked her, why she didn't do anything to him ? and why is she still toking to that person ? she says that she didn't know wot to do ..
Please tell me what to do .

harrington49
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   Posted 7/5/2010 5:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Icarus

Welcome to the HW Depression Forum and thank you for posting your own thread.

First of all hitting the other boy isn't going to solve anything but it will surely get you into trouble with the Police. He obviously doesn't have much respect for females either. Do you know if it was on purpose? Why didn't your girlfriend say something to him at the time it happened, as it sounds a bit like the horse has bolted so to speak. How long ago was it? Why is your girlfriend even telling you about it now? I do agree with you though on one point and that is why your girlfriend even speaks to him.

When she said she didn't know what to do, she should have gone right up to him and told him not to ever do that again and demand that he show her respect. The only advice I can offer you is to take into account that he is 3 years younger than you, but I would probably let it go now but keep an eye on him in the future.

Maybe somebody else can offer a different opinion. But please take my advice and don't hit this boy, I can imagine how you feel seeing it is your girlfriend now but she wasn't when it happened, so just let it go. That's what I would do.
Harrington49


icarus123
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   Posted 7/5/2010 5:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanx a lot for all the advice . We were just toking abt that guy randomly and she told me that guy had done sumthing really bad to her last year . I demanded her to tell me . She refused at first but i forced her to tell me , so she did . Yes he did it on purpose . She did not do anything cause , she says that he is still a kid . I am gonna feel like a fool whenever i am gonna c him now , i dnt even know how i am i gonna see her . Thinking about is killing me .

And I am still not satisfied by just letting this go .

harrington49
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   Posted 7/5/2010 6:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Okay, well your girlfriend is right, he is just a kid, probably a smart alec but you aren't going to achieve anything by letting it get to you the way it is. Do you have anger management issues? If you do, you need to do something about that before you get much older because I can only warn you that it will get you into serious trouble and the last thing you want or need is a police record, right?

Why would you feel like a fool when you see him? You haven't done anything, he is the one who looks like a fool, not you. So now you being the older boy, you have to show him how you treat your girlfriend is the right way and not the way he did. He was probably trying to be a big man in front of his mates.

If you think you can speak to him maturely about it and not get physical and angry then try and speak to him about it. But please heed my warning about the Police record.

Keep posting and let me know what you decide to do.
Harrington49


icarus123
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   Posted 7/5/2010 6:28 AM (GMT -7)   
I do have problem controlling my anger , but i don't really get violent .

(sigh) I still don't know what to do .

getting by
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   Posted 7/5/2010 7:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Do nothing, this was over a year ago and all he did was touch her. Like Harrington said, he was probably just showing off. Do not hit him. And forget about it. It is nothing.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


harrington49
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   Posted 7/5/2010 4:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes Icarus, just let it go and see about some anger management classes because anger will no doubt lead to violence.
Harrington49

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