How do you know you're depressed?

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Moo'sMum
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   Posted 7/8/2010 2:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all
Am I depressed?  I have a really happy marriage and 3 lovely kids and a full busy life.  Sometimes I feel energised, happy and fullfilled and other times I will lie in bed at night and feel burdened by the things I have to do.  So I lie there and imagine what it would be like.  I imagine the blessed peace of silence and no more responsibility then I realise there's no way I can  cause the guilt of what would happen to my family is too much.  Does this mean I'm depressed?
I have just had an operation and I feel as though I'm not coping with life at all at the moment because I'm so stressed that something has gone wrong with the operation since I still have a weird dragging kind of pain at one of the incission sites.  The other 3 sites are fine no pain at all.  The nagging thought that something is badly wrong wont leave, it circles round and round in my head madly and makes me feel anxious and scared.

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 7/8/2010 4:20:32 PM (GMT-6)


Aurora60
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   Posted 7/8/2010 3:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Moo's Mum, first let me say I think you are so lucky to have such a wonderful family.  You have 3 beautiful children and a husband who must care for you very much as you said you are happily married. It is important on this forum to not talk of harming yourself. It is against the rules. But with all you have so positive in your life I think it might be a good idea to talk to your dr. about how you are feeling right now. You don't say how long ago your surgery was or what type of surgery. I know that after a major operation one can feel very down and depressed. I had major colon resection surgery last fall. I am sure my situation is different than yours but I did have a problem with my main incision and I had a few set backs. I couldn't even walk up the stairs to my bedroom and slept on the couch. Because of the problems I had with my incision I was feeling quite down. The dr. ordered a visiting nurse to come to see me 3 times a week. She told me exactly how to care for the incision and also to follow a very careful diet. I needed a bland diet and low fat but I also needed a lot of protein. The protein is what helped my incision to heal much faster. And every few days as I saw improvement I started to feel better. So I think it is possible for you to have some depression following surgery. The best thing you can do is speak with your dr. and tell him the way you feel and the problem with your incision. He/she may have some good suggestions on how to clear up the problem. Also, I think it would be beneficial to talk with your husband and tell him how you are feeling. Maybe he can give you some extra help around the house so you are not feeling overwhelmed. It takes time to heal from surgery and you need to give yourself a break and just take good care of yourself. Give it time and before you know it you will be back to your old self. Please post  again and let us know how you are doing.
 
Aurora

getting by
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   Posted 7/8/2010 3:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,
 
Aurora has given you some very good advice.  And I agree with what she has said.  It is very important that you see your doctor and let him know how you have been feeling.  This could be temporary from the surgery as our body's go through a sort of shock and the healing process takes time.  But none the less, I would have a talk with your doctor.  You may need some counseling, or medication, be it temporary or an ongoing thing.  But I think some help and support would really be good for you.
 
Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.  I did edit your post for content.  We are not allowed to discuss anything to do with suicide.  But we all understand how you feel. 
 
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


Moo'sMum
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   Posted 7/8/2010 6:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks guys. Sorry I didn't realise I was breaking the rules there. Wont do that again. My surgery was a gallbladder removal. For the past 5 years I have suffered from acid reflux and this year in March the reflux attacks escalated to vomiting after eating. I lost 6 kilos in the space of 3 weeks before they finally decided to investigate gallstones. While waiting for them to do their investigations I had a stone blockage in my common duct and got acute pancreatitis and jaundice from it so was sent off to hopsital for a week. While I was in there they decided that my reflux has probably never been reflux and has always been my gallbladder acting up so advised me to have it removed. I had the operation on the 30th July and it went well. Since I've been home though and despite eating a really careful diet I am still experiencing indigestion and burping. I feel like I'm never going to be well again and be able to eat without worrying what the consequences of my choices will be. I look at other people eating without a care in the world and I feel so sad and hopeless. I used to be such a happy carefree person, now I feel like I've lost my mojo.

Aurora60
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   Posted 7/8/2010 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi again, Moo's Mum, It sounds like you have been through a lot with your gallbladder problems. Did you have your surgery last July 30th? It sounds like you are still having a lot of problems especially if your surgery was a year ago. I still think it would be wise to talk with your doctor again and see if you are having some acid reflux problems. I wouldn't think that after all your surgery that you would still have so much indisgestion. There must be some other problem that the doctor has not investigated thoroughly. Is it possible for you to get a second opinion from another doctor? You didn't mention where you are from but I imagine you are not in the US. I tend to pursue something until someone solves the issue for me so that is why I suggest getting another doctor's opinion. Have you tried posting a thread on the GERD-hearburn forum here to see what experience others with your type of situation might have an answer for? I would ask your questions to people on that forum who might have the same type of problem and see if you can get some more answers. I wish I could help you more but I think if you go to the GERD forum you may find some people with the same problems. I wish you the best of luck and if you find any answers please post again here so we know you are getting the help you need.
 
Aurora

Moo'sMum
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   Posted 7/8/2010 7:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Aurora
No my surgery was this July, so only a week and a half ago. I have questioned my doctors about the indigestion and they say it's probably part of the settling process but unless I get a definite answer about things that are worrying me I keep worrying until it's so out of proportion I feel like I do now. The doctor suggested taking PPI's again which I'm really not keen to do because I don't think those meds are very good for you. Yes I'm a regular member of the GERD forum and have posted the indigestion problem there too but I wanted to post here too because I feel so stressed and unhappy.
Thanks so much it helps to have someone listen to me. My husband who I love and adore is a stressed out person too who worries about everything and I always feel I can't really talk to him because he has enough problems dealing with his own life. I'm normally the rock in my family and the one people turn to for help and now I just feel out of control and unsure of anything. It's scary!
thanks again.
MM
PS I live in New Zealand

Aurora60
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   Posted 7/8/2010 8:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi MM, just a quick reply. I guess I was confused about when your surgery was. So it has not been a long time for you to recover. I am glad you are posting on the GERD forum as I am sure you can get much better help. But I truly understand how you need emotional support and that is what we do here on this forum. You will make many wonderful friends here. We all care about each other so much and I am hoping you will join in as often as you need. I have gotten so much help and support and I want to in turn help someone such as yourself who is in need of comfort and understanding. If I am am understanding you PPIs are the meds one takes to block the acid reflux. I have been taking one for years and I have no problems. But I can understand if you don't want to take medication. Please know I am here to listen and support you anytime you need someone to listen to you. I don't have all the answers but I want to help and will always answer you. And how nice it is to have a friend in New Zealand! Take good care of yourself. You are in my prayers.
 
Many hugs,
 
Aurora

Moo'sMum
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   Posted 7/9/2010 12:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you doll you are so kind!
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