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Hopeless-Solitude
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   Posted 7/15/2010 12:23 AM (GMT -7)   
What do you do when situations in your life, which can not change, are pulling you down? What do you do if there really isn't much positive to speak of? What do you do when you have no one that you CAN talk to, not that you have no one TO talk to? What do you do when you are looking at a life of pain and true hopelessness? What do you do when being you only pushes people further away? What do you do after you've tried and tried, looked into it and put effort into it, and still come up with the same negative conclusion? How can you be happy when you have so so little to be happy for?

htd14
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   Posted 7/15/2010 1:08 AM (GMT -7)   
hi im so sorry u feel this way ,please know that u CAN talk to anyone on here , we are all here for each other , u say u have tried to change yr life , what is it that u are actually unhappy about , is it bits of yr life or everything , u need to try and change one thing at a time , dont rush into things take time to think things through , talking helps so please post back

helen

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/15/2010 4:33 AM (GMT -7)   
some of this is life, some can be the choices we make or have made, some can be of negatives creeping up from the past, some can be unresolved issues and pain, some can be from others, some can be via family, from friends who have turned south, some can be from anxiety-and the fear of failure or stuffing something up, some can be from giving up and or giving in, some can be from loss and grief-something i know well!! some can be from finances, unemplyment and debts, but sadly we lose confidence in ourselves, thus we stop. i keep fightin' this battle everyone darn day!! i allow others to help me, i deny nothing, i hide nothing, i talk with my dr about everything, moreso i awake knowing that i am lucky to be alive, have a roof over my head etc. furthermore i always note that someone is doing it harder than me, but i never give an inch, yeah i darn slide, i lose it from time to time, but i have been down that nasty road too many times and have @#$%@# myself up and others in the process.
 
hang in there, we care. keep reaching out. i send my compassionate healing prayers to you. join me in the fight to combat depression. this community is very amazingly understanding and compassionate. keep fightin"!!!
 
jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


getting by
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   Posted 7/15/2010 5:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome to the forum,
 
My best advice is to step back out of the box.  Take things one at a time.  Maybe make a list of things that you want to change in your life.  And try to look at things objectively.  This isn't easy by no menas.  It can be a long process.  But don't give up.  Never give up.  Keep posting as we are here to support you.
 
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/16/2010 12:28 AM (GMT -7)   
yes, karen. 'NEVER GIVE UP'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JAMIE.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.


horse crazy
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   Posted 7/16/2010 1:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Hopeless....
Your post came in at a time when I was feeling quite hopeless myself. So much of what you are saying is depression talking...you can't give into that voice or the pain just grows and it sounds about as big as you can handle as is. Don't let depression win. I know how lonely it can feel when you don't have anyone you CAN talk to....until you find that person you can talk to, use this forum as much as you need...it is full of people you can talk to and who understand you. Getting byis right. Try to breakdown all into smaller peices and take on only one thing at a time. You have to feel totally overwhelmed...I felt overshelmed reading your post so I know it is HUGE for you. I may be wrong but I think someone has hurt you. If we get really hurt, sometimes the pain blinds any solutions for us, but there always are solutions,,,,just sometimes our minds need to un-fog a bit before we see them. My heart goes out to you and if there is anyway I can help, I am here, along with everyone else. Please keep us posted.
Horse Crazy
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Methadone 5mg (for restless leg syndrome) Lamictal 200 mg; seraquel 450mg, klonopin 4mg
 


Hopeless-Solitude
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   Posted 7/16/2010 5:25 AM (GMT -7)   
I hear you jaimee. It is a bit of all of the above, some more so than others. When I examine things now though...I do not see a battle to be fought...there is no possible path. I am dealing with problems from so many fronts that it makes my head spin. Stopping to address one only makes the rest scream out more in my mind. Some of them do not have solutions...so it is what it is in some cases.

I don't know if what I am saying is depression talking...or just me finally admitting the truth. I am screwed in so many situations, I try, I seek happiness, I try to find joy in the little things.......but in the end I am crushed and suffering, I feel like I'm suffocating, I know it sounds as if it is just a depression of sorts speaking now, but I do really feel this. I have examined and reexamined myself and my situations...and this is what I feel after doing that. I do feel completely overwhelmed, I AM overwhelmed by such a margin that it is hard to explain. I have also been hurt, I have been hurt by significant others, I have been hurt by family, I have been hurt by friends...I just seem to be incompatible with others because I absolutely will not be who I am not, and that person is outside of normal thought. I know you are all here for me...but without being offending it somewhat feels like having all of your friends and family around you as a truck has you pinned to the concrete, alive at the moment but not after the truck is lifted...it is reassuring to some degree, but you are still crushed by the vehicle...you are still in as serious a situation as before, there are just people to talk to. I am crying my darn eyes out right now, I have no idea what to do, I do not want to see a counselor right now about it, my situation makes that difficult. I am so far beyond depressed that I do not even know where to begin describing it. It is not just a hopeless feeling with no source, there are sources, there are reasons, there has been things in my past to push me to where I am, stress, frustration, loss, lack of confidence, solitude. I feel like I have no more tears to shed, and this is not a passing thing. I feel this every day, every morning, every night, only short distractions can take me away from my pain. I feel like tom hanks in that stupid film about being lost, except that I am actually surrounded by people....just 100% unable to achieve any sort of real communication. The hopelessness he shows in that movie, the utter emptiness and loss, the onset of realizing that you are in the bad situation that you are...I just hope that one day I am rescued in such a way as he is in the movie. I realize what real happiness is for me, I also realize how terribly far from it that I am. I am hopelessly lost in my solitude...what do I do?

I guess I will just try to sleep...if I can...at least in sleep there is a slim chance of having a pleasant dream...so much more than what is reality. Many times though I find myself dreaming of the real situations that plague my mind, I guess even my subconscious realizes that I have no hope and am just a poor drained, alone soul.

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 7/17/2010 3:55 AM (GMT -7)   
you are not. you are a loving human being of this earth with gifts and talents unique to only you. i can not fully say i feel your pain....but i do. i hope that your expression helped, it has helped me understand your situation better. thank-you for sharing, hopefully you can get that truck to chuck it's brakes on and stop just before. here for you, whenever, and however suites. many healings to you. jamie.
YESTERDAY IS A BUTTERLY WITHOUT WINGS. (ME)
 
DX, MDD, SEVERE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER.
 
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOU. BE YOU AND BE TRUE.

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