I really don't know what happen to me

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Dulcinea
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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 7/20/2010 1:28 PM (GMT -7)   
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Hello! I am having a bad time for years. I don't know how to help myself. I am divorced and I'm still living with my Ex., why? because the economic situation, and my English. Very deep in my heart I want to be alone. He is trying to be nice, helper, etc., but I don't love him anymore. He is allways over my live no matter what I said to him. Some days I feel good with that, but others I just want to run out. I don't know how to explain him, that I rather to be by myself. My English is not good enough and I ask him to help me for everything; my car is broken he fix it, if I have to do something in my job he is there, he do my taxes, I feel like I can never be better because my language is driving me crazy, because I can not pay for my broken car, my taxes, a handyman, make a call. What happen to me? Is there anyone out who can help me to understand why I feel too insecure. I bealive in myself but I am so scare, not to get the goal that I want in my future because my English is broke and the money is not good now for me. I want to travel but I feel scare to do it alone, I want to do so many things but I am terrified. I feel unsatisfied. This is my first time doing this so I don't know how that work! Thanks to everyone who had the patience to read my problem.

getting by
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   Posted 7/20/2010 1:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Dulcinea,
 
First of all, welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum.  You have come to a good place.  I am so glad that you have joined us.
 
Your english will get better with time.  But is there somewhere that you could study it?  What about taking classes?  Have you ever tried that?  I am not sure what type of classes you would take, maybe English?  But either that or going to the library might help you.
 
I know that it feels bad to be dependant on somebody else for things.  Especially when you want to be on your own.  Are you working anywhere, you said he helps you with work but I am not sure what you meant.  You need a job in order to make money so that you don't need him.  That is if you want to be free of him.  Although he is being a good friend by helping you, as long as it is for all the right reasons. 
 
Take life one day at a time.  Think about ways that you can improve on your english and find ways to make some money.  Maybe some counseling would help you to get things on the right track. 
 
Either way, keep posting and know that we all care about you and wish you the best.
 
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


Dulcinea
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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 7/20/2010 2:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank You so much! Karen, I work by myself, that is the reason he worked as a handyman in my place. I have a big overhead and that's why I getting trouble with my job. Thank You again, he is helping me because he think we can back in the relationship. I cannot do anything more than be in home and back to work. I will try to be more confident to make decision and go forward with this. I speak English every day, when I am working, my 90% of costumers are Americans but I feel that I broke the language, well you can see. I was thinking to buy the program Rosetta Stone When the economic situation is gone and speak well English. I will be posting and learn to others.

My respects,

Dulcinea.

harrington49
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   Posted 7/20/2010 11:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Dulcinea

I think your english is pretty good, I can understand that you want to speak perfect english but you seem to know enough to get by. Have you made it clear to your exhusband that the divorce was final? It is kind of strange that you are still living together, but I understand the reasoning behind that.

You can buy cd's that have english classes on them, maybe that would also help you. I admire your dedication and believe me you will succeed.

Keep posting and let us know how you are progressing.
Harrington49


Dulcinea
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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 7/21/2010 6:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank You Harrington49, Yes I already told him the relationship is over. I appreciate your advice, I will keep in touch to let you guys know about my progress. Last night I was thinking to move to the store when the apartment list is over in January, I have to sacrifice a little bit. That is going to be hard but could help me to feel independent, I can save money and my mood is going to be better too. You know I feel very sad and angry with myself. When I was young I was very independent, and brave. I came to U.S.A with my daughter, no family, no English (nothing), after I married with him something happen to me that I am now the most insecure person that I never met. But let see the only one who can do change is me. Thank You so much your advise is will helping me a lot.


Hugs, Dulcinea.

getting by
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   Posted 7/21/2010 7:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi dulcenia,
 
I think that the rosetta Stone is a good idea.  There has been a lot of people using that method.
 
I hope that you are feeling better.  Keep us posted.
 
Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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