I have been thinking about things.

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   Posted 7/30/2010 12:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello. My name is Steven, and I am 17 years old. For the past few months I have been thinking about things. One of the things that I have been thinking about is what career I want to go for. I am afraid that if I choose a career, I wonder if I would lose interest in it and drop out. Of course, I would'nt want such a thing to happen. I feel as if I am worthless. For most of my life, I have been given things off of a silver platter. Most of the things that I received I have'nt earned for. I feel that someone needs to hold my hand. I sometimes wish that I could simply just begin my life all over again. I also feel as if I have'nt accomplished anything in my life. Such as being a part of something. Like a baseball team or scout in a camp. When I was young, my parents tried to get me involved in these types of activites. But I was simply just never interested in them. When I listen to some kids that I know of being a part of something, it makes me feel sad in the inside. I never show my true emotions. When one asks about if I am a part of something. I have no choice but to simply lie to them. It makes me feel very sad. I am sometimes a dreamer. I usually dream of things that will most likely never happen. Such as being a part of something real special. Being well known by people. Or achieving something, such as getting a trophie or an award. Sometimes, I think these are real. But in reality, they are simply not. They are just dreams created from my head. Another problem that I have is making new friends. Recently, I have moved from New York to New Jersey. I left friends in New York. Now, it's difficult for me to make friends. I have been living in New Jersey for less than a year. And I have been attending my new high school for only a couple of months. Since the getgo, I have made only two friends. I do know some kids, but I would simply consider them to be aquaintances. I do want to make new friends. It's just that I wonder how they will accept me. I wonder if they will like for who I am. What if they don't accept me? All of these questions are gathered in a big ball in my head. Well, I have really nothing else to say. I would appreciate if someone could give me some advice. Thank you.

Post Edited (Steven197981) : 7/29/2010 11:19:55 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 7/30/2010 3:39 AM (GMT -6)   
hi steven , so u were never interested in those things as a child but perhaps now is the time to get involved , how about perhaps helping out in a kids activity , ie go along and ask if u could help with the local kids baseball team, do u get out with the friends u have ??? if not why dont u suggest a night out and they could possibly bring some friends that u dont know at the moment , if u do go out just be yourself,,,,,, you are not worthless ,u are a young man who is not in the right place at the moment but trust me u will be soon , try to be positive and keep posting x


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   Posted 7/30/2010 9:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Steven,
You said something that is sticking in my mind.  When somebody asks if you are involved in something, you lie and say that you are?  Did I get that right?  Why don't you be honest?  Once you start lieing, you will continue to lie and it will get bigger and bigger.  So try to be honest.  And find some things to get involved in.  Donate time with little kids as was posted above.  They are always looking for help.  You would be a good candidate. 
Try getting involved with things going on for your age too.  This is so healthy for the spirit.  You can do this.  You have the interest in it.  It is not too late.
Most of all, stay honest.  That is so important.  Don't lie.  It always catches up with you.  No kidding.
Keep posting my friend, we are here to help you.
Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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   Posted 7/30/2010 10:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Steven,
Im not from America - I'm from England, and over here we don't have all the clubs and teams that you have over in the States, we have a few after-school activities, but its really not a big deal whether you join or not. I can see where you are coming from though in being expected to be a part of something - but everyone is different, and not everyone is made to be part of a football or swim team. You are very young still and just havent found your niche. You have a lot to look forward to - college or work. At 17 I thought the same as you, that I had achieved nothing and that I never would, but now I have successfully completed my second year at university after totally screwing up at college - and guess what, I did it by myself, without the support of teachers and most of my family - as I had messed up so bad at college. It shows that you do not need someone else to validate yourself! And about being scared of people not liking you - you need to accept yourself for who you are because then, if someone doesn't like you, it won't affect you. Some people will like you, and some wont - thats the same for everyone, it's just about finding the right people, do not be scared to put yourself out there and get to know new people - as scary as it is! How else are ya gunna make friends? :p
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