Feel Like Life Falling Apart

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purpleheart71
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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:03 PM (GMT -7)   
I need some help please.  Need someone to talk to that can listen and give advice that is an outsider and not involved.  Im so confused, and not sure what is really goin on with me.  Please someone help. confused

getting by
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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Purpleheart71,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum. I am glad that you have found us.

Please explain a little more so that we can help you.

Hugs, Karen
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purpleheart71
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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been going thru alot of issues with life. I was dating a man that was separated and he went back to his wife yet still telling me he loves me. He is now wanting to leave her and wants me to go back to him. I honestly dont know what to do cause I dont want any issues. I also am being made to feel like I am a bad person with people talking about me saying im bad news, a ****, and not worth having as a friend. This all stems from me meeting and hanging out with guys. I am feeling so lonely and honestly feel like i have no one, cause i honestly do not know who to trust or even who my true friends are anymore. Right now I have this overwhelming feeling of wanting to just dissappear. Constantly feel like crying, always tired, yet cant stand being alone.

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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Try not to be concerned about what other people think about you.  There will always be people that say bad things about us.  You know in your heart that you are a good person and that is what matters, though I know it doesn't make it seem any easier.  I use to hang out with the guys too because I didn't trust women.  But now I have women friends.  Though I stick to myself most of the time. 
 
It sounds like it would do you some good to see a counselor.  They can help you to get self esteem, and they are super supportive. 
 
The relationship that you are contemplating sounds very complicated.  Does he have kids with this other woman, well, his wife?  If so, you should know that they are always going to come first in your relationship.  It does sound like there is a lot of excess baggage in this relationship.  I don't know if you want to continue to deal with that.  Plus if he is married to the other woman, is he going to get a divorce?  I just don't like the bouncing back and forth he is doing.  He doesn't sound like he would be stable to be with.  You could date though and not get serious.  If you want that.  But I wouldn't get serious with him unless he divorces his wife.  It sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too.  That is just my opinion.
 
Keep posting, I hope that this helped a little.
 
Hugs, Karen
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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 8/13/2010 12:17 AM (GMT -7)   
i think some counselling is a good move. i have just started again after a real long time. it is helping me. maybe your doc can refer you to an appropriate person for assistance. i am sorry for what has transpired. we care, so i hope you continue to post. with compassion, jamie

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purpleheart71
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   Posted 8/13/2010 9:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank all of you so much for your support just having someone to talk to and to actually help me see things in a different light is so helpful.  I have been thinking about counceling, im just not able to afford it.  I only work part time and have no insurance.  As far as the guy, I too am beginning to think that is exactly what he wants, his cake and eat it too.  Thank you again! I will keep yall posted on things. smilewinkgrin

purpleheart71
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   Posted 8/17/2010 12:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Just wanted to say thank you to all of you again!  Things are going a little better!  I have channeled my feelings towards arts and crafts and getting a softball team together to represent the local vfw.  I also told the guy that I was not going to be the other woman or the reason he lost everything.  I would be friends but as far as anything else I was no longer doing that.  I have passed on this website to a couple of my friends and suggested they post on here.  It really does help to have ppl to talk to that can be on the outside looking in and can give unbiased opinions.  Thank yall so much! tongue
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