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guidancehelp
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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I am going through a very rough time in my life. I had an affair, my husband is upset and life without my marriage is falling apart. I really could use someone to chat with.

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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Guidancehelp,
 
I am sorry for what you are going through, I take it your husband wasn't very sympathetic with you and you split up.  I am so sorry to hear that.  Some people just aren't very forgiving and it sounds like he is one of those types of people.  I imagine that he feels betrayed and hurt.  It may take some time for that to change.  I am sorry to say that, but I don't want to give you any false hope. 
 
I am hoping that writing about it is helping you to feel better.  I really don't know what to say except that you are not judged here and that we are here to support you in any way that we can.  Keep posting, maybe it will help you to feel better.
 
Hugs, Karen
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guidancehelp
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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Karen,

I just started a new job this week and I am out of town during the week for training for the next 10 weeks and home on the weekend. so spending time with my husband is not an option during the week. He said he filed for divorce and has no love for me. I feel this is too soon since he found out about a month ago. We have had sexual relations and some nice intimate moments since. However, bad moments as well. I still love him and would do anything to win him back. I think when I go home tomorrow I am being served with papers. He said the only way to get over this is to move on. I dont want a divorce, I dont mind giving him time I need to build trust and pray and hope I can save my marriage. He told me he still cares for me but never says that he loves me. I am soooooo depressed and lost. I would give anything to win him back. I wrote him a letter of confession to tell him the truth and to tell him it will never happen again. I would move mountains if I thought he would give our marriage a second chance. I believe his family is pushing the divorce and he told me that to many people know.

guidancehelp
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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:57 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont know how i can go on. Im all alone and sad to no end.... feelings of deep depression often.

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   Posted 8/12/2010 8:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I can understand feeling sad and depressed right now due to your current situation, but please don't lose yourself in those feelings. It's so easy to just...give up when things aren't going well for you...I know that firsthand. Keep motivated, go through your daily routines, try to keep a positive outlook and open communication during this confusing time in your family. Try to find something that went right in your day instead of focusing on things that went wrong. That helps me a lot, I get pushed down by all the negatives sometimes, but it's easy to feel a little better when you acknowledge that yeah, not everything sucked today...

Keep posting, let us know how you're feeling.

---Che
“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there”

getting by
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   Posted 8/13/2010 7:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,
 
I am so sorry that you are going through all of this.  It is going to take some time to win his trust back.  But if you are devoted to this relationship, keep trying. 
 
If he is adament about this though, you might have to accept that and move on.  Either way we are here behind you and will help you through this the best that we can.
 
Keep your chin up.  Continue living.  As was posted above, maybe keep your routine the best that you can to feel normal.  I believe that what is meant to be will be.  There is a plan for us. 
 
But again, I am sorry for this situation.
 
Hugs, Karen...
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies
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