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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/8/2010 3:56 PM (GMT -7)   
hi guys i dont post here often but i do read and i want to say you all inspire me in some ways. Karen, youngmil, jamiee are such strong people and deal with so much. helps me keep a positive note.
 
three weeks ago my husband looks at me and tells me that i have given up on him and my life. well thinking on it i did give up. my mom died and i didnt get time to process it so i think that was my sort of depression was given up. funny thing is i never realized that you can give up and not know it. so i took positive steps to make me come out of my funk and i joined a gym and went on a diet, deciding that if i better my self image i will create a better and happier me. i am proud to say i have lost an average of 3-7 lbs depending on the scale, my work pants are looser on me, hubby is being encouraging and supportive and has gotten alot more affectionate.
 
there are people telling me i cant do it and i will give up but i dont plan on it. even one of them who says i wont do it is proud of me. the exercise i get at the gym wears me out but makes me feel so good and happy so i am doing it guys.
 
i want to tell you this so you guys know that you are an inspiration to others and to know that sometimes we can make a difference in our outlook on life. i love you guys.

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   Posted 9/8/2010 5:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Worriedgirl,

Don't listen to those people who obviously are jealous of you. You sound very determined to me. I have been trying to lose weight too and I am bouncing back and forth. I am also quitting smoking so I will gain a little there, though walking two ten minute walks a day can combat that. But the weather has sucked here so I haven't been able to walk like I want to. I went yesterday, but that was it. I wasn't able to go today.

Life isn't easy, but you have a good attitude and I think that will get you a long way. And pure determination the rest of the way. You are a strong person whether you realize that or not. And I am wishing you the best.

Keep posting and let us know how it is going.

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   Posted 9/9/2010 2:56 AM (GMT -7)   
CHEERS MY INSPIRATIONAL MATE.
YOU MADE ME SMILE. :-) JAMIE.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/9/2010 6:58 AM (GMT -7)   
yes youngmil you can be an inspiration, you have dealt with so much yet you had the strength to do something about it. you are still posting and replying helping others out. you see the best in everyone and that is great. karen is a great inspiration as is jamiee. i went to t he gym this morning and was walking on a treadmill and got a leg cramp so i could only do 15 mins there and then i did the bike for 10 so i think that will still count as 25 mins. then i worked on my lower body like my legs and stuff. i feel good. i know part of it was i didnt sleep all t hat well due to stomach cramps. but im feeling alot better today.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

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   Posted 9/9/2010 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Worriedgirl,

I am glad that you went to the gym this morning. I am considering a walk if I can get myself going. It is hard sometimes, but it is like doing dishes. It always sounds yucky, but when you get started, it goes well.

Keep up the good work.

Hugs, Karen
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awty
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   Posted 9/9/2010 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/10/2010 6:21 AM (GMT -7)   
it was a pleasure talking with you to youngmil and i hope we can do it again. so much to share and so much we can talk about. sometimes talking heals. and if i can help in anyway then let me know. i just like i said want you to know not all women are lost causes. you are a very dear man and if i could i would take your wife by the shoulders and tell her to wake up and realize what she is losing and fight for her marriage. i suspect that if she put in a fighting effort to change and be loving that she could save the marriage and i feel sad she isnt trying. know youngmil if i had a clone lol i would send her to you.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/11/2010 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   
youngmil when my hubby was depressed i would just occassionally grab his hand or hug him, he didnt respond but i kept doing it. when i saw sadness i would ask him and sometimes his answers hurt me, for ex. once he said he wasnt attracted to me anymore and that hurt like hell. i did all i could do except lose the weight but i continued to tell him i loved him and continued to pursue him and he eventually felt better. he started feeling better and then finally seemed to snap out of it and we started to move forwards, yes i was ready to leave him at several points in time even went as far as to start to collect my kid shoes at ten at night(i know stupid but i was tired of the no kisses and no hugs and just plain feeling horrible) so i know how you felt. this went on for six months but i kept at it even though we fought hard. things got better for a while and we didnt fight as much. then we got into a couple huge fights this year and the or else came in and i woke up.

sometimes women do see what you are feeling even though you dont express it so maybe she did but she didnt go far enough to make you know what you meant to her and that is sad. i wish that i could help you and make things better for you and wake her up, but maybe she had forgotton what loving you was about. maybe she didnt know how to do that. its hard for women to do these things to. she took for granted your love would always be there and now maybe she doesnt know how to get it back. of course its possible that she just dont care too. maybe this is just what you two needed and after a few months maybe things can be revisited and maybe talked about. it is worth a shot. but she has to want this to for it to work. you are a good man and im betting she is kicking herself in the butt for screwing this up
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/13/2010 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
well things are good. i went to the gym today and did cardio. i did around 2 at 2.8 9 min at 3.4 and about 5 mins at 3.5 speed. and then a cool down period. for some reason my upper body workout seemed a little harder even though i did the same weight as before and i am sore again lol. im thinking it was because it was thursday since i did upper body but it felt good. work was great, we ran great sos and today was the bosses birthday. i bought her a card and some cupcakes. i feel great with working out and cant wait to see more results. i can already walk faster without getting out of breath.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
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   Posted 9/13/2010 2:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Worriedgirl,

I am so happy that you are seeing results from the cardio and working out. That always feels so good. I have quit smoking and it has been over three weeks now. I am hoping to start to feel better soon. It has been slow going it seems. But I know that I will feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/14/2010 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
had a really bad day at work other then good speed of service. everything i touched it seemed to go wrong and i just couldnt turn it around. my employee screwed up the fryer, phone wouldnt stop ringing and i couldnt get open in time, i dropped things, and i had to hunt down our money cause our delivery was late, turned out they changed our route and didnt tell us. im trying not to be grumpy at hubby but he has called me 3 times and im so sick of t he phone. i feel at the edge of crying and i cant help it. im not depressed but im stressed and im depressed today(situational). i just want to sleep but i cant. i worked ten hours and i swear it feels like a 20 hour shift. i cant even go work out to relieve the stress because i have my kid and by time dinner is done they will be closed. ugggggggggggggg. AHHHHHHHHHH
sorry that is me screaming on top of my lungs.

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   Posted 9/14/2010 4:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Worriedgirl,

I am sorry that you are having such a rough day. I know how those days can go. It is kind of like Murphey's Law. Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong. I hope that tomorrow will be a better day for you.

I had to shorten your AHHH in your post. It made the post go really wide and you had to scroll back and forth to read it.

I am glad that you were able to vent. It always helps to come here when things are difficult. And that can be often at times. Life can just plain be tough. But there are better things to come your way. Like I said, hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. I hope it is for me, it was difficult for me today too. But I made it, once again.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/14/2010 8:54 PM (GMT -7)   
the night got worse, on hubbys way home, on our street his tire flew off the car and landed three houses down in someones yard, the ground has a big gash in it and now hubbys fender is messed up. he could have been killed if he would have been on the freeway. im beginning to wonder if someone out there hates me. lol little humour. thank god for youngmil who has talked to me. and then you guys. im trying to help him and here he is helping me.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/15/2010 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
it was only him in the car. they tightened the bolts with the air gun thingy and should have been on tight yet his tire almost came off again today. im so stressed and i dont know what to do. things are piling up and i feel like im losing control. hubby is stressed so i have to act like i am fine and tell him all is ok but i dont know how i am going to be ok. i dont know where to turn. no one can help us and we are falling.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/15/2010 7:42 AM (GMT -7)   
i know shuvykins and i appreciate it. youngmil saw my post and immediately jumped on yahoo within five minutes of me posting it and made sure i was ok. he has no idea how much that means to me. and you and karen are supportive as well. i loved helping you shuvykins as well as others.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/15/2010 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
a friend of his did it and he had it on tight. just dont know why this is happening. i just feel he needs a strong ear and a strong shoulder.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/15/2010 10:01 AM (GMT -7)   
i cant. he is on verge of a breakdown right now and i need to be strong. i am so not sure what to do. i have to be strong
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/16/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -7)   
no counseling. things are looking better today. just been a bad week with the car, his dad died a year ago today. just a lil much but we did talk and he is feeling better. he even said he loved me.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/16/2010 3:40 PM (GMT -7)   
i cant deal with this anymore. my comanager is a butt head. all he does is nit pick at me in front of all the employees and then yells at me for going to the bathroom. he was like "what takes you so long to go to the bathroom" so i tell him that i had to go and i was only gone ten minutes and had to put paper towels. he tried to say i was gone twenty minutes but even the other shift said i was only gone ten minutes if that. he looks at me and says if you are tired of me nit picking say something to our gm or human resources. well i dont want to go that route but i am about to ask for a transfer. i cant do it. nothing i ever do is right by his eyes and i cant stand it. he had me in tears it was so bad. im stressed enough, my hubby is sad cause his dad died a year ago today and i cant handle my work being mean to me. i have had enough. i just want to disappear from work but i need my job and no where to vent. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/17/2010 8:22 AM (GMT -7)   
today is a better day. i told hubby and he said no contact outside of work and i should turn him in. im not because nothing will be done but i think i am going to ask for a transfer. i will never get promoted there and i cant handle him, he does it on purpose. plus it will save money on gas too to get closer to home. i been there over two years anyway and need something different. if he tells my boss i am gonna tell her how i feel. it sucks to feel like that. i blocked him on facebook too which i know he will be mad about but i have decided i need people in my life that are gonna make me feel better and not like crap. i dont know if i am doing the right thing but i have to do what is best for me.

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   Posted 9/21/2010 12:01 AM (GMT -7)   
well i lost another pound!!!!!!!!!!!!!!yay i am so happy. things are getting better at work, me and the comanager talked and we are gonna try. dont know if i will get the transfer but i am working on it. i have blocked him on facebook and havent been socializing outside of work but if i do then there will be problems between me and hubby

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/24/2010 3:53 AM (GMT -7)   
according to my home scale i am down to 204.5 lbs. which was my goal for this month! i am so happy. havent been able to workout much this week but i will be back to regular next week.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

getting by
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   Posted 9/24/2010 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
yea Worriedgirl.

This is great. I llose and then it comes back, but I am trying. It has gone down some, but I want to see faster results.

I am happy for you.

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worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/25/2010 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
i went today but didnt have time to get weighed but i know i according to my scale i am down from 212 to 204 and will know monday how many inches i have lost off my body. todays workout was new and is a challenge and my muscles are twitching but i still enjoy it.
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/28/2010 11:05 AM (GMT -7)   
so i went to the gym and got weighed in here are my results
chest i started out at 43 and i am now 41
right arm i was 13.5 and i stayed the same
waist i was a 43 and now i am 42
abdomen i was 50.5 and now i am at 42
hips i was at a 51 and now i am at 50
right thigh i was at 28 and now i am at 24
it says for weight i was at 212 and now down to 208 but i had eaten breakfast before going and it wasnt accurate im actually 204
my calf was 18.5 and it stayed the same but she said i had strong calfs
The only person who can make you happy is you. Be your own self and love who you are because each and every one of you are wonderful for who you are
 
"No one really dies because they have loved. Because they love they stay in the hearts of the people they have touched so in that their memory lives on." Ghost whisperer-i know corny but this touched me deep down and i see so much truth in it.
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