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   Posted 9/10/2010 3:59 PM (GMT -7)   
 

Post Edited (This-is-me) : 9/26/2010 3:53:25 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 9/10/2010 5:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi this is me,

It sounds like you are living a normal teenage life. I am sorry that your parents drink. If it gets bad, report it to the police or DSS. That is if you feel like your life is in any danger. If you have two good friends, you are lucky. In life you will find that there are always going to be changes, you need to get use to that. It is the only thing in life that doesn't change.

You will meet a boy one day too. When the time is right. So don't worry about that. It will happen soon enough.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 9/10/2010 11:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi This is me,

I have to agree with getting by, I'm 15 and when i was 13 i felt the same way.. my dad drinks alot, luckily i have a really good relationship with my mum.. but my dad is always yelling at me and is stubborn and wont listen and just doesn't understand, i also fight with my brother constantly who is 17 now.. sometimes life is just that way, but there are things that can help, maybe if your family were willing to go along you could try family counsilling or some type of support just for ways to build up relationships and get things across to them so they know you are serious about this and not happy.

As for friends, i think you should consider yourself lucky to have two close friends!! I used to just have 2 or 3 really close friends that i would hang out with and really only stuck to them because i was also very shy and quiet if i didn't know someone, i felt lonely and like i didn't have friends only because everyone else had big groups.. in year 9 i came out of that shell and i am now in a group of about 40 girls.. sure i love it but it can get so *****y and you just don't have the same relationships with the close friends and its harder to get close to people.. I have to say i actually prefer have a small group of close friends. but if you really want more friends you could try things like joining a sports club which can also just make you feel happier doing exercice, or if your into arty things you could find out about some art courses and go along and meet people there.. drama courses, even tutoring groups and study groups i'm sure would be a good place to meet people!!

As for boys, as much as it seems like its the best thing in the world, and sure it is for some!! But when you get a boyfriend, its hard work, boys don't always initiate contact and its so much to think about and you have to be careful around other boys that they dont get jealous and its time you need for study etc!! One day the right boy will come along and you will know it, and things will work out.. :)

Everyone at healing well is here to support you and do what we can to help you out.

Hugs,
Buttercup.
15 years old,
Chronic stomach pain with no diagnosis yet and lots of other things.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

worriedgirl
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   Posted 9/11/2010 7:56 AM (GMT -7)   
hi and welcome to healingwell. my mom too was an alcoholic and a drug addict for most of my life. it was hard and i felt alone. i did have friends but no one understood what i went through because i was ashamed of people finding out. even my best friends didnt know my mom had addictions. you should try alnon i believe it. a support group for kids with parents of alcoholics. nothing you can do will make your parents stop, they have to want to stop on their own and sometimes that never happens. my mom eventually quit but by then it was to late for her. our relationship was strained at its best and it never really healed but i did love her and stood by her side. the best thing you can do is to live life for you and do what is right for you and get a counselor. they will help. i am here if you need someone to talk to as i know what it is like. no one understands, unless they themselves are living it, what it is like to be children of alcoholics. we blame ourselves, we are lonely, the isolation, the pain we have and the self esteem issues because of it. you must realize this is not your fault, dont be ashamed to talk to your friends you need them and dont isolate your self. strive to be better.

getting by
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   Posted 9/11/2010 8:08 AM (GMT -7)   
I feel like I didn't touch on the alcoholic parents enough. My mother was an alcoholic too. And back in those days they put you into a mental institution. Which she spent many years. She lost her first three kids, had me and then my little sister, who I never got to know until I was in my thirties, because she was born in the institution. I was lucky, my grandparents adopted me, but then my mother came back into my life which was horrible. She was bipolar, and had prescription drug addiction problems. It was really hard. I didn't get help, I turned to drugs instead which I did for many years. But eventually got into counseling and it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. So if there is a school counselor you can talk to, please do, because it really helps.

I hope that things get better for you soon.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 9/11/2010 3:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow,

I hope that you are okay. It is so hard when they get angry and take it out on you. Please don't hesitate to get the police involved if she becomes violent with you. You don't deserve to have to live like this. I wish she would quit. And I know how frightening it can be. Please let us know that you are okay.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 9/12/2010 5:39 AM (GMT -7)   
I lived with an abusive man for awhile years ago. It was the same way, always acted like nothing happened. We never talked it out in the mornings. And I would always have black eyes. His appology was "I am sorry you made me do this to you". That was a long time ago thank God. I can't believe that I lived through it. But I did. Don't let this go on. I there is any way that you can talk to somebody it would help you. Like a social worker. You don't deserve this.

Know that we care.

Hugs, Karen
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