When is it time to hospitalize yourself?

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neverbetter
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   Posted 9/11/2010 9:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Before I left for college my pdoc and I discussed the possibility of me having to get myself into a hospital to deal with this horrible depression.  I didn't think much about it since I was doing a little bit better then, but now all of the feelings are coming back.. Doubled..
 
I couldn't get out of bed today.  I'm just exhausted for no reason, and everything is spiraling out of control again.  Except this time, I don't have parents to grab me and make me go to the doctor, and I just can't do that by myself without some sort of guilt for wasting my parents money...
 
I mean, obviously I have to stick it out this first semester, since I'm not the one paying for my college.. I'm just scared to tell my parents that I need to get into some type of recovery program, and maybe even need to take a semester off.. Plus I know that if I drop out now, I'll never want to come back..
 
What should I do? I've had this thing long enough to know that it isn't going to go away, but even with the meds everything is mounting up again.  Is it even worth having my parents being fuming angry with me? And do I really need such a drastic measure taken toward my recovery?

THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 9/12/2010 1:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I FEEL AN ADMISSION TO HOSPITAL SHOULD BE SOMETHING YOU AND YOUR
DOC DO WHEN THE NEED ARISES. IN TERMS OF RECOVERY BASED TREATMENTS I WOULD
BE LOOKING AT YOUR LOCAL MENTAL HEALTH TEAM FOR GUIDANCE AND REFERAL. MAY I SUGGEST LOOKING AT A OUTPATIENT PSYCHO-SOCIAL RE3HABILITATION PROGRAM. I WISH YOU WELL. IN TERMS OF STUDY, MAYBE SOME SUPPORT CAN BE GRANTED BY YOUR DISABILITY LIAISON OFFICER FROM YOUR UNI. MAYBE A PLAN CAN BE DRAWN UP BY YOU, YOUR DOC AND UNI FOR SUCH SITUATIONS WERE YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF REQUIRING ASSISTANCE. I DID, MANY YRS AGO. EXTRA TIME FOR PAPERS, QUIET ROOMS FOR EXAMS AND EXTRA TUTORIAL/MENTOROSHIP. GOOD LUCK. JAMIE.
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getting by
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   Posted 9/12/2010 5:34 AM (GMT -7)   
That was such good advice that Jamie gave you. May I add though that when it comes to your health, don't feel guilty. Your health is most important right now. Please seek help.

Hugs, Karen
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Tirzah
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   Posted 9/12/2010 1:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Jamie.

I would add that if your psychiatrist is recommending hospitalization right away, US schools almost always have a provision for students to continue their classes the following semester at no additional charge.

You can talk to your registration office & ask what options there are if you need to leave school for an extended period of time due to medical necessity. They can advise you about your options. If it is for a short time, often they will give you alternate assignments to work on either in the hospital/at home, or at the end of the semester or they will let you pick up the class the next semester where you leave off this semester -- assuming the course is offered next semester. Or if it's not a prerequisite course, and is only offered during the Fall term they might let you continue the course next fall.

The main thing is that hospitalization is always the final resort. If your psych is recommending hospitalization it would suggest that either you've tried meds, counseling, etc. and they haven't worked yet -- or that s/he feels you can't wait that long because your condition is too serious. In either situation, your live is WAY more important than whatever money might be lost from missing classes. If your parents are struggling to understand that, you can authorize your psych to explain the seriousness of the situation & the need for intensive treatment. My dad has never been supportive or understanding of my depression, but after talking with the psych he did agree that I needed the recommended treatment.

But is that's what the doc is recommending, I would say sooner is better than later. If you're not going to class & don't have a medical reason excusing you from them on file, you will fail. That will go on your record & you might not even be welcome back at school. If instead you get either an incomplete (meaning you can make up the work) or a withdrawn passing (meaning you would have to pay to retake the class), you will still have a good future ahead of you. It's just a minor detour.

I hope that helps. I know what it's like to feel so drained & not interested in anything but feeling guilty and hopeless and everything all at once. It all seems like too much, but if you make good decisions now you will be able to get through this. Hang in there!

peace,
frances

myjoy
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   Posted 9/13/2010 3:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Part of depression is guilt. Please ignore those thoughts and get some help. Your parents have insurance for a reason. You wouldn't feel guilty for having diabetes, right? So call your psychiatrist and get yourself admitted to the hospital. I have done this many times. Depression doesn't just go away on it's own - it's a real condition. Take care of yourself.
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