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Countess Charlotte
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Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 6
   Posted 3/2/2005 10:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everybody,
 
I'm new to these boards, and a little nervous, to be perfectly honest.  I sought the aid of a counselor last year, and got nowhere.  I was just too uncomfortable and wasn't sure that I could completely trust him.  Trust issues are big for me.  Anyway, I am hoping that the barrier that is the internet will help, and  I can find some advice, support and maybe make a new friend or two here.
 
I'm a senior in college getting ready to graduate.  Scared, but excited at the same time.  I should be happy and focused, but I can't find the energy to do either.  Instead, I'm stuck dwelling on all the negative things that are going on, and I'm completely discounting the good things.  Even in the most perfect of situations I find myself slipping into a really depressive place.  Like a catatonic state of sorts.  I don't know how to avoid or deal with these.  The past is another difficult thing for me as well.  I've coped with eating disorders since high school, and my fiance just left me because of it.  Apparently for those closest to me, I am too difficult to handle.  Too high maintenance.
 
Does anyone have any good advice for me?  Anything I can do or try.  I feel like I'm at my wits end on so many fronts.  The good days don't seem to balance out the bad ones anymore.  I know that I need to make some changes in my life, I just don't know where to start or even how.  I would love any advice or even an understanding story to let me know I'm not the only one.  Thanks for listening to me rant.

CheerDad
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Date Joined Apr 2004
Total Posts : 2284
   Posted 3/3/2005 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcom. Coming to this site and sharing what is inside is a major first step. I know that I keep a journal and write my feelings down in it when I don't feel like I can share with others. I keep a seperate journal that will be handed down for my posterity. I periodically destroy the pages of the feelings journal. The important part of it is to get the things on the inside out in the open. I am just learning how to trust myself and really let my feelings out in this journal. Give it a try and let me know how it goes.

Know that you can always come here and share. I found it to be very safe to let others know what is going on and there is a spirit of caring I have found here like nowhere else. Good luck in school.
 

We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 
Randy


Sadgirl2
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Date Joined Dec 2004
Total Posts : 110
   Posted 3/3/2005 9:38 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Randy. Opening up here in this type of environment would be a good first step for you to make. I know it helped me. Then you will be able to sort out your next step. Hope to hear more from you soon.
 
Welcome to the site ! yeah
 
Terri
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sherriedav
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Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 15
   Posted 3/4/2005 2:51 PM (GMT -7)   
I have just joined this sight also so i cant tell you how it will help but i can tell you that finding the right councelor is hard. im on my 3rd one but this one is it. i didnt feel comfortable with the other 2 and with this one i dont shut up. an hour goes by in a flash and he really listens. I dont feel crazy when i talk to him and he makes me see things about myself i didnt know was there. I cry the whole time but even that is good because i have no safe place to let my emotions out but there. I also agree with cheerdad. when i am down and dont have someone to talk to i email myself but dont send it. lol. it really help to put your feelings on paper. i have to go now but remember if you need to talk someone here will listen.-sherrie
Sherrie


Akram
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Date Joined Feb 2005
Total Posts : 616
   Posted 3/5/2005 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Countess Charlotte Welcome !!

many of us around here feel the same as you. This is a very important part of your life. moving from studying to building your life. i'm sorry about your fiance, this must be hard for you. but you must go on and believe in yourself and do what you can to overcome this. he's part of your history now, and you should think about the future.

Regarding eating disorders, offcourse they can lead to deppresion and mood swings. i don't want to play your dietitian or anything, if you need a good diet check out DR. Atkin's diet which controls carbohydrate intake, and that one works well on controling your crave for sugary, high-carbo foods , but unfourtinantly this doesn't work with most anti-depresants.

hope this helps...
                                                     To be or not to Be


Countess Charlotte
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Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 6
   Posted 3/6/2005 12:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank-you for all your kind words.  I certainly appreciate the warm welcome.  And the advice.  I've tried the whole journal thing before, but I've always ended up abandoning it because I feel embarrassed (even though no one reads it!) or because I'm afraid to read what I wrote.  Like it makes reality actually reality.  But, perhaps that's the best thing.  To face that.  Maybe it will help.  What have I got to lose?
 
In promising news, I have two major job interviews set up later this month.  Scary.  Exciting.  Keeping everything crossed!  I always love looking forward to things.

sherriedav
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Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 15
   Posted 3/7/2005 7:31 AM (GMT -7)   
good luck with your interviews. Keep tring different things to help youself and you will run acrossed you thing to help with this @!@#!$%^%$^%^$&%#%$#% depression. It is so frustrating to deal with . Exercise,keep people around you, and smile it helps. I'm crossing my fingers for you. :)-
Sherrie

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