IMO You will be doing yourself AND your boyfriend much good by setting clear boundaries. You both need to share clear expectations and a plan to work toward specific goals. If you allow this relationship to wander down the path of indifference, it will not bloom. Sometimes you have to be willing to risk all to have a chance at something good. Whether or not he is depressed, he needs to understand your needs. Only you can decide where these boundaries will be set . . . but generally someone like him is just WAITING for someone to say ENOUGH!
Remember, it's just my opinion . . . but you don't sound too happy the way things are right now. You and he have much to gain by you speaking up and you seem to have little to lose.
In His Grip,
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