I thought I could use some advice!
For a while now, the last month, my 4 year relationship with my boyfriend has become extremely painful. My boyfriend has a major depression problem, he doesn’t work and spends almost all of his time on the computer or sleeping. He doesn’t acknowledge me when I’m around (in the same room), sometimes he doesn’t even talk to me for days. He never tries to be intimate, he just doesn’t do anything to keep the relationship going. When I try to talk to him about it, he says he doesn’t want to hear it and doesn’t cooperate with me and just gets mad and threatens me if I don’t stop trying to talk to him. The one thing that I can get out of him, is that he does love me and wants/needs to stay together.
He’s also a ****ography addict. I think it adds to his depression because he says that he can’t help himself. Its a big crushing bolder on our relationship because I’m utterly against ****. I can’t understand why he can’t stop because its hurting me and our relationship. I’ve been trying to help him stop for a long time, and it doesn’t seem to be getting any better.
I’ve had generalized anxiety disorder for years, and all this worrying and pain is unbearable. He won’t see a therapist with me and he wont take anti-depressants, but he still wants this relationship which he doesn’t acknowledge. It hurts so much, but I can’t leave him because I love him and I can’t abandon him when he needs help.
What can I do????
Post Edited (CheerDad) : 4/16/2005 2:13:29 PM (GMT-6)