Ok a "tid bit" of stress for hanging out with the ex.

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givinguponit24
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   Posted 4/15/2012 8:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Look I know how this is the depression um forum but just a little problem here.
I am a 22 almost 23 year old by tommorrow. So I am a young man that lives at home with his parents. I am on SSI and don't get
enough money as I'd dream of getting; wishing that I I could turn $465/ a mo. to $6,000/ a mo. social security really is just a joke for me. I mean how do you live on your own with that much. In NYC its like 2, 000-10,000 dollars a mo. and thats not even including appliances and water and electric bills. It just really really isn't enough. Its like a microscopic little dash of amount of what I want. Anyways I have Bipolar and am on meds for it. They help so much. Esp. the Zoloft.
Ok the whole point of this is I want some feedback on if I should hangout with my ex girlfriend.

Because she's been down, and because she is not feeling well she keeps putting forward and because of that she keeps procrastinating I hate to say it but thats what it is and is very hesitant on when to hang out. I feel even though she was the best girl that a man could ask for, that she would be bringing me down again. We all want to hangout with people that make us feel better. All we want to do in life is go have fun like that new Britney Spears song "I wanna Go" also speking of which that is a very good way to feel better and it always seems to work. Going to clubs and dancing without drinking but just straight up having fun living it up just like old times back in 2008 when I went on cruises to the Bahamas and Grand Cayman. I want her to feel better. I want her to know that I care about her. When times are tough and rough I am just a phone call away from her. It is necessary that I do what I can to provide for her. To provide good feelings, needs and wants and emphasizing the true meaning of friendly love without falling into the love pit again.

I want her to be like other people and how they feel good. I don't want her to change her personality but I want her to be in good moods. I was trying to find out what was the cause of my little tiny anxiety feeling thats on a scale of 1-10 10 being the worst and 1 being the best Im a 0.5 which is pretty darn good I'd say. :) It's not that bad. the meds that I'm on are the best in the world and because of that expensive means good working you know it :) Oh yeah. It's just a little bit then it goes away. I focus my attention on something else then get lost in the moment :) It's the best feeling ever. :)
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   Posted 4/15/2012 10:08 PM (GMT -6)   
You need to do what is best for you. If she causes you anxiety most of the time, brings you down most of the time, even if it is usually just a small amount, that probably is not what you need.

As far as your social security issues go what type of benefits are you receiving. If I remember correctly Supplemental Income benefits are based on how much you have paid into the system, how many years you paid in etc. Disability benefits on the other hand are pretty much flat pay regardless of amount of time in the system. The only adjustments I know of on the disability are for qualifying dependents.

Anyway the entire point is that you should check into the exact nature of your benefits and see if applying for another type that you might qualify for would increase your income.

In any case social security benefits were never designed for anyone to live high on the hog. It was meant to provide some income to those who are retired or to those who are unable to work.

BTW: you could live in your own apartment if you really wanted to even only getting $450 a month. It would be in some sort of project building where the rent is income based. These apartments are reserved for low income and the disabled and usually include basic utilities (power, heat, water and trash). Check with your local HUD office or welfare office to find out the details for your area. Also if you qualify for an apartment you should most likely also qualify for food assistance.
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givinguponit24
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   Posted 4/16/2012 2:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Yeah but I wanna live like the people I see on TV in high priced condo's and real nice clothes and everything else.
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   Posted 4/16/2012 6:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi GUOI,

Because your goals are materialistic I would strongly suggest you stay living with your parents as long as possible. The kind of financial devastation people with BP1 can get in is extensive! Bipolar is a very serious illness and needs to be treated with the utmost respect. If you don't want BP to destroy your life you have to work with the reality of things not the way you would prefer them to be, and go about setting realistic expectations within your health limitations.

It is really important not to drink or use drugs with BP - they progress the illness exponentially. It's important to eat well and exercise regularly.

I feel exceptionally fortunate for living in a country that has income support for disabled people. Disabled people in less fortunate countries are forced into terrible acts in order to get a lot less money than the disability pension. We can all too easily forget just how lucky we are, especially when the illness is biting hard!

Zoloft is an antidepressant and is not usually used to treat bipolar - as like all antidepressants, it has the potential to create mania.
Tetrahydrobiopterin is an enzyme cofactor. I've never heard it used before. I'll ask my pdoc on Thurs... I'm always curious to learn more about this stuff as I also have enzyme probs.
Oxcarbazepine is a mood stabiliser
Risperidone is an antipsychotic with mood stabilising properties
Amlodipine is a blood pressure medication
Lamotrigine is a mood stabiliser with anti depressant properties
Lisinopril treats hypertension
Lorazepam is a sedative

People on TV aren't real... and the people with all that in real life often have crazy, unhappy lives. It would be frustrating having champagne tastes on a beer budget. Disability just doesn't allow for wealth. You will have to plan to treat yourself at times so you don't go on huge spending binges of stuff you just can't afford. Buying things you can't afford will onlymake you more miserable than not having the "stuff" at all, in the first place.

I've gone through my 20's and I've gone through my 30's and I'm now at my 40's and life is a lot easier when we start to mellow with age, we accept the things we can't change and become more circumspect. Life still hurts when we get older but priority shifts to those things that bring genuine pleasure - our health, our kids, our pets, our simple hobbies, walks in nature.

Sounds boring but we get a different outlook when we get older.... Yeah, I'm sad my life didn't go the way I wanted it because of bipolar. I accept some challenges in life are just too big to overcome. We both have a very serious incurable illness that requires constant managing with medication, therapy and lifestyle factors for the rest of our lives. It doesn't go away - and only by managing it well, can we make, living with it, bearable.

You will find you own unique path through it GUIO :)

Good luck with it all mate,

Jade

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   Posted 4/17/2012 6:12 AM (GMT -6)   
From what I understand, being on ss you can still earn 800.00 a month. That is to the additional of what you get. That still isn't much. But face facts. If you can't work, you can't live the way you are wanting to. This high end living is just going to be a dream. People like that are usually born into it. Not fair, I know....

Try to keep your wants simple. Learn to appreciate the little things in life. You will be much happier.

Take care, and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 4/18/2012 1:03 AM (GMT -6)   
You have the good fortune to have a source of income where others are starving. You're young and still have a lifetime of lessons to live and learn. You need to first take care of yourself before you take on helping others. I hope that you take the advice Jim and Karen have given you seriously. You need to set some obtainable goals and priorities. For example, is it more important to live independently from your parents or to own flashy jewelry and expensive clothes? Are you saving any of your money? Are you paying rent or pitching in for the food you eat at home? How are your parents doing? Will they be able to enjoy retirement or are they going to be among the majority who struggle all their lives?

Please tell us what your goals are? As for me, I was injured at work and lost my job. I'm disabled due to my work injury, but SSD denied my application. While I fight both SSD and workers comp. I have no income. I had to hire two lawyers to help me fight for something I have been paying for my entire life. When I need it most it is not there for me. Then again, nothing worth having is easily won!

I hope you succeed in whatever you wish to accomplish in life. Best of luck,

Charles

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   Posted 4/21/2012 7:45 PM (GMT -6)   
1. Ok I hear what everybody is saying but, I'm fine my parents are fine.
Dad has a BMW and they are more than ready for retirement.

2. I plan to do Physical Therapy. they have jobs all around. With God anything is possible. I know I spend a lot on food and I have big dreams but with God anything is possible. I even heard one man say with God he can cure Bipolar and all illness and be off of all meds if you just believe.

3. I love excercise. I don't know why but when I get around my ex I get freaked out. I know she means well but her depression scares me. So I don't hangout with her that often. Thats really what this is all about though.
I take care of myself and its all good I excercise and I feel better. Bi-polar is uncurable but can be dealt with if you do it correctly.
I plan

4. Commercials need to stop advertising autism and talk more about mental illness because I feel in my opinion it is more important.

5. In conclusion that is all
Thank you and Goodnight.
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   Posted 4/21/2012 8:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi GUOI,

What is happening with your care? Are you under a good psychiatrist? Do you feel the drugs they are prescribing are working? Do you feel comfortable enough to share with them any persisting symptoms or side-effects you are having? Do you talk to you pdoc with the things you talk about here?

The reasons for all the questions is that I get the sense you feel lost and everything seems confusing. My pdoc is great at explaining things to me and I can open up and tell her anything. I really hope you have that for you too. My pdoc helps make me being mentally ill managable. She is brilliant.

Jade

givinguponit24
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   Posted 4/21/2012 10:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Im under a great psychiatrist. But I will be put on other stuff but for now I'm fine.
Why do I seem crazy to you? Im not confused lol. I would appreciate it if you didn't use that sort of tone to me.
Thank you.
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   Posted 4/21/2012 10:50 PM (GMT -6)   
GUOI,

You may not be confused, but I sure am. I can't find where anyone giving you advice has said you are crazy? My mind is a mess right now with all the meds I'm currently taking, so perhaps I'm just not focused enough to see it.

I love this forum and appreciate everyone's advice and support. Sure, sometimes I'm misunderstood or my point gets lost, but I try not to take it personally when someone doesn't see things as I do. I don't consider myself crazy, but the way things have been progressing I doubt I have too far to go.

I offer you my support and I wish you well.

Charles...dazed, confused and just one ER trip shy of crazy! wink

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   Posted 4/22/2012 12:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi GUOI,

You heard a tone that wasn't delivered, at all.

I've got the same illness you've got - so why would I be judging you?

I was sharing what I find beneficial in structuring my life - with the kind of stuggles you are having atm.

That is all.

Jade

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   Posted 4/22/2012 5:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi GUOI,

I don't remember anyone saying your crazy. Though you may be interpreting it that way. We all have our issues, and only try to share what works for us.

Nobody is perfect...

Keep trying...

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 4/22/2012 6:34 AM (GMT -6)   
I don't know if GUOI, meant it that way. I think he may have meant "Why?" "Do I seem crazy to you?"... I'll offer up that possibility and let him speak for himself when he next logs on - I could be wrong - I often am :)

cheers :)
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