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Having2LeftFeet
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   Posted 5/10/2005 8:04 AM (GMT -7)   
tongue  Being depressed is never having to say we're sorry?????? I think not. I believe that if someone hurts your feelings or says something unkind, we have the right to respond in our own way. What's better...keeping your mouth closed or telling a person how you really feel when you know you're gonna get the cold hard truth. The answer? If you don't want your feelings hurt, stay neutral. When I was a kid my mother used to say to me, "If you don't want to answer, just say I-DON-NO. This way you are not lying, nor are you breaking a trust.
 
  
There is no such word as can't. Can't simply means wouln't. Grab as much as life as you can. Future is a long way away for those who don't believe. Don't build a foundation of life on sand. It will take it away with the tide. Love a little more, be unkind a lot less.


CheerDad
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   Posted 5/10/2005 11:23 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree. It is also important to say how I feel rather than you made me feel this way. It is more empowering to say "when you did this, I felt this way". It helps me separate the action from the feeling.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
 
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Countess Charlotte
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   Posted 5/10/2005 9:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I wish I'd read this before I sent the email I just wrote. Inside, I know when things are my fault, and I am surprisingly alright with admitting that publicly. But, whenever I attempt to express my feelings, the words always come out wrong. I didn't want to accuse the person I emailed, but rather just inform them of what was going on in my head. I don't think it came off that way. I asked a friend for some advice and he told me something I'm still trying to figure out: he says it is alright to care, just don't get attached. Is there really a difference? And my question for you (anyone, really!) is how do you really stay neutral in a situation in which you are a side?

CheerDad
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   Posted 5/10/2005 10:33 PM (GMT -7)   
i am not sure you have to stay neutral. As I see it, caring without becoming attached means to support, give advice, and love the person who is having the issues without making them your own.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
Randy
 
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Akram
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   Posted 5/11/2005 5:48 AM (GMT -7)   
when i'm attacked i find it hard to admit my faults ;; but if i am approuched in a nice way i would propably admit it...
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