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damwinston
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   Posted 5/12/2005 1:27 PM (GMT -7)   
but I don't know where to go.
Psychologist, Psychiatrist, Psychopharmacologist??
How do I find out if those people are in this god forsaken town?
How am I going to get there if they are here?
Where do I begin to look?
dammy
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I hope that we can all help each other.


AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 5/12/2005 1:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Dammy,

A good place to start is your doctor. He can give you a referral. Sometimes the doc will prescribe an anti-d after the counselor does an evaluation and sometimes they will start you on it right away. But the doc should be abel to give a referral. Sometimes there is a mental health center for your county. If you don't have insurance to cover the visits that might be the place to start.

Great to hear that you are ready to take that next step!! Keep us posted!

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damwinston
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   Posted 5/12/2005 4:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Rosie -
Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. I live in 2 different towns and can't drive. I called my bf and we talked about it, but that still doesn't leave me with a) a ride
b) an answer who I should go see - too many doctors or types of doctors.
Plus, if he takes me then he has to leave work to do it - guilt!!!!
just having a bad day i guess,
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.


CheerDad
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   Posted 5/12/2005 7:20 PM (GMT -7)   
I take it there ar eno public forms of transportation available, ie buses? If not tough situation. I always find it difficult to ask for help. ME MAN, ME STRONG syndrome. Soemtimes we have to allow ;others to thope because they too need the blessings fo being able to serve someone in need. Good luck!
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
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   Posted 5/13/2005 7:17 AM (GMT -7)   
smurf  Dammy,
What exactly is your main focus. You can't chose a Psych until you key into you main issue. Have you s[pken to your PCP? If not, contaact your insurance co if you have one. If you don't and can't afford one, the state has plenty of facilities that can help. Don't forget about your dog!
 
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damwinston
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   Posted 5/13/2005 8:22 AM (GMT -7)   
My main focus is that I am miserable.
Part of it because I am in this town with no public transportation.
PCP is 2 hours away and I can't get there.
Feeling better today though - still mad at the dog!!!
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.


CheerDad
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   Posted 5/13/2005 9:01 AM (GMT -7)   
You are in a difficult situation wihtout asking for help. I know that my PCP is the one that started me on my anti-d meds and then with the help of therapy, and it took 3 therapists before I found one that I feel is helping me, have been able to start peeling the layers off to find the real me. The anti-d meds helped remove the edge and deal with the anger in a healthy way. Don't know what else to say. Please keep us posted.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
 
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AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 5/13/2005 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Dammy,

Please don't be afraid or feel guilty for asking your friends to help you. CheerDad (Randy) had a great thought . . . people really do want to help and it does bless them when they are able to be part of the solution.

I wonder if any of the therapist might even agree to do some telephone counseling. Never heard of it, but you'll never know if you don't ask.

Just thinking about you and am glad that today is a bit better.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie
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damwinston
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   Posted 5/13/2005 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Rosie -
I am very wary of asking people for help because I lost at least one (possibly two) friends because, as they stated "I am just to depressed."
It is kind of funny because I helped both these people through drug problems but I guess it doesn't go both ways. It still hurts though.
One is getting married next weekend and I was disinvited.
It is hard to make friends and even harder to lose people that I thought were my friends.
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.


AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 5/13/2005 1:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Dammy,

Judy gave you some very good information and a very kind offer to help.

I know what you mean about fair weather friends. It is really dissapointing, but it certainly weeds out the users. It all comes down to how bad you want the help. If you really want help, you may need to make many phone calls and do some planning, but there is always a way.

I don't want to push this any further . . . just want to be sure you know that you do have options even when it appears that you don't.

We will be here for you whether you decide to find help or not. Please know that we care about you.

I hope you will consider Judy's offer to help.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie
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damwinston
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   Posted 5/19/2005 5:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you. I am actually feeling much better now (although that may change). I will be making an appointment with my PCP the next time that I am home.
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.


AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 5/19/2005 4:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Sounds good Dammy, keep us posted!!
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Dognut
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   Posted 5/20/2005 8:25 PM (GMT -7)   

Dammy -

here's one of those 'weird thoughts' for you - kinda -

did'ja ever wonder WHY it seems to be so difficult for those of us who NEED help - to GET help?  It's like they design the system with obstacles to prevent people from actually getting the 'help' they're supposed to be providing!  mad

If someone has a problem - mental, physical, whatever - they generally have other obstacles to overcome along with the main problem - it might be money, transportation, lack of energy, lack of insurance,  no telephone, all kinds of things. By the time someone realizes and accepts that they need help - any one of those obstacles could be overwhelming - if you have more than one of those problems, then the path to help becomes insurmountable.

Trying to get help for Depression, can be very DEPRESSING!

Why don't these 'help' agencies, doctors, etc realize that and make it easier to reach them? eyes Why don't THEY 'reach out' to those of us that need the help the most?

I feel the most despair and lonliness when I have to figure out this kind of difficulty alone. I am sure that there are lots and lots of people who never get the help they need, because it's just too hard to get there!

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I'm usually pretty good at brainstorming - there's always a 'storm' brewing in MY brain!

You say you are in a small town in Texas and don't have anyone to call on for help.

I live in IL - but still in a small town with no public transportation, either, and i would be hesitant to call n friends, too.  Most of them work and wouldn't be able to take time for MY appointments, anyway. 

It's not always convienient, but there are still ways to get around if needed.

There may not be taxi's on street corners in your town - but SOMEBODY will run a taxi or limo service - usually their business is running people to and from the nearest city airport.  But they will usually run local trips too. It might be expensive - but it is also tax deductable ( medical expenses - transportation) and is probably in your phone book.

Check with the nursing/retirement homes - those who have patients who are still able to walk - someone has to get them to their DR's, Dentists, hairdressers, etc.  often it's a subsidised specialty taxi or bus service - around here it's called 'Dial-a-Ride'.  they don't run regular 'routes' like a city bus, but they will pick you up at your home and take you (and others along the way) to public places like the mall, grocery store, doctors, etc.  here, they have a few local small buses that drive people within town - if you have to go to another town for your appt - they take you to city hall.  From there, you can catch another Dial-a-ride that drives back and forth between our town and the next every hour - which drops you at their town hall/ police station.  Where you can call another dial-a-ride that runs in that local town. It means 3 buses and lots of time to get where you need to go - but it's cheap ( like $3 in town, $6 out of town)

Check with the CHURCH - they may know of someone who drives people places.  My mom has Glaucoma, and has to go to an eye DR in the city once a month. (Mom drives here in our small town where she knows the road and there light traffic - but Mom in Chicago Traffic? nono God Forbid!!!!) These appts are never convenient times.  Usually, I drive her - but if I am working, then there is a lady at our church who drives the elderly and those who don't drive to appointments for gas $ and a small fee.  My neighbor across the street never learned to drive - and she uses this woman, too - whenever she can't get her husband or one of her sons to drive her.  The Church lady who drives, is about 65, a retired widow, and this is a way for her to earn a little extra 'untaxed' money, and often, visit with her friends from church!

Churches are a good resource for most public services, doctors, information of any kind

For Psychitrists/ doctors that are local - check with the local school - yes, the GRADE / HIGH SCHOOL.  Every school system has 'special needs' kids that are usually identified and and tested in school for behavioral and emotional problems.    usually the Dr's that work with the schools are those who take the most insurance packages and have the most locations and flexible hours - to serve the needs of the community.  Ask to talk to the school nurse, explain that you are new in town, and ask for a refferral.

The Psychatrist that has treated my son's ADHD since 2nd grade has an office next door to the high school.  I no longer take him to appointments - we schedule his appointment during study hall, and he gets a pass and walks over to her office by himself!  If she needs to talk to me - she calls me at home or on my cell phone! Isn't that easy?

I don't know if these will work in your area - but they are worth a shot.  In any case, the sooner you find some help, the sooner you will start feeling better.

Hope this helps, and if not - we're always here to 'listen'!

laura


damwinston
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   Posted 5/20/2005 10:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the ideas Dognut.
I will definitely take them into consideration.
dammy
Thanks for the help.
I hope that we can all help each other.

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