Depression and Appearance

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JB1
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   Posted 10/17/2012 8:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Do you think that there is a correlation between depression and appearance? I was reading an article which claims that the way a person dress and "carry oneself" is a direct reflection of how that person feels. I thought this was an interesting claim. I know when I'm in a depressive state I tend to let myself go. I don't wear makeup, sporty clothes, and tend to gain weight through emotional eating. I really don't care how I look. A relative once told me that if I take pride in my appearance that it would approve my mental state. I was wondering what people thoughts on this were.

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   Posted 10/17/2012 9:41 PM (GMT -6)   
I think that there is a connection. When I am depressed, I don't care about my appearance either. I don't even want to shower. Or get out of bed and get dressed. I think that is one of the first things that go for me when I am getting depressed.

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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 10/18/2012 11:34 AM (GMT -6)   
JB

There may be a connection to a certain point, and then it become a mask in my opinion.

There are days I make myself get up take a shower, put on jeans instead of sweats and I make sure I do something with my hair. But I don't wear make up, rarely did.

If I go out for dinner, job interview etc, blush mascara that's it. But I don't feel any different than that day. There is the mask. fake it til you make it.

Recovery Inc. has a saying, "Move the muscles and the brain will follow" I believe this is true to a point.

Getting up everyday and showered, dressed properly and being well groomed, does do something for our self image and dignity. Beyond, that I guess it is a person to person experience what you would get out of any further action.

I just know it makes me feel more human.

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JB1
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   Posted 10/18/2012 12:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for your views. Im looking for anything that can help with my depression even if it means puttinf more effort into my appearance. What a draining illness depression is! Depression can make even the simpliest things seem hard!
"Your outlook on life is a direct reflection on how much you like yourself"-Lululemon Manifesto

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   Posted 10/18/2012 1:19 PM (GMT -6)   
That is for sure...

Take care and I hope that you are feeling better.

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pocketfull
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   Posted 10/18/2012 2:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I am cringing as I share this, but I dont do a thing unless I HAVE to go some place. I just cant do it, or at least I feel that way. I go for weeks without shower or hair wash. I am disgusting to myself. I wear one of 2 house dresses, perfect for a 61 year old with that never leave home phobia. I was supposed to go see my pain management doctor on wednesday, I called and canceled for the third time. I think that every day I will get up and do something with myself besides watch tv or on my lap top. I dont tho. I just dont care. Im just simply not the person I was 5 years ago, and especially the last 2 years. More pain, knowing it will never go away, causes me to just not care. I am always behind on everything. I dont have the energy to write more, no need tho, you get the idea Im sure...
I am 61 years young. I have neuropathy in both feet and hands. I have spinal stenosis and arthritis in my back. I am bipolar and with panic attacks. I cannot walk. I choose to stay home all the time. I love living in the country. Its very peaceful.

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   Posted 10/18/2012 2:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there,

you really need to try to make that doctor's appointment. I know it is hard, but it will help you to feel better. Try doing little things. A little at a time. Make a small list of the things that you would like to accomplish for the day. Scratch them off as you get them done. Don't give up. We are here for you...

Hugs, Karen
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pocketfull
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   Posted 10/18/2012 2:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Karen. I love this forum. Its not that I have no one, because I do. I am loved. That is one thing that makes me feel so much pressure. I always have someone, Mother, sister, son, and occasionally my husband who tell me they love me. I try to just be left alone. I know that is depression. I know what I should do. My family makes it hard to escape, and bless their hearts for so much caring. I realize tho that none of them have ever felt this illness, and I pray they never do. For some reason this is always a bad time of year. I am greatly affected by light. I am a true believer that the weather has a great deal to do with our moods and depression. The sun is out, I might take my wheelchair for a walk, and sit in it if I have to....hugs...Cathy
I am 61 years young. I have neuropathy in both feet and hands. I have spinal stenosis and arthritis in my back. I am bipolar and with panic attacks. I cannot walk. I choose to stay home all the time. I love living in the country. Its very peaceful.

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   Posted 10/18/2012 4:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Cathy,

I am too effected by the lack of sunshine. I am taking vitamin D3. 5000iu a day. It does help me because I ran out and it was hard.

We are going to my grandson's football game tonight. It is going to be cold and I don't really want to go, but I am going to carry my camera and go anyway. Wish me luck. I might end up having to sit in the truck with the heat on. But I think I will make it. Sometimes I see people I know when I go out to a social function.

Sometimes we can have tons of support and still don't feel good. It is us and our depression. But these are just some bumps in the road, I am sure you will start to feel better soon. Keep posting. We are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen
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BnotAfraid
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   Posted 10/18/2012 7:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Cathy it is hard with the depression and the pain. You are putting yourself in between a rock and a hard place. If you do not move the pain will get worse, then you want to move less.

Somehow, with Gods Grace you have find a way to get in that nice warm shower and let it work its magic on you.

Then get to the pain doctor, sooner or later he will cut your meds. If not for yourself, do it for the family that loves you.

the dampness this time is year is hard I agree, but you have to find the strength, You can do this.

Stay Strong

Trina
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lindsay0891
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   Posted 10/18/2012 9:46 PM (GMT -6)   
I think this can go a couple of different ways. Yes, a person who is depressed might not feel like getting dressed, putting on makeup, etc. but a person who is depressed also might be very self-conscious and try to hide behind makeup and other things. Also, someone who is not depressed might be confident and proud of who they are no matter what they look like.

I personally have let myself go since being chronically ill and depressed, but I fix myself up on the days I feel better.

pocketfull
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   Posted 10/18/2012 10:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you all so much for caring. I have new friends. I have let all my friends drift away. I havent talked to even one old friend in years. I know how all relationships have to work both ways and I have not worked my side. I like it better because I detest talking on the phone. I dont do the meet for lunch thing. I have always been this way tho, with only 2 or 3 friends who I worked with. I dont work any longer so we just drifted apart. I do have social anxiety for sure. My fathers mother was just like me. It was just family only for her........I am going to have a busy weekend this weekend. My Mother has sold her home and we are making a trip to pick up all the things I am getting, along with my son. My family has lived on the same property for over 100 years. My great grandparents gave land to their children so they built houses just next door, on down the street as they married. Now, this sale of Moms house is the last one. Now that is sad. I know that we will have lots of tears before its over. She is moving to Tucson Az. from Atlanta Texas. She will live with my sister, and my other sister lives in Tucson also. I will be here in E. Texas alone except for my son and my husband. I hate flying but I can get over it. .....Im sorry I got off subject a bit. I hope u all have a great weekend with NO PAIN if possible...Hugs Cathy
I am 61 years young. I have neuropathy in both feet and hands. I have spinal stenosis and arthritis in my back. I am bipolar and with panic attacks. I cannot walk. I choose to stay home all the time. I love living in the country. Its very peaceful.

Kharrisma
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   Posted 10/20/2012 9:29 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm with you, JB1; my appearance and "maintenance level" is directly linked to my level of depression. The worse I feel, the worse I look (and smell, probably). When you see little reason to continue breathing, is it any wonder that you can't be bothered to scrub-up all nice and pretty?

Neuropathy10, I'm right there beside ya. Well, except for the hair-wash thing; can't wash whatcha ain't got. But as for the rest, yup. Don't want to be alive; what does clean and fresh matter... or anything else, for that matter?
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